Wife Separated

PM_me-ur-nflpicks · 2017-11-05T10:26:29+00:00

Let her go. Work on yourself and move forward. If you're confident in yourself and your progress she will notice. Start dating. Make yourself a wanted commidity. When you no longer need her you may be ready and in a position to make this a reality.

Triadis3 · 2017-11-05T12:25:42+00:00

1 - You lost massive value in her eyes by "standing up to her" but then "smoothing things over" Then"separating". Then continuing to sniff around.What the fuck are you doing? Where's your boundary? Do you even have a line? Does she know the distinct consequences if she steps over that line ever again? Do you?

2 - You split, yet 6 months in you're still pestering her for sex?!?!? WTF does split mean to you? Because I guarantee split means,"I get to fuck other guys" to her... and she's fucking other guys... have no illusions there. Kids and work??? That's your rationalization? WOW. How does anybody have sex at all with those massive time constraints? Have you even talked to any other women?

3 - "I'm no longer needy" Yes. Yes you are. You are pathetically needy.

4 - Using less words... You're doing STFU wrong. Got your alpha back?!?! STOP.... my sides....nose coffee on the keyboard...NO.

5 - You post history shows all you've done in the past 7 months is play video games.

6 - I hope you're a troll because your life is shitty otherwise, and on top of a truly shitty situation you're too dumb to understand how shitty it is.

7 - It's called "rooting through the garbage". Look it up. Matter of fact, why don't you start reading anything on here, because it's OBVIOUS you haven't.

8 - Four months ago u/DJVendetta showed up here, asking the same questions... you see, they were on "a break" too. Click on his post history, roll back four months and read the often painful posts and rationalizations and plain denial that poor motherfucker went through for months. Months. Guess what...

She got some dick on their 'Break'

Read it all...it's a cautionary tale that will parallel yours... ala ghost of Xmas future.

9 - You've done NO work on yourself, and anything you might have thought you'd done was firmly designed for her. Yet you're so unattractive that your wife had an affair and agreed to separate. What the fuck do you think will be different this time around? Other than the fact that she probably got a taste for Chads hard cock and harder frame... which makes your puny whiny gamer dick and nonexistent frame even smaller in comparison. Einstein said something...something, definition of insanity.

10 - (Fuck... I'm at ten already?) You have a huge amount of work to do on yourself before you even think about any other person. DYEL? Unfuck yourself.

TA_AR · 2017-11-05T10:35:48+00:00

Sounds like you're still living in her frame and only doing this to win her back.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-11-05T15:05:59+00:00

Had emotional affair.

Separated and presumably not living together.

I know she is not cheating.

Bro, you are delusional.

whichwith · 2017-11-05T12:20:49+00:00

Read these

https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/08/rooting-through-garbage/

https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/06/the-medium-is-the-message/

coluorred · 2017-11-05T11:55:20+00:00

Get 50/50 custody and divorce. Separated women are fucking others_ don't deny it. Just take care of your kids and move on already

matrixtospartanatLV · 2017-11-05T18:12:33+00:00

Wow rhugg, it’s been a rough first seven hours for you in MRP.

Did you get the feeling that there was some passion coming from a deep, personal place with these men?

Did you identify any commonalities amongst the comments that indicate there was a common source for their intellectual discourse if not downright preaching?

I want you to realize one thing, every swinging dick here, including mine, wifed up or LTRd their special (blue pill) unicorn, and then got their dick foot-stomped by the gynocracy as manifested in the feminine imperative with 3rd wave feminism.

This whole thing runs DEEP. Really deep. So fucking deep that the matrix of the gynocracy makes the tunnels of Cu Chi look like a bunch of 6 year olds digging in a sandbox.

You are endeavoring to unfuck yourself.

You are going to try to pull your head out of your own ass because you’re tired of your reality being dark and smelling like shit. Please do not then insert your head into HER ass.

Reprogramming your own mind, still more complicated than a computer, will be the toughest thing you have ever done.

If you are not going to commit to an hour a day, minimum, every day, for 500 hours up to 18 months, then you will fail.

You started DEERing your responses, and then figured shit out. Wise man to listen to the 100’s of years of experience to your 7 hours in MRP.

Yes, we have a reputation, given to us by those who came, and failed. We are at the top of the Reddit mountain.

Few make it here, fewer stay.

We don’t care either way.

Only those who WANT to be here, and EMBRACE/INTERNALIZE the praxeology, are worth a shit to begin with.

Following is my start guide for the sidebar.

It doesn’t work.

The sidebar is useless.

Meaningless.

Like a weight in the gym, it’s value is worthless until you PICK IT UP AND PUT IT DOWN A COUPLE OF THOUSAND TIMES.

Have you ever seen a gym with couches and recliners in the weight room?

Ready?

Here we go...

First, watch the movie, The Matrix. I don't give a fuck if you've already seen it 3 times. Watch it right now. 80% of the metaphors here are based on that movie.

Next, as an overview, read this:

https://illimitablemen.com/understanding-the-red-pill/red-pill-constitution/

Before you ever post again anywhere around askMRP or MRP, read this:

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4z84w5/posting_quality_guide_for_rmarriedredpill/

Now, go here; find out which drunk Captain you are and WRITE DOWN the prognosis/reading assignments.

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2vykau/a_guide_for_beginners_to_mrp/

Next, go here, read it word for fucking word, twice, and use it as a pacing metric;

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2lpafb/the_12_step_plan_of_dread_book_excerpt_from_my/

Once a week, go here, and read a new article/book.

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/wiki/index

Every single time you come to an exercise in your reading, a book, or an article, fucking DO IT.

There is no skipping shit allowed.

You have two primary goals;

Develop your body in the gym.

Develop your mind/frame in the sidebar.

I have posted twice in four months.

I don't expect to see you post for another couple of months unless you have a legitimate fucking question about something you've actually read.

You come in here complaining about her ghosting you on twatfuck while you're out of town on business, and a whole bunch of us will tear you a new asshole.

The mantra is:

LIFT

READ

STFU

LIFT: 3-4 days a week, primary lifts. No fucking talking, no fucking around, BECAUSE YOU HAVE READING TO DO.

READ: aforementioned

STFU: you do not talk about fight club. You do not become an asshole fucking retarded autistic moronic Rambo, go off on the wife, lay down the law, set new boundaries, or other bullshit.

It is business as usual. STFU about your changes. Let them and her acknowledgement of them be natural and organic. You will avoid a lot of shit this way.

EVERYTHING I have just written IS IN the sidebar. I just saved you an hour figuring it out.

Now, welcome to MRP.

We look forward to an awesome FR in MRP in 3 months because this shit is so awesome and you are doing it right.

So...

STFU

and...

Get to fucking work.

dawgsen · 2017-11-05T11:25:03+00:00

Agree with previous advices. You worry way too much about her and getting her back. Put your focus on improving yourself everyday. You will increase your smv and will be in a position where she wants you back, but you don’t because she’s not on your level anymore. That’s the ideal position you need to find yourself in. Anything else is beta.

unmasteredman · 2017-11-05T11:52:48+00:00

A similar thing is happening to me. You smell her breath several times a day? I bet she can suck of her new guy in under 2 minutes. She has the time. She probably does things with him you've only imagined her doing with you. You and her are over.

Advice: Gather all evidence of the affair. Get a lawyer NOW. You need a separation agreement. Bet your life she's planned this out and is way ahead of you. Get your ass in the gym. Get your ass on Tinder discretely to help kill oneitis. Start keeping a record of your finances like your life depends on it.

donedreadpirate · 2017-11-05T14:08:17+00:00

You won't know when she cheats. I can second CAD's sentiment. Was with a married woman in her car, husband texting her and we were laughing. She went on a weekend trip with him 2 days later posting all the lovey dovey photos to her Facebook. Don't worry about her cheating, worry about getting your dick wet on your terms.

I almost just accidentally linked you to porno my wife and I made last night.

ReddJive · 2017-11-05T12:10:01+00:00

Why are you rooting through the garbage?

rhugg215 · 2017-11-05T14:04:13+00:00

WOW, holy fucking truth.. I never expected all that but thanks... y'all are so right. I'm going to get my head straight. Start moving on to better me and my happiness and fuck her and her needs or wants. I needed this honest kick in the ass. Thank you to all.

Eaghost3 · 2017-11-05T18:30:57+00:00

Good female friend of mine separated from her husband cause he was cheating on her and immediately started fucking a guy she knew from work. She continued fucking said guy on and off the whole separation period and now this continues as she is divorced. She has a kid and works full time and would fuck the guy in the car every morning bfor work while she lived with her parents.

You better believe if she's separated she's looking for the dick

470_2_700_nm · 2017-11-05T13:16:10+00:00

You should post in askMRP.

Drop the bitch. Lift. Read. You have oneitus, which means you think she is the only one. And the very act of thinking that, makes her repulsed by you.

Go get some options. She'll ether turn around or she won't. And if she doesn't, it won't matter to you.

antariusz · 2017-11-05T14:09:14+00:00

Lol, you obviously haven’t swallowed the red pill. When a woman wants sex. She won’t let children, and especially won’t let work, get in her way. She’s having sex, trust me.

plein_old · 2017-11-05T17:52:22+00:00

"... looking for... best way to get her wanting me and wanting to come back... I'm no longer needy"

You're reminding me of a conversation from the movie Swingers (1996)...

Mike: Okay, so what if I don't want to give up on her?

Rob: You don't call.

Mike: But you said I don't call if I wanted to give up on her.

Rob: Right.

Mike: So I don't call either way?

Rob: Right.

Mike: So what's the difference?

Rob: There is no difference right now. See, Mike, the only difference between giving up and not giving up is if you take her back when she wants to come back. But you can't do anything to make her want to come back. In fact, you can only do stuff to make her not want to come back

screechhater · 2017-11-05T12:13:57+00:00

So you were/are a drunk captain, she goes out on affair limb and in your drunkenness, you try to smooth shit over and then you agree to a separation ? Wake the fuck up....

"still doing some beta things to try and get sex, and feelings from her obviously it didn't work"

It never does and why in the fuck is your nose buried in her ass ?

Apparently you set a hard line and you separate, then you want her back ?

Quit talking so fucking much....And she ain't so fucking special read 15 and 16

YOU MUST STOP LIVING TO FUCK or PLEASE HER. This is about you

edit- added some shit wake the fuck and read all the fucking response from everyone

2017-11-05T15:35:44+00:00

why do you keep trying to get with a woman who wants to fuck and emote to other men?

JudgeDoom69 · 2017-11-05T18:37:22+00:00

It's brilliant, really. Until he improves himself and starts dating, she has her cake and is eating it (and Chad's jizz) too.

It's an insidious female manipulation. The "separated" wife has a free pass for a test drive on the cock carousel, knowing hubby is home pining away for her. She keeps him on the hook by dangling the slight hope for a rare piece of ass in front of him.

Meanwhile he is trapped in the rationalization that she's not fucking around, so he won't date and risk losing what's already lost.

OP you should improve your attractiveness and start dating. Either she will stay gone or she'll come crawling back.

XLR8_4EVER · 2017-11-06T01:03:06+00:00

I agree, you definitely need to unfuck yourself. Basically I too have been within your situation. And to be honest! What ever shit you do! She has already moved on. The more you think about her and try to get some attention. The more you swallow that big ass blue pill. I'm telling you.. that shit hurts. Hurts so much it broke my heart deep down and could never thought I could lift myself up. But holy shit was I wrong. If I were you.. take a deep breath and look at Morpheus right hand and from there you'll see there are plenty of women out-there who could suck your dick and make you feel better. Right than you realize you've taken the right pill.

Floaty_McBoatface · 2017-11-05T14:00:49+00:00

It's over. If she hasn't gone all out to get you back by now it ain't gonna happen. You're just rooting through the trash. Read Rollo:

https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/08/rooting-through-garbage/

straius · 2017-11-05T19:56:17+00:00

I don't know why anyone ever agrees to a separation. You just gave up your ability to influence your wife while giving an implicit green light to strange. Just do the divorce or you stay in your house and you work towards what you want while shedding your own dead weight. One or the other.

Can't believe you let this shit go on for 6 months. Shotgun blast to your foot man. The fact you're still using language that implies you need tricks to control her shows just how much time you've wasted while lurking around all the information you needed to start acting instead of pretending. All you've done is give her motivation and time to fully detach from you.

You haven't gained any alpha qualities yet, you've just sprinkled aspie onto your communication which is just going to accelerate her own separation if it isn't already severed by now.

So you haven't fucked her once in 5 months separation despite attempts made?

Time to sit down and spend a little more time working that one over. Don't post again until you've finished at least 3 books on the sidebar. Until then, you won't even know how to ask the right questions and you're going to get flamed every fucking time for not doing the pre-requisite work you need to begin to recognize your situation.

FireTempered · 2017-11-05T14:45:50+00:00

I do still want her back and I know shes not cheating because she doesn't have time with having to work more and has the kids.

You are delusional here.....

Im just looking for advise on best way to handle her to get her wanting me and wanting to come back. Im no longer needy, or apologizing for anything.

You are needy if you want her back.

Get hold of yourself man. You were going down hill fast, and now faster. u/Triadis3 gave you the right medicine, swallow. Swallow hard.

rhugg215 · 2017-11-05T14:52:18+00:00

Guess I just gotta face it.. I'm moving on in a new lifhht y'all lit

MGTOWManofMystery · 2017-11-05T18:08:59+00:00

Get out of your own head. Sounds like you are in a serious mental rut. Focus on yourself and realize there is a world of women out there that you can taste test! Get to it!

Aechzen · 2017-11-05T21:29:29+00:00

The best way to get her back is to have three or four other women lined up who are better than her... Then you'll stop wanting her.

https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/08/rooting-through-garbage/

88Will88 · 2017-11-06T00:38:01+00:00

Don’t take that dirty whore back. Get into shape and fuck other women. Go and bust a nut in a whore.

Apexbreed · 2017-11-06T01:22:58+00:00

Stop trying to get her back or she will treat you like the beta you are being. Go lift, read, and ignore her unless she is offering you immediate sex. Go fuck someone else because I 100% guarantee you see is fucking someone else. Probably was fucking the guy she was having the "emotional affair" with. Maybe even this separation is just giving her more time to spend with the guy that was cucking you before.

I feel bad for where you are at, but living in a delusion isn't going to help you. Read the sidebar asap. Go to askMRP when you have questions about the material.

cb993 · 2017-11-06T01:59:52+00:00

oh she got time bro lmao

ex_addict_bro · 2017-11-05T15:48:11+00:00

emotional

yea sure

I know shes not cheating because

she's getting her ass plowed every single day

work

there's that one girl that I fucked at her work regularly for a while

kids

kids sleep

Im just looking for advise on best way to handle her to get her wanting me and wanting to come back

you aren't getting her back, that won't happen

any questions?

other_worlds · 2017-11-06T03:11:50+00:00

Im just looking for advise on best way to handle her to get her wanting me and wanting to come back. Im no longer needy

I'm inclined to disagree. You wrote this without any hint of irony.

You'll no longer be needy when you don't want her coming back, and when you don't want her to want you.

This isn't a covert contract, when you are no longer needy, that does not mean she will want you.

You've got lots of work still to do. The objective of your work should be you, not her. Right now, it's still her.

BobbyPeru · 2017-11-06T04:27:36+00:00

If you’re separated then it’s not cheating unless you both agreed to not mess around during the split . If you did.. well that’s just dumb.

But anyway, it’s a good opportunity for you to practice your game and get laid... maybe that’ll kill your oneitis.

Take that extra time and lift , sidebar, Day game, social life, hobbies.... etc

Get out of her frame and have some fun!

Nergaal · 2017-11-05T19:10:19+00:00

emotional affair a year before and I caught it

Lol, and you think she hasn't gotten any dicks in yet?

NolanKnowstheTruth · 2017-11-06T00:41:09+00:00

Lol...."and I know shes not cheating because she doesn't have time with having to work more and has the kids." Firstly, it's not cheating because you're separated. Secondly, all she has to do to cheat, is be available...after the kids go to bed, a babysitter for a couple of hours. Don't be naive man.

weakandsensitive · 2017-11-06T05:57:29+00:00

0 value to reader. Belongs at askMRP.

Title	Wife Separated
Author	rhugg215
Upvotes	15
Comments	104
Date	November 5, 2017 10:13 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/7awtu5/wife_separated/
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