Let That Shit Go

Has anyone ever live trapped raccoons?

I grew up on a farm and one of the things I would do was make sure the barn was free from Raccoons. As a kid it was easy to live trap them and then take care of them however needed to be done. One way to do this is to get a jar. About the size of a raccoon’s paw. Place something shiny down inside. Raccoons love shiny stuff.

Then you place some pegs at an angle so when the raccoon reaches in and grabs the shiny they can’t pull it out. Their fist is now too big for the opening. They won’t let go either, sometimes one did, but for the most part it wouldn’t cross their mind. It was against their nature to do so. This is also called the monkey trap.

This is the same with human behavior. Few can break out of it. Some can’t. This is why men have to wrestle with their ego. Breaking free of that ego will allow you to let go of the shiny and not get caught in the trap. Even if you are right let it go. If you keep speaking you will lose your authority and fail to miss something in the conversation. There is always something to learn even when you know everything.

Women tend to have a harder time with this. Letting go. Even the best of them can follow rabbit holes that go nowhere. Their emotions can overwhelm them which is why they seek the calm and security of an Alpha, only they don’t really know it these days. I don’t see this as a weakness but as an opportunity for me to show my Alpha virtue. It’s those moments I live for. Believe me no matter how independent she may say she is, she will come around and realize that it was all full of shit. Those walls she built up were weak and meaningless. Women seek things and events to give them that calm they seek. It’s the valleys between the emotional highs and lows that give them that calm. That feeling of completeness. They can’t let go. Men? We are that calm. It’s who we are once cultivated correctly. A SIW in the presence of such a beast will realize exactly what it means to have this in her life and she won’t want it to go. As I said she will see everything was bullshit. Something doesn’t always have to be said. You don’t always have to have a fantastic amazing time. Things can just be ok and that’s just fine.

Before you can do that you yourself have to let shit go.

Women do not always go looking for a Chad just because you are failing.

/u/boeyd6 brings this up.

This is a key piece that many men don’t get, and well...frankly a lot RP men don’t quite understand. It’s what causes the boogey man effect. You can see it on nearly all new guy posts….and frankly until you actualize most men do get freaked out about it. Unless you are in a situation that demands it don’t worry about Chad. Odds are he isn’t really there and you created this monster in your mind. Red flags can appear to be red flags but then again, a cigar is just a cigar but they can’t let it go.

Still men that live in this constant fear of the boogey man have failed to understand feminine psychology and how it relates to everything else they are supposed learn. Yet it’s brought up because there is value in punching men in the gut to get them to wake up and realize that their little girl can and will fuck another man. Which is why we say it. Why? This is because men prize sex above all else. Remember women want a relationship. In the simplest terms, it’s AF/BB dynamic BUT it can and often does present as far more complex. There are countless women who won’t cheat. They prize the beta bux. We know the mom jean wearing types. Remember it’s a matter of right time, right place, right set of circumstances, and that’s not all decided by Chad. For every “I fucked a married woman” story there are 3 others that didn’t. A good portion of that has to do with you. A woman, who is with “her Alpha” will not just suddenly cheat and sleep with a guy, just because. She will if that “man” has given her reason to. Like I’ve said…for men life is a hero to zero moment every day. Otherwise every relationship is doomed to fail and Red Pill is bullshit. It isn’t and it isn’t.

The Feminist Imperative is lying to women as well. Telling them they can be one thing and they aren’t that. So is the state of things and as RP men we take advantage of that. Yet everything she does is her seeking an Alpha to enter into a relationship with. It’s just that simple but they can’t let shit go so they seek other things early in life only to realize that….it was all wrong and by then it’s too late.

First and foremost AWALT is a range.. RP is a study in this range of behavior. So when I read men that puke back RP tenants without insight, growth, nor introspection I immediately know they haven’t quite grasped what is going on. They haven’t let go of the shit that brought them here. They can’t read the situation without ego or moralistic intention.

All women exist on the AWALT spectrum and will move along it at various times. Others are firmly entrenched where they are. As bogey points out women don’t seek Chad all the time, oh sure they will admire the local Chad (who may or may not be RP minded but represents an ideal), yet for the most part women will settle because they want a relationship. I have seen relationships that seem to defy Red Pill convention until you accept that even betas can have long term and lasting relationships. Yet it's despite of what they do. Anyone could fill their position. It isn't because of who they are. But I can also tell you those men are in a constant state of seeking joy and relaxation. They can’t let go. They can’t just be. They are no better then the basic drug seeker on the street.

Let go of that shit.

Where all this is going?

Gentlemen, you cannot hope to begin to dissect your situation without study and letting go of the shit you brought with you. I mean far deeper than just reading the latest and greatest reddit post scanning for your favored flared man’s comments. You need to deep dive. Get into the manosphere. Rollo, Illimitable Men, Chateau Heartiste…. just to name a few. Remember all behavior is the same, the circumstances are different. You need to pursue this like life and get out there rack up success and failure. Then when you speak you will do so with authority. That Authentic label that’s been thrown around lately. You can’t even begin to be authentic if you are not speaking with authority from experience.

Red Pill forces you to look at your behavior. To step outside yourself and see things as they are really happening. No judgement. No moral code. You get into that trap where you are watching football 3 days a week for hours, and drinking beer and every time you are rationalizing why you deserve to. That you are the man of the house and god damn it you deserve some time off. Yet you make $10 an hour. The lawn hasn’t been cut, cars need some attention, your wife is busting her ass to keep the house in order while you are sitting there thinking how great it is to be a man and can’t figure out why she won’t fuck you.

The life time beta can’t break out of his behavior. He can’t let go of the shiny and can’t figure out why he is trapped. He doesn’t understand and doesn’t want to. Yet the same can be said of an Alpha. He can get caught in the trap. We can become one trick ponies. Whether your focus is lifting, banging women…all the Red Pill things, you have to continue to develop all the aspects of manhood. Not just because some dude on the Internet says it’s the best way to get women, have a slut, or getting ripped, but because it’s what being a man is all about.

The PUAs of old had this issue. While they were on top of the sexual game (the core of Rule Zero right?) they lost sight of the fact that they were, in the end, seeking validation. They had nothing else left, a few figured out that all this stuff they were learning and doing to get girls was in fact making them interesting people, but that was few and far between. You have to let that shit go. Go full circle to come back again.

I had a roommate in college. He was a PUA before PUA became codified. It’s why I know this shit works and is truth. He wasn’t much to look at but he dressed well and was in unbelievable shape. He was short, but had a very loud personality. Yet like all PUAs and one trick ponies, he was given to being melancholy. If he got a zit. Just one. The bathrobe went on, and he stayed in the apartment for days until it cleared. And quite literally begged us to stay in at night playing board games.

He had failed to do the one thing that we know. He failed to be interesting, to develop a rich life. To speak with and be an authority on the things that make a man interesting. You may have a cut body today, but one slip, one medical issue can cause it to go away. You need more than that one thing to pull you through. You need to cling to more than one trick to be Alpha.

I’ve developed a long list of experiences. I’ve saved lives and taken lives. I have recently achieved master level in the martial art of my choice. I have students, and I am a student. My career is going places I never thought, and I am developing two other ones. I have taken up new hobbies and ditched childish ones. My life is a constant flow. I will never settle and never be in the same place I was last year. Among it all I lift and I have setbacks. They don’t stop me.

Pursue life don’t end up in it.

Let that shit go.