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“Do you think I’m fat?”

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October 12, 2018

So walked in from the gym this morning and was on a business call. When I got off I was asked?

“Were you talking to your girl friend”

Me: nope she isn’t up this early

Walked up stairs got ready for work. When I was leaving I got asked the age old question.

Do you think I’m Fat?

Me: Yes

Now I’m pretty sure that was the wrong response as I’m in no place to be making that comment.

One of my pillars is to tell the truth but maybe I should just bend it a bit because I don’t think the answer was correct.


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Title “Do you think I’m fat?”
Author Rino1977
Upvotes 12
Comments 49
Date 12 October 2018 03:50 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]470_2_700_nm21 points22 points  (6 children) | Copy

Tell her you love her regardless of how huge her ass is and that you chose her because you know she is your soulmate. Report back to us in an FR and tell us how it goes. She’s gonna blow you so enthusiastically.

[–]Rino1977[S] 12 points13 points  (4 children) | Copy

Nope thats what got me to MRP in the first place. I know how that shit works and it isnt " shes gonna blow you so enthusiastically."

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

He was being sarcastic... dude, you need to lighten up.

[–]Rino1977[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes I know he was. It’s all good

[–]470_2_700_nm5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good man. Here is how play it. I have fun talking about how she used to be. For example if she used to suck at cooking and improved she loves it when I make fun of her about how she used to suck at cooking and used to have a bit of a fat ass but not quite bad enough for me to stray.

And oh boy do I like the cooking now and the way her ass looks I add. So mixing validation with neg in a congruent mindset. I would have left her if her ass got too big, so when I say that I mean it.

To answer your question seriously - you need to take this question as fun, not as a serious “oh yeah honey oh yeah you’re not fat”. This is a prime chance for you to game her, but you are not there yet.

You might pull your dick out and ask it together - does she look fat? If the boner test is not passed, well, you’re dick has spoken. Then tell her it’s not me... it’s my dick. Holly shit!! More congruence!!! Keep going!!

Edit - I have a lot of fun making my dick the arbitrator of many (but not all) unresolvable problems in my household between my wife and I. It actually does a great job.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not a fan of irony, are we?

[–]JudgeDoom699 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

nope she isn’t up this early

Great job using Agree and Amplify

Do you think I’m Fat?

You: "I'd have to see you naked to know for sure..."

In this way you sexualize the interaction.

[–]rocknrollchuck3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep. If she takes her clothes off, close the deal. If she laughs or calls you a jerk, you still win.

[–]robertwservice19745 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

These are double bind shit tests, which are a manipulation tactic. You’re getting good advice about how to handle them.

If you want to learn more about double binds, I recommend reading Practical Female Psychology (sidebar advanced reading).

[–]Rino1977[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for the heads up on future reading materials. Always learning

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

"What do you think."

See, you can't win if you answer yes, and you can't win if you answer no. The only choice is not to answer. But you can't STFU, because that's stupid. So you have to flip it.


The better option is to ignore her and go to the mirror and rip your shirt off, and admire yourself for thirty seconds, and then look over at her "Hey, did you say something?"

[–]drty_prRed Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

See, you can't win if you answer yes, and you can't win if you answer no. The only choice is not to answer. But you can't STFU, because that's stupid. So you have to flip it.

"Well, I wouldn't say you're fat, but you're not exactly skinny".

My wife loves these fogging style answers

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

.....I much weigh were you trying to gain?

[–]Rino1977[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for the advice it’s a solid answer. Basically if I can’t answer flip. If I can stfu...

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I legitimately admire myself in the bedroom mirror in front of my wife often. Usually after doing my bodyweight assists. I'm a narcissistic motherfucker and I like how I'm looking with the dieting and lifting.

Sometimes I wonder what she thinks of it, then I realize I don't actually give a fuck.

[–]Fritz_Frauenraub3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

My wife never pitches me this softball because she's built like a black jessica rabbit and knows it. I'm always hoping though. I say things like "how do you get your ass in those jeans" and she's all teehee.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

“black jessica rabbit”

I wanna fuck now.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Uncle Chad did your homework for you:

There’s literally an entire chapter dedicated to this exact question already covered in mmslp.

You haven’t read jack shit.

Get to work beta boy ===>.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine5 points6 points  (7 children) | Copy

Agree and amplify. - like you did on your first response. That was good.

Do you think I’m fat?

“Come here, Let me take a closer look (twirl her around) love that sexy ass girl- bite/ ass slap, say something cocky, walk away”.

Never answer directly faggot. When you’re not a gay cowboy anymore, you can tell her that ass is fat girl hit the gym sometime with a grin. She’ll love it too and become giddy like a little school girl.

“One of my pillars is to tell the truth...”

Let me know how that works for you. Faggot.

[–]Rino1977[S] 1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

So your saying scrap the honesty and integrity pillar and just flip the answer back on her but never actually answer any of the bullshit.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

She doesn’t want your honesty or integrity- she WANTS to Feelz! She doesn’t give a shit about those things. Not like men do. Women see the world through their Feelz. If you ain’t providing them, she’ll get them somewhere else & your dick ain’t getting wet.

Yes, those pillars are admirable and make them part of your map- how you approach life, teach your children, view the world, and professional career... become a fucking man.

But if you’re not Gaming your wife, she won’t fuck or submit to you. Would Chad give her honesty & integrity? Those pillars are great for comfort & relationship building, but are also boring to her= pussy drying.

Tease her. She wants to submit to a dominate man. She wants you to be cocky and playful. AA shows her that your value (SMV) is higher than hers and you dgaf about hurting her Feelzing. You have options. High value fucking man. You are the Prize.

Imagine you're not married, how would you treat your girlfriend on the playground? Would you give her honesty & integrity? No, You’ll be snapping that bra, grabbing that ass, teasing her.

Do that. Remember not to do this for a reaction, but because you’re an alpha man and can do it, it’s fun. It’s for you, not her.

Did she need honesty & integrity when she fucked Chad in the foam party back in college on spring break?

[–]Rino1977[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Thats part of the issue I havent had to game anyone for 20 years. If i knew how 20+ years ago I dont anymore. I know I need to game the wife but I havent put focus on that main focus was lifting and on me. working on Frame and MAP first but its apparent that I need to do everything all at once. For some of you it might seem easy as shit but for a 20 year beta from when I get up to when I got to sleep my fn hamster is turning. Need to do this need to so that STFU, lift, diet, MAP all the side bar stuff. Need to walk before I can run.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine16 points17 points  (2 children) | Copy

Shut the fuck up.

Believe it or not, I’m the resident 10 year deadbedroom career beta... I was begging for sex on our 10 year wedding anniversary after a “Date night”. She was “so tired”. Lowest point of my life. The next day I found mmslp. That was The day I turned my life around. I was 37 when I found this place. Lifetime beta. I was a very hard case newbie. But Totally different person today.

It was not easy. It’s a process. This was all Greek to me.

Mechanical Engineer by trade, so i know how to learn and study. I made this a Study. I made index cards - to study throughout the day. Bullet points. And When I got home, before entering the door, I would remind myself “ don’t walk on eggshells, I am the Prize mindset, lead the family, do some little kino, 10 sec kiss, if I walk pass her in hallway try to slap her ass, etc”. That gives you an idea how bad I was.

At one point, you just internalize all this shit and you become it. I’ll have to break my index cards out one day and share for the newbs... and my binders of women now.

Edit: Keep it simple for now: Use AA, AM, pass the little shit tests, some negs here and there - show her that her mood doesn’t affect you. Start with some light kino.

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Your flair checks out and shows we can help anybody and everybody. Several of my clients are pretty Spergy, especially when trying to understand and interpret female emotions. They freeze up like a deer in the headlights and then, well, they DEER.

Forget the index cards. We want to see your spreadsheets. I have several guys who keep spreadsheets. One has kept a daily spreadsheet on his wife for years. The dude has columns for sexual frequency, sexual acts, general mood, attitude towards him, shit tests etc, AND then he compares it with different behaviors that he tries- slapping her ass, starting a fight and getting her pissed, rough sex, taking the initiative, letting her make the plans, apologizing, and so on. I think we have enough data for a paper but the bottom line? Everything we say on MRP is true. When you take charge, assert yourself wisely, and lead her on a good time then good things happen. I didn't even need a spreadsheet for that.

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Now you are getting it. Your wife is a women, right? She wants feels, not honesty and certainly not integrity.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

"No, I don't think you're fat. I know you're fat." Deliver with a shit-eating grin.

"Having a hard time answering. Your gravitational pull is making it difficult to speak." Then walk toward her like you're being pulled, grab her tightly, and take her down on the nearest bed/couch/chair.

"Only in the right places." Then casually slap her on the ass and continue what you were doing.

Your answer wasn't great, but not as bad as an obviously placating "no" or telling her how you don't like thin women anyway.

[–]ahackercalled4chan4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]zurgenfloggin2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Flip: “why, do you?”

[–]theunconquored2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

My standard response, with a grin “it’s amazing you can fit through a door...”.

You’re taking this way too seriously. Be fun. Honesty doesn’t have to mean brutal and serious honesty.

[–]Rino1977[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

its more of a how did I handle it. First part was golden but that's getting easy the second one caught me off guard and I didn't know how to respond.

thanks for the advice makes enough sense to me. Will give it a try when the question comes up next week as its not the first time she said it in the last 3 weeks. there is a guilt because I've been going to the gym and eating better and she has been taking notice. Just need to work on gaming my wife better just haven't hit that part on the side Bar.

[–]Rino1977[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yes chapter 5 instigate, isolate, escalate. Looks like I’m going to have to the reread mmslp. Everything you faggots have said is spot on it’s like you’ve been there......

[–]rocknrollchuck1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Athol also has a book called "How to answer 'do these pants make my ass look fat.'" Well worth a read, it answers this type of question directly.

[–]Redpillbrigade172 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

“Come here let me decide up close”. Squeeze slap kiss caress you name it. Tease her - that’s what she wants: to see you’re a dominant confident man worthy of her feminine energy and time. Not an actual serious answer to that silly question.

[–]Rino1977[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks that makes sense.

FFS seems so simple

[–]jakethesnake50001 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Grab her in the ass, and say just in some places

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Grab her in by the ass pussy.

[–]jakethesnake50002 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I really do need to try this sometime

[–]RedPillCoach2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It works best when you are rich and famous.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You clearly haven't read anything. This is the easiest lay up in the book, and you did the exact opposite of what you should have done.

In short: eat a dick and die.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes is a pretty good answer. You just can't apologize for it afterward.

I’m in no place to be making that comment.

Depending on your situation, you could segue that into "we both need to eat better", "join me at the gym", etc. But she probably won't until you start making real progress.

[–]RedPillCoach1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Athol Kay wrote a book called: "Do these pants make my ass look fat?"

My wife saw me reading it and asked me if I thought her pants made her look fat.

I told her the pants look fine. It's the fat that makes you look fat.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"I don't mind you being a little plump, darling. Honestly.

I just wish you weren't so fucking ugly."

[–]weakandsensitive0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy


I don't understand the problem.

[–]Rino1977[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I missed the response on do you think I’m fat. My answer shouldn’t of been yes or no. It should of been some sort of AA as everyone has stated. Don’t answer it flip it back.

[–]weakandsensitive0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would've just said "Yes" or "No" depending on what I thought.

But I'm also not the type of person to rely on the opinions of retards.

Beginners focus on what, as in what do (Do I say yes or no?). Intermediates focus on how, as in how do (How do I say yes or no?). Experts focus on why, as in why do (Why do I say yes or no?).

We can break it down further if you want, but if you're asking whether or not to say yes or no, just STFU.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"No, just your ass."

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You're not fat, you're festively plump.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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