Original post: https://reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/98jsip/crunch_time/
So my refusal to let my gf, her son and her cat move in with me, from day one, into my new house has led to her deciding to end the relationship.
My apparent lack of "generosity" in this regard and my "fears and doubts" about having her move in immediately with me was just too much of a "painful rejection" for her.
This is a woman who refused to visit in my old place for the last three months as it was too " shitty" for her. But then all of a sudden wants to spend more time together as soon as I move to a shiny new place.
She can no longer feel happy and open around me. She wants a bf who says yes not no, who is "flexible and not rigid".
It is what it is I suppose. I don't feel great about this turn of events and am resisting the urge to just give in and tell her to move in.
It's definitely highlighted my oneitis, verging on an addictive quality.
Time to come back to myself and keep focused on what I need to do.