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FoxShitNasty83
August 16, 2018
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Stats: 5' 6" / 158Lb / Bf 21% / 35yo

  • SQ 170

  • OHP 75

  • DL 155

  • BP 105

  • ROW 100

So I do own my shit, I am a busy blur moving target. I fucked up and i want to redeem myself.

I have been asking my wife to do more stuff in an attempt to lead, on my way out to work i asked the wife to put the laundry away please. I washed it ironed it and ran out of baskets so it needed to be put away.

I get home and the house is a shit state she is out with the kids and the laundry isnt away various kid pants on the living room floor, not going to be butthurt so as the captain I roll up my sleeves and start clearing up the mess putting clothes away and getting dinner ready.

wife rocks up with kids but im smiles and say nothing just carry on sorting shit out. I start getting the kids to bed and start to head out to the gym. Wife starts putting washing away and asks me if i can put my own washing away (Shit test) as i haddnt finished. I was going out so dumped it in a basket and said laters... off i trot and have a great lifting session.

Next day my eldest son exclaims... "you're a bad dad"

Me: "whys that"

Son: "mummy said you didnt help put the washing away"

Me: "do you think im a bad dad?"

Son: "but mummy says you didnt help"

.... I left it at that got angry and here i am.

Options please gents:

  • Worth calling out her bullshit?

  • Give less fucks

  • Stick my dick in a meat grinder


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Title You're a bad dad!
Author FoxShitNasty83
Upvotes 10
Comments 88
Date 16 August 2018 07:58 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204100
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[–]ice_walkerHead Negotiator28 points29 points  (7 children) | Copy

What would a good leader do if one of the team members talks BS about him to the other team members and he finds out? He wouldn't get emotional about it. He wouldn't start to argue about it. He would not start to defend or explain himself.

He would identify this as a potential problem, that may or may not need to be adressed at this point. If it needs to be adressed, he would do so in a non-emotional manner, with the team member in question, and not relate it to the situation at hand, in this case the laundry, since it has got nothing to do with the laundry. The problem is not that your emotions or ego is hurt, the problem is that the team (i.e. family) suffers from wifes shitty behavior.

"Look, I've heard from kid X that you said I was a bad dad. That is not OK behaviour between parents, and it harms the kids and the family. If you have a problem with me then it's between us and don't drag in the kids. Don't do that again." Then STFU and potentially just leave if she tries to come with "Yea but you blablabla".

And BTW, option 3 all the way, pics or it didn't happen!

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

Update: I called this out exactly as above, she called my boy a lier and said how dare I think so little of her. She gave my son a lecture on how it bad to lie etc and it can cause big arguments. I just STFU and did my own thing. Later in the evening she came to me and said that she did say something jokingly that the boy may have took out of context. I said that this is shitty behaviour and I don't want it to happen again. I also made her apologize to my son for calling him a lier.

She has been warmer towards me since, opening up more etc. This my friends feels like progress... Onwards and upwards.. thanks faggots

[–]ice_walkerHead Negotiator4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Blimey, that IS progress. And remember, the progress is not in your wife, or not even in your relation with your wife, but wholly within YOU, old chap!

(Thank you /u/BluePillProfessor for pointing this out to me)

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for reminding me, good call.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

What is the point of any of this if you are still DB?

What are you achieving?

Note: of course I support good parenting.

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

We are not all equal, some start of more blue pill than others. I am doing this for me... I will know when it's time, at the moment I can't even fuck another woman so lots of work ahead.

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fuck me, that's actually good advice mate... Who knew you had it in you!! Cheers

[–]notmyrealaccount1one1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pics or it didn't happen is always good advice!

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret47 points48 points  (4 children) | Copy

I've been that kid who mom would vent about how bad dad was. Shut that shit down, you're fucking up your sons chances in the future.

she's basically conditionning him to do the oppositte of what you do to please mommy, and it's going to friend zone him for life

This is shitty single mom bullshit she is pulling.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

can't upvote this enough. pay attention OP.

you need to set your bitch straight with extreme prejudice on this matter.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Happy Cake Day!

And, yeah this is correct OP.

[–]helaughsinhidden2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

My wife used to talk shit to me and my oldest son still acts like I am some kind of step dad. She grew up around it because her mom was a typical welfare pos that would find terrible men and bounce them every 6 months. Of course, she brought it into our marriage and I was very young and dumb and not equipped to handle someone raised with a black belt in shit testing. I used to get so mad and get into huge verbal fights which, in the kids eyes, proved she was right.

What I ended up doing was to FOG/STFU when she did it for a two months solid because at the time I had NO FRAME AT ALL. Then, I remember like it was yesterday, when the moment was right, she did it again and I calmly looked at her in the eyes and with along pause and as calm as I could I said "You know, I don't speak to you that way anymore, I would appreciate if you don't say things like that either.". It worked. Holy shit did it work. Hasn't called me an asshole since and it's been 15 years since that day. She isn't perfect, but you gotta fight one battle at a time and turning your kids against you is a primary offense.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

yup, ignore the battle win the war.

[–]weakandsensitive9 points10 points  (31 children) | Copy

Did you really let your son shit test you?

If your wife didn't say shit, your eldest is probably white knighting because of your blue pill beta history.

Others think your wife is trash talking you. I'd bet she made an off-hand comment and your son (I assume he's young), trained in blue pill equality society, drew connections. Question is - does your wife even care? I'd be surprised if she did.

Wife starts putting washing away and asks me if i can put my own washing away (Shit test) as i haddnt finished.

Shit test? Doubt it. Logistics more likely. Also a frame issue. You don't do any qualifying either.

How about "I'm headed out for the moment. If you haven't done it, I will do it when I'm back."

There's this funny thing about asking, because when you ask, you're giving people a choice. When you're giving a person a choice, don't get butthurt when they don't choose the choice you want. For example, when I ask my now 3 year old if she wants to put on clothes and she says "No!" and runs around giggling, I find myself going "well... what did I expect?".

When I don't want to give my daughter a choice, I don't. When I don't want to give my wife a choice, I don't. They can still booth choose to do differently. Now we have a different situation, but choice isn't the problem.

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 0 points1 point  (30 children) | Copy

Great response thanks

[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

I edited the post.

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Ok cool so rather than say "can you do x please" it's simply "do x".

[–]weakandsensitive3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

It's funny - when we were first getting together, and when I was annoyed with my now wife, the way I'd punish (negative reinforcement) is by removing her ability to do things for me, mostly just laundry and tidying. The implication being that taking care of me is a privilege, not a right, and that while I like her taking care of me, I don't NEED her to take care of me.

[–]rocknrollchuck2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I do the same from time to time when my wife is being difficult. It's funny how much it affects her in a negative way when I do my own laundry. She gets the message loud and clear.

[–]BostonBrakeJob0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I do this, often without even intending to. When the "man projects" are at a standstill I focus that energy on keeping the house up. She almost always gets shitty and for the longest time I couldn't figure out why.

Then I caught on. She would get shitty, but the next day she starts going hog wild on housework. And I usually get an unrequested rundown of all the work she did too ("look what I did, Daddy!")

It was a game changer when I recognized this. Nonverbal cues like this send a stronger message than any amount of talking can do, when she's getting lazy or is in one of her miserable-to-be-around states. Or, on the otherhand, I delegate some of it when all is well and make her feel like she's filling her role just fine.

[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No - I say "I'm not happy with x. Do you want to take care of x or do you want me to?"

Because if I'm not happy with it, I'm taking care of it one way or the other - either by delegating or doing it myself.

[–]weakandsensitive0 points1 point  (23 children) | Copy

Follow up question - do you guys use shame to control your kids behavior? Like if he doesn't do his chore, like clean his room, do you guys go to the "you're not being a good boy" shtick?

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 0 points1 point  (22 children) | Copy

No I ask once, twice if I don't think he heard me... Then it's off to timeout for X mins per age year.

[–]weakandsensitive0 points1 point  (21 children) | Copy

So shame, basically. That or coercion, like he's made the wrong choice.

Not the way I approach it (yet?), but we're not a parenting subreddit.

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 0 points1 point  (20 children) | Copy

No we are not... but curious as to how you would handle it?

[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I don't believe in timeouts. Its just a stewing mechanism and feels impersonal to me. I like a personal touch.

If I want something picked up, I'll say let's clean it up. Usually she'll help, but probably isn't helpful. That's okay because I wanted it picked up so I'll do it. She likes being helpful. If she doesn't want to help, I'll pick it up myself. Sometimes she tidies on her own - she'll says time to put paw patrol away! And does it. We'll see what changes as she gets older.

If I'm punishing, it doesn't happen much, but if it does, I just put her in a body triangle and we hang out for some amount of time. She hates it because she can't move, or run away, or do what she wants. At the same time, it's hands on and let's me explain what I'm punishing her for. I've found it really effective.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I can attest to this, Triangle chokes are very hard to escape from when you have short limbs

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hmm cheers

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Great call on the body triangle looking forwards to trying that out

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red-2 points-1 points  (15 children) | Copy

Know the sound a leather belt makes when rapidly removed from a pair of jeans?

No? Well there is your problem faggot.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret1 point2 points  (14 children) | Copy

sort of a snapping sound

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

My parents had a stick with my name written on it.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

mom had a 18" ruler . . . still has it and ain't afraid to use it. i got beat with it a lot; and gave zero fucks. i was 9 years old when she finally figured out i GZF and switched her strategy to sending me to my room . . .that worked.

dad had only his hand, he only used a few times on my behind. i did whatever was necessary to avoid that.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

A few times the stick broke for me. But hey, I turned out ok.

[–]DanceMonkeeDanceRed Beret1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

My wife gets wet when she hears that sound. That's how substandard chores are dealt with at my house.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

i'm pretty sure you're referring to spanking your wife which is great.

on another point though, i would definitely say that my wife got wet when i disciplined my kids. obviously, not a tool you should use to that end . . . but if your kids don't respect you; you don't have a chance with their mother.

it's one of the reasons you never wife up a single mother.

[–]markpf735 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

You know...your wife sounds like my mother.

She raised a blue pill bitch in an alpha body. I remember my mother conditioning me to think my dad was bad. She wouldn’t overtly say it, but she would say things like don’t ever be like him...

My dad didn’t own his shit or properly handle his bitch. He was a good dad in that he wasn’t abusive, provided, and did his best to keep the peace. He was a great beta fag dad. End result I really don’t like him much.

Are you a beta fag? That’s why you’re a bad dad that your kid one day won’t really like. Get your Ho back in pocket.

[–]JudgeDoom694 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Next time, you put the laundry away and have the kids help you. Make it fun if you can. I play the "sock-match game" with my young ones.

This way everyone in the house is working as a team under your leadership to get the chores done. If your wife decides to sit on her ass rather than participate, it will go without saying who is failing to contribute. Kids are smart, and follow actions much more than words.

Take it slow. Don't go all Red Pill Rambo, mate. Judging by your stats, you have a long way to go before your wife starts rebuilding attraction and respect for you.

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cheers appreciated, this will take a long time

[–]mattizie2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

What a god damn facepalm, by writing practically anything here it's just making it worse.

Back to basics.

Why do we wash clothes? Because we don't like wearing dirty clothes. Why do we wash other people's clothes? Because we want to, and in the case of children, have a duty to.

Everyone has the right look after themselves. We share work loads because it's more efficient and leaves more time for everyone else: rather than one person making their own food, and washing their own dishes, it's quicker to have one person cook for all, and one wash dishes for all.

Next time, wash your and your kids' clothes, leave your wives alone. She hasn't proven herself reliable in washing your clothes, so you'll take matters into your own hands. However, you're a very busy man and don't have time for this bullshit so you do what you want to do (your clothes) and what you have a duty to do (kids clothes) and not the optional stuff (your wife's clothes).

In the relationship, the one with the least fucks to give has the most power. If it keeps spiralling on itself, the worst it gets is that you do your shit, she does her shit, and the place is filthy. Most likely she will crack first, at which point you negotiate the workload and everyone is happy again.

Personally, we share the cleaning, but my wife does most of it. She knows that if she asks me to get involved, I do it properly: every speck of dust or every surface, under every piece of furniture, and on top of every light fitting; bleach mop the tiles; pressure wash the screen doors; the fucking lot. It takes ages and is a very thorough clean; halfway through she wants to stop, but I don't stop. I also tend - during the cleaning process - to want to throw out a lot of her useless crap that she's accumulated, or stuff all her disorganised papers, cards, fluffy pens, plastic bunny cup things, expired fancy chocolate, and other useless crap that women tend distribute around the house in one "organised" bag that goes into her bedside cupboard for her to sort out. This also means that she kind of has to be around when I do cleaning to make sure I don't do something like throw out her old-granny underwear. So now she does her own light cleans, and doesn't involve me, but I appreciate that she keeps the house generally clean and I handle all the vacuuming and car stuff at least once a week, and on my time. Works for us.

But the real answer is just keep working on yourself, and eventually you become the man that a woman WANTS to do chores for, because it's a small price to pay for your company and attention.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

But the real answer is to quietly perform covert contracts...

[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

seems petty

[–]mattizie-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

It is, but petty things are part of life

[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

meh

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think OP and you need to read the classic "Firing the customer".

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

You have several problems:

-Your lifts are incredibly weak. 7 months at the gym and you should be putting up more than 170. I have a story for you. Yesterday I was working out in my basement...which is practically a gym at this point. I was going through the motions of my normal squat and deadlift day and thinking "I think I'll just stick to 255x5 again today because I don't want to hurt myself and I'm not sure if I can do more." Even though I've put up 315x2 in the gym multiple times. And then I said to myself "Stop acting like a bitch." I put 285 on, which is every plate I currently have down there, and told myself "You don't think you can put this up? Prove it. Fail. The safety''s are there and you haven't needed to use them in weeks. Fail, and you can stay at 255." And every rep of the 285x5x3 I completed. Then I went and did it on deads as well.

 

-You tell your wife to do something and she doesnt...so you just do it for her and don't say anything. Yep you are the captain and your house stays clean. But if you direct her to do a specific task and she doesnt...you gotta follow up on that. There are instances where you simply take it as a sign of where you are in her eyes and the value she brings...but at some point you need to draw the line. And I'm not recommending you Rambo this and the very first time she doesn't do anything you lay down the law...so here's a little outline:

"Hey I need you to get your laundry out of here. I don't like seeing it lay around." She doesnt:

1st offense: "Hey what happened to the laundry?"

(Her excuse)

"Okay I need it done."

2nd offense: "Look, I understand you are busy, but this needs to be done. If you keep not doing it, I'm going to take the laundry, and throw it into your shower."

(Her bitching).

3rd offense: You take her laundry and throw it into her shower.

Set your boundary.

 

-You don't have a solid framework of who does what around the house. My wife knows what her chores are. She knows when I expect her to do them, and there's consequences for not doing them. If you don't set expectations on what you do, and what she does, then you'll both constantly be walking around eyeing the other person thinking covertly "Look at this house, it''s a mess. She/he didn't do X. I'm not sure if it was on purpose or they didn't have time or they don't know it's their job...but I don't like it. I'll just passive aggressively stare at him/her until they read my mind and get it done."

 

-Your wife is sabotaging you by talking trash to the kids. BIG no no in my book. YOU are the captain. Problems come to you. This isn't a war. She doesn't get to weaponize the kids. Hard stop.

 

-You don't know how to handle a kid's thoughts. I was going to say judgement, but it's not even that. It's more like a question. They're saying that to you to see how you respond...and your response will tell them whether what mommy said was true or not, and what your state of mind is about it. They aren't doing this purposefully of course. But by you asking what they think...you are putting the veracity of attack statements from mommy on their shoulders. Dont do that. Instead...show them mommy's judgements areally laughable.

"Mommy said you're a bad daddy."

"Bad huh? Like you? Maybe we can be outlaws together and run from the cops. Cmon we gotta go pack our suitcases before they find us." And pick the kid up and run to pack.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

discipline her..-take her over your knee and spank that ass. - in a playful way. You’ll know where you stand by her reaction.

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Lol thanks, I'm tempted to see what the reaction would be.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Frames you as the dominate alpha of the house as well as provides tinglestm .

-Assuming you can even restrain her because your lifts are weak as fuck..

[–]man_in_the_worldRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you played with your kids every day in a masculine way you would never hear this from them.

You are a bad dad ... just not for the reason you were given.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If my wife said that to the kids, they would chuckle and know it's not true.

To the kid, you should have said "I'm the worst."

If the kid is 4-5, it's time to start training them to help around the house.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Christ, you have a serious frame problem. Why in hell do you care what senseless shit your kid babbles?

Your kid: "You're a bad dad!"

You: "You ain't seen nothin' yet. Now go clean your room."

Jesus, you give sooooo many fucks about sooooo many things, it's a miracle you can even function.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Normally I'd leave you out on the porch to figure things out for yourself, but today I'm feeling... talkative.

When you take things your seven year old says seriously, particularly in the way you did, you are undermining your own leadership, status, and masculinity in two ways: you're giving the kid the idea that what he says has unqualified validity and you're giving weight to what mum says.

"do you think im a bad dad?"

WHO GIVES A SHIT? If your kid doesn't at some point vocalize that you're "mean" and "unfair" or that you "don't understand" then you're not doing your job as a father. You are either indisputably in charge or everything is up for negotiation with your kid and your wife. How would you like the rest of your life to go?

Get mad motherfucker! Take charge and start running the show the way you want it run. If your wife isn't on board with that, then she can fuck right off.

[–]Senor_Martillo0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Option 3. Definitely 3.

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Gonna be tricky, I only have a hand crank one

[–]Senor_Martillo2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ya that’s gonna hurt. Now on to the pickle: think you gotta just ignore that one. Answer to the son: “bah, that’s her job anyway”

Answer to the wife...well nothing, I guess. She didn’t say anything, so neither should you. If she wants to drop the passive aggressive approach and actually express herself to you, then you should commit to some well crafted communication. Otherwise...fuckit. Water under the bridge.

[–]MRPFuckMe10 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

There’s gonna be the canned MRP answer: lift! And that’s applicable because your stats are pretty bad. Your wife’s willingness to talk shit in your son’s ear, however, is disturbing to say the least. How old is he?

So yes, your first priority is to improve those stats. Beyond that, I’d say do something with the boy one-on-one to create bonding so he can make his own decisions about your aptitude as a father. You can’t let that stick. She’s totally out of line, but talking to her about it won’t do any good. Acta non verba.

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

He is 7 and yes your right more bonding is a good idea I will make more time for that

[–]PersaeusRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

my approach on chores is, i never walk past them. either do them or delegate them. set the standard.

the lack of respect from your kids is appalling.

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Understood, needs work for sure

[–]ParaXilo0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Everyone else addressed your main post so I'll address this because I didn't see anyone had.

What in the actual fuck are you doing in the gym? Are you having fuckarounditis?

We're the close to the same height 5'5" but I'm at 164lbs 22%bf so pretty close in stats.

Did you just start lifting? Are those 1RMs? Are you following something structured? Tracking your lifts? Increasing weight each workout and setting goals?

Edit: injury and looking into PT. Got it now.

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Yeah, I also until recently only lifted 2 X weekly now 3 X. I still get lower back pains but it's better than it was. I also don't think I'm eating enough does 1800 to 2000 Cal's per day sound right? My weight fluctuates around 70kg and I get in 125 to 150g of protein per day.

[–]ParaXilo0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

That sounds about right if you're wanting to lose steady and maintain muscle mass. I'm no expert but what's working for me is IF/OMAD and starting to track everything I eat. Goal is to lose 1.5-2lbs per week with a goal of 145lbs and 10-12%bf. Also, lifting 3 times per week with a progressive program.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Fellow small framed short guy. 145 is a good goal. 5’7” 145lbs coming off a cut. 10 rep maxs:

BP: 195 Squat: 205 DL: 245 OHP: 135

I’ve never done a proper bulk, this has been basically a healthy, high protein diet and consistent lifting for years. However, I’m cutting my beach season short and attempting my first proper bulk. Hope to hit 165 / 170 and have my cut weight next spring around 150 / 155. I’m not really sure what’s realistic because I’ve never forced myself to eat when I wasn’t hungry.

[–]ParaXilo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nice I'm on the slow loss now about 1-1.5lbs a week. Goal is to hit 145 by the end of the year then go from there. Good luck with the bulk.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

When was the last time you fucked your wife?

[–]PersaeusRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

don't ask, it's bad

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Root cause / Catch 22 by the sounds of it.

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Sometime mid 2014

[–]simbarlionRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Wtf dude.

Would you still go to work if they stopped paying you?

4 years man....It's time to up the ante, no one deserves this at 35.

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I know mate, her legs are locked tight.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Holy fuck.

[–]CalvinRichland0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You need to METAPHORICALLY stomp that insubordinate shit into a stain in the carpet.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

I was expecting to see it was your wife that said you are a bad dad. Saw it was your son.

Thats earns you an ass whopping in my house. Do your kids know the sound a leather belt makes when rapidly removed from a pair of jeans?

No? Well I do from my childhood and my kids do as well.

I also don’t have little disobedient fucktard kids who disrespect me.

YMMV.

Faggot.

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] -3 points-2 points  (5 children) | Copy

That's a fast track route to jail where I am, beat kids and you get fucked from multiple angles.. including big bubba when he catches you in the showers

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

🙄

Beat kids? Give me a break. Never even needed to hit my kids more than once or twice in their whole life faggot.

But say whatever you need to, to satisfy your cognitive dissidence.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

totally agree with your approach. you only need to light em' up a few times to establish the deterrent and respect

unfortunately for 83 here, it works best if you do this when there 3 or 4 . . . not 7

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

not 7

No excuses brother!

Better late than never!

[–]FoxShitNasty83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Had a lot of mouthing off tonight and an attempt to kick and punch me. Fast track to being held up against the wall and shouted down at.. cryed for a bit then behaved for the rest of the day. Wife was supportive and told him that if he hits and kicks people they will hit him back and it will hurt. Lesson learnt

[–]Chinchilla_the_Hun0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

When i became a father, one useful piece of advice my dad gave me was, "better they cry now, than you cry later." Doesn't have to be physical discipline, their little dopamine receptors are likely tuned to something that would cause pain if taken away.



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