I have been here for 18 months. Struggled a lot with butthurt/anger for the first 12 months, gradually got better and better. Last time I got butthurt was a few months back. End of last week started feeling a bit anxious ( I realise now, I have had anxiety for most of my life...) Its a familiar feeling now, I know what it is, so it helps to deal with it. By now I know there is usually a trigger, I try my best to work out what the cause is? (usually sexual rejection) Nothing really happened to set it off. May be a bit of winter blues? (its middle of winter in australia), I did not initiate for a few days, as its shark week. Gradually through the weekend, it got worse and worse. By Monday, I am boiling inside. I resent my wife, I am angry, I blame her for all my problems. I can only think of her faults, and how I dont like a lot of her traits, and how incompatible we are. I am angry, and butthurt. On the weekend, I went for a long drive, and listened to some podcasts, which usually helps. I went to the gym and lifted, and lifted... but nothing is helping. I have been through these cycles before, and I am surprised how intense, and "flooded" I am, and yet I cant stop. All through Monday, in my head I am fuming, running "talks" that I will have with my wife that night. They all end in me telling her its over. On one hand I fully realize how butthurt/angry I am, and yet the hamster is at full speed, and I CANT stop it. I am here every day reading posts/answers. Then I read this [comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/8rvnux/first_post/e0upr2u) yesterday, and it snapped me out of my butthurt/anger in 5 min. I am back to level headed, feeling a bit tired (hamster ran a marathon on the weekend), but clear headed. This morning, Reset, kinoed wife, and had a quickie before work. Everyone is in a better mood.
This place is full of gold.