1st time poster here. I know you guys are brutal, so let me have it. (33m, 5'10 220, 16% bf BP 225, SQ 275, DL 315, OHP 115,) I know that people ask this question quite frequently, but I am really having a difficult time coming to terms with the fact that my wife sees me as BB. I am in charge of the family in just about every way, sans housekeeping (She usually has it done before I even get home from work). In charge of finances, I lead in every aspect of our relationship. I lift 6 days a week and I'm in VASTLY better shape than her. My SMV is higher than hers.
Sex is whenever I want. Bj's are basically on command. But she will not swallow, will not do anal, and will not allow herself to give me control sexually. It's like there is this mental block that she has, or she feels compelled to control SOME dynamic of our relationship. Either that, or she truly does not desire me the way that I feel is worthy of my commitment.
We have been married for 13 years and it's always been this way, even early in our relationship. The anger is making me just want to leave, and find someone who truly desires me. I have a daughter with her and I only have a few years to go before she's 18, so I have been working on my MAP, and telling myself the stay plan is the same as the go plan, but I'd rather just have my wife desire me the way I want.
Question for you guys is how do you get over the anger? I've been dealing with it for a long time and short of cheating on her, I don't see a solution. I feel like confronting her will only make her do it because she's scared of me leaving, not because she actually wants to. Is this sort of thing salvageable?