We Hit 5000!! Lurkers and Newbies--Come out and Say "Hi!"

battleaxemoana · 2014-04-30T17:19:42+00:00

Hey RPW!

I found RPW after a redditor mentioned it at /r/AskReddit concerning something about..."one the most depraved subreddits." I curiously checked it out...and BAM!...I was hooked. I finally joined a while after "grasping at all straws" while "dealing with" my SUPER alpha husband as a "pseudo/3rd wave-feminist". I knew I loved him and was attracted to him for SOME reason, but I could not come to terms with why or how during our darkest of times...
His alpha was disgusting to me because I could not accept it, nor could I understand how to compliment it.

Background:
I was raised in a religion that values traditional roles between man and woman. I always bucked at it as a "pseudo-feminist," but dudes...feminism is the joke and RPW is nature's way. At least in my understanding of it, anyways.

Achievements Unlocked:
1. Appropriate communication methods established
2. I know my place and what's expected of me, AND I FUCKING LOVE IT THAT WAY.
3. Our sex is utterly amazing.
4. I finally trust that the value my husband holds in me as a "First Mate" will only appreciate with time, not depreciate.

THANK YOU RPW FOR HELPING ME MOLD INTO WHO I WANT TO BE FOR HIM AND TO BECOME A BETTER MODEL FOR OUR FUTURE CHILDREN.

Edit: Formatting/Grammar

Camille11325 · 2014-04-30T18:04:49+00:00

Hi! I subscribed in December but I've always been too intimidated to post (which is silly, I know). Before finding this sub and the rest of the online redpill community I felt so alone because I didn't know a single person who had the same views as I did on gender roles, feminism, and the rest. I'm 19 and in college, and although I have a lot of friends, I haven't been able to be 100% myself with the majority of the people that I interact with. I thought that joining a sorority would allow me to connect with similar-minded girls but while my sisters (who I love) are more feminine in appearance and interests, many of them are also heavy partiers who sleep around. I barely talk to anyone about my political beliefs, my desire to be a homemaker and homeschool my children, and almost no one knows that I'm waiting until marriage to lose my virginity. Since joining this sub and reading all of the great posts, I feel more comfortable with my beliefs and less like I have to hide. I would like to thank the mods and regular contributors for all of their hard work in running this community! Especially /u/danabanana9 who according to RES I have upvoted 80 times haha

Breast_Exams_Via_Pm · 2014-04-30T14:34:10+00:00

Sorry to rain on the parade Ladies but I have 2 accounts, so technically its only 4,999 subs.

crapshack · 2014-04-30T16:10:15+00:00

Hey ladies! I subscribed here 6 months or so ago after stumbling on TRP via /r/new. I stayed off the carousel, but was in a very unhealthy relationship with a man (my first EVERYTHING) who ended up spinning plates for 10 years, while keeping me as his #1 and being ultra jealous/crazy. I finally ended that at age 26 when he knocked one of them up. At 27 I met a good, hardworking, kind, RP-style man, and am now engaged at 30 (he's 36). I'm not sure that "the wall" is such an issue if you don't have children, take good care of yourself, and try to make your spouse's life better.

I often feel compelled to talk a bit about my experience when I see posts by ladies who fear the wall, but haven't yet. Maybe soon. Anyway, thanks for being here. :)

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RedPillMotors · 2014-04-30T16:54:42+00:00

I found this and the RP while trying to find a (reasonably) polite 3rd party way to explain to a Beta friend why I am happy in my LTR and he is miserable. I'm a guy, but may have some offerings of hope on the self improvement and Girl Game tendencies exhibited by my SO. It's made for a wonderful partnership and we're both happy.

TempestTcup · 2014-04-30T14:00:19+00:00

I'm so excited! 5000! And I love these newbie and lurker threads - the new girls always make me cry, LOL.

rpBlueSkye · 2014-04-30T18:51:19+00:00

Well hi ^{_^/} I've made I think three comments here... I actually made a reddit account just to follow this board. As computer geek I feel ashamed for ignoring the greatness of reddit XD

I actually found this place from a random google search that lead me the a blog "AverageMarriedDad" which led to another blog to another to another to here. A fun rabbit hole jump to wonderland! hehe...

Well im 21, going on my second year of marriage, and just happy I found a sliver of the web that agrees with my lifestyle and what I want to do. I've always been fond of traditional values, and am religious, so this place is like a breath of fresh air. Just reading here and on blogs like redpillwife I've learned a lot about myself and ways I can improve my relationship with my husband. And wow the little changes I have made have already made a big difference. Just by me being more submissive, hes taking more of a lead and I love it!

I just wish more people would see this place. I know A LOT of married couples that would be a ton more happier if they followed this method...

I think one of my favorite reads was "Be his soft landing spot" or something like that... I lost the link and cant find where I read it >.<

Edit: typos and stuff

seepingsludge · 2014-04-30T23:20:36+00:00

I don't know where to put this, or whether I should make a new thread but: I feel like we're less of an echo chamber than r/BluePill is. We, on one hand, are constantly debating and deciding and wondering on what exactly our ideology is, since it's so new and is just becoming popular as an ideology (was already popular as a behavior). Them, on the other hand, have only one ideology: hating us. They don't debate that. They don't take an aspect of the opposing ideology and say "does this have worth?" like we might do with a tiny facet of feminism, etc. They are merely an echo chamber of hateful circlejerking Tumblrina feminists.

/appreciationrant

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god you guys are all so awesome when we do this!!

Kikuhoshi · 2014-05-01T22:18:50+00:00

wave Hi! I've been a member for a little while (I'd say a few months), and I've posted a bit, but I still feel like a bit of a lurker.

I'm 23, and a mom & wife. I'm former college student & a beta boy's sugar-momma-to-be, before I got fed up with what I was told was the Perfect Life. Left that guy, met a great man who apparently saw a good woman underneath the bitchy little girl that I had cultivated, and refused to take my shit. I was hooked on his attitude, even though everything said I shouldn't be; here we are, 2 years married and parents to a toddler. At my high school graduation, if you would have told me that I was going to be happy as a housewife, wanting to be submissive to my husband, and a mom to boot, I'd probably have laughed straight in your face. Now? Thank goodness I found this place, because I don't think anyone in my life actually understands how I feel.

herewegoaga1n · 2014-05-01T01:59:15+00:00

I'm a guy. I just like reading your comments and occasionally chiming in. Great stuff an I hope you keep it up.

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myhairsreddit · 2014-04-30T19:08:39+00:00

I have been an /r/redpill lurker for a while, subscribed a few months ago, but just started posting there and here very recently. I've always had the mindset and beliefs of those who have swallowed the red pill, but never really understood them until I found these subs. I have many friends and family members who tell me I want a 1950's life style, that I want to be controlled/abused. It's very comical how they view what we do. Anyway, I figured this submission was an invitation to introduce myself, so hello /r/redpillwomen! It's lovely to join in the conversation with you all, I learn something new every day here and appreciate you all who post and interact.

IllDoMyBest · 2014-04-30T22:32:48+00:00

Hi!

Congratulations on hitting 5000! I ended up here while searching for RP material for women after having read "manosphere" blogs for months. I've been lurking for about a week, wondering if I should make a account or not - this post is what decided it for me.

First, English is not my native tongue, so please forgive me if I write anything strange. I'm 19 and have soon finished my first year of college. I've learned now that I've always been more of a RP person, despite never knowing that this mindset/way of being actually had a name. Needless to say, I have very little (if anything?) in common with my peers where I'm from when it comes to views on sexuality, men, what's important in life etc. However, I'm glad to tell that it never stops me from doing what I feel is right for my family, SO and myself. Later this year I'll have been with my SO for four years, and I want nothing more but to one day become his wife and bear his children.

Sorry if I wrote too much in this first comment of mine, it's just that I'm so happy to finally find someone to talk to about all these things aside from my SO and nearest family! There is so much I would like to tell and to talk about that I hardly know where to begin or where to stop!

box_cutter_ · 2014-04-30T22:53:17+00:00

Hi :)

Long time lurker here, this thread has encouraged me to finally make an account. It's nice to see a little place on the internet where women help each other become better women. I want to improve myself for my future husband and children, as well as become a better daughter, sister, and friend.

brillig79 · 2014-05-01T01:14:04+00:00

I lurk here and in RP. I love both of these subs because they just fit me and how I prefer my relationships to be. I loathe feminism's perpetual victim approach and the need to dominate men. I am no victim. I was very lucky to be raised by a RP father who would never let me be a victim, but who also showed me how to be the best human I could be.

I prefer to lurk because even though I fullheartedly prefer traditional gender roles in my relationships, I do fall outside of some "expectations"(not the right word, but the closest I could think of)- I am older(34) single at the moment,very introverted, have a math degree,and don't want kids.I know these things will of course overshadow my general care-taking and cooking skills and put me at a significant disadvantage in the RP world. So I prefer to sit and read, while nodding and grinning.

[deleted] · 2014-05-01T11:18:04+00:00

Hi, TRP whilst great after being on it for a year feels like the simpsons - the same thing all the time now and it's mostly about non helpful girl-bashing rather than useful life advice. (although the new mods seem promising)

Also RPW is almost the LTR-version of redpill because I for one do not care or want short term flings. Yes sorry I am a man in this place but I have gotten express permission from dana over on the irc that it is okay to come post here.

The most interesting bits of the the redpill for me is the parts that lie in the gray area between TRP and RPW - the compromise that must ultimately happen but get's lost in the idealism that is spewed out constantly (not a bad thing, most new-comers need to be shocked but for us more older-piller's it gets tiring)

Edit: I'm also a total fanboy of TempestTcup and PhantomDream... their advice just makes me want to give them a strong handshake. #1Fan

[deleted] · 2014-05-04T00:39:52+00:00

Hi everyone! I know I'm a bit late to the part so I don't know if anyone will see this, but here goes.

I've been subscribed to RPW since last year and I've lurked here for even longer... I guess I was too nervous to make any comments or posts and "put myself out there", but seeing this post encouraged me to do so :)

I still can't believe just how much my outlook on everything has changed within the last year - it all feels so surreal. It started when I came across Karen Straughan a.k.a. GirlWritesWhat's videos on Youtube (I highly recommend them!), and from there I discovered the MRM, TRP, and finally RPW.

I'm so happy to see other young girls on this sub! I'm 18, and I was so relieved to find a place where I knew I wouldn't be crucified for having "warped", "backwards" or "outdated" opinions on men, women, dating, relationships, etc. While the majority of girls my age are out "finding themselves" and "being independent" (i.e. sleeping around and partying), I'm incredibly lucky to have a best friend who's on the same wavelength as myself and this sub. We do cute things like buying matching aprons for each other and cooking in them together (from Jessie Steele, if anyone's wondering) :) I should really encourage her to make a reddit account because she and I already read posts on this sub together!

Thank you to the mods and everyone else here for making the RPW community the wonderful place it is, and thank you for reminding me that improving myself and being honest with myself about what I want out of life is the only way I will ever truly be happy.

MrsKittenHeel · 2014-05-06T06:56:28+00:00

I understand and love that biologically there is a difference between men and women, and I embrace it.

I stumbed upon RPW I cant even remember how, but I have been lurking for a couple of weeks and decided to join :)

So hi :)

HappySnowGirl · 2014-04-30T18:58:50+00:00

Hello! I lurk and comment occasionally...if I have anything meaningful to add. I'm in my 30s, married for 10 years, three kids five and younger. I stumbled upon RP stuff while looking on advice on keeping marriage 'hot' after time and kids. Turns out I was a shrew and didn't know it, and things are rapidly turning around. It's amazing what a little info can do. Now I just have to work on my patience.

I have a few questions for the group that I haven't posted yet (all sex stuff, so at least it will be entertaining, lol). Truthfully, I haven't fully worked them out in my head yet. So, look for those coming sometime in the near future. :)

[deleted] · 2014-04-30T19:10:32+00:00

I've been a lurker since about 4500 and I've been watching that number steadily grow. Way to go RPW. ..here's to the next 5000

TheToastTot · 2014-04-30T21:05:07+00:00

Kinda still a newbie, just started posting a month ago.

I'm so glad I found this sub. It's really encouraged me to become a better person.

LaBlondeFille · 2014-04-30T21:59:30+00:00

I've been commenting a little, but writing is not my best medium. I have grown up knowing all this was so important. However, it is such a relief to know there are more women like me. Pleasing my man makes me feel good and makes me a happier, more content person.

God bless RPW

rhinelander · 2014-04-30T23:12:38+00:00

I posted this with a different account but it was removed because that account was too new. Luckily I remembered about a spare I have that's never been used. I have been lurking for a few months now under my main account though. I guess I'm what might be called "purple pill" so I don't agree on everything posted here, but I'm not here to argue with people! Just to improve. I don't post much even on my main account, so I won't be getting in any debates around here.

I come from a very liberal northern city but now live in the rural South, so I've seen a variety of lifestyles. In high school and somewhat in college I was pretty awkward and tomboyish. No surprise that I started a very masculine career after that, but I enjoy it and it's where I met my current boyfriend so I can't complain.

Right now I'm working on becoming more feminine, learning how to cook better (especially recipes for my bf, who dislikes most fruit and almost all vegetables), and tending to my first garden. I feel more content with life than ever before, so I'm happy with how things are progressing!

m0llywobbles · 2014-05-01T02:42:28+00:00

Hello! I'm fairly new, and I don't post a lot. I'm currently in a monogamous, LTR with a great man. We live out a lot of RP philosophies, although we've never really discussed it outside of my talks about how hard it is to have friends when I'm in a very liberal city--it's a lot easier to find poly, 3rd-wave feminists than it is to find girls with my interests and hobbies who aren't constantly spouting off. I would like to participate more/read more RPW blogs, but I have a hard time feeling like I'm not going to insult someone or get it completely wrong.

enna_ · 2014-05-01T18:44:42+00:00

Hi RPW. I am always too nervous to say anything, but I've been a long time lurker! I've always been RPW. Mom left when I was a kid and my father always valued my sister and I as treasures in his life, but had us be the women of the household (cooking, cleaning, caretaking of the chickens and such), and I didn't know the word for it (only some biblical things) and now, I'm young and about to be married and be a stay-at-home wife for the coolest guy ever :D (sooooon!)

I really want kids but I do plan to finish out college at some point very soon because you never know what can happen, and since I am pretty young I probably need to, but the field I am best at is heavily male dominated and I am rethinking all of that.

I'm a florist right now and I love flowers, cooking, crocheting, and makeup! :) I usually mind myself, because I am very nervous when talking to people online, but I'm working on it slowly but surely!

So that's a little bit about me, and hello! :3 Thanks for being here RPW, and being such a welcoming place ♥

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Yay! Excited that we're growing!

LadyLumen · 2014-04-30T17:10:17+00:00

Wow, I'm surprised how popular this has became. I'm a subscribed purple pill lady, but still check out this reddit for interesting tidbits and advice. Good job.

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happyhousewife1 · 2014-05-01T19:24:38+00:00

Hi :D I'm 22 and a housewife to my wonderful husband, 9 month old daughter and we have another daughter joining us in a few months :)

We naturally fit into very traditional gender roles so I joined here in hopes of bettering myself as a wife and to keep my mind focussed on more than just my children, which is surprisingly difficult, when you spend 24-7 caring for an infant you sometimes forget you are a wife too.

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buttholette · 2014-05-02T07:00:43+00:00

Newbie here. Thanks so much for everything. RPW deals in facts... I wish more of the world would too.

I came to lurk RPW via my husband discovering TRP.

webleytempest · 2014-05-02T17:14:57+00:00

I found this subreddit when someone on Askmen made a topic about which type of people would you prefer in terms of subreddits, for a relationship or something like this. A couple of people replied with this place (who coincidentally seemed to get voted down just for mentioning it), and I took a peek out of interest. I never knew it existed before that.

I lurk a lot, but for the most part I don't have a lot to contribute. I'm a 36 yr old virgin male, who's never been in a relationship or experienced affection or intimacy, and kind of don't really think I have a place in today's society (I'm shy, introverted, highly sensitive, fairly passive - and don't feel like a "man", though I am pretty sure if I did meet the right girl, she would definitely inspire me to become more than I am).

I learnt about redpill before this subreddit by a totally separate blog that people may or may not be familiar with. This place - http://therationalmale.com/. Quite an eye opener in some ways because in truth I was very naive and clueless about how both genders operate (sometimes without realising it themselves). So from purely an interest in intergender dynamics and my own curiosity, I found his site to be vastly illuminating. It also showed me numerous errors/flaws I had probably made in attempting to get to know a girl online a couple of years ago, which emotionally/spiritually destroyed me. Just to clarify: she didn't do that herself per se, but the process itself/end result did. I am selective in who I pursue because I feel I have to be, but nothing has ever amounted to anything so I feel pretty hopeless and jaded about that side of things.

Anyway, rambling aside. I felt like replying because it seemed friendly and invitational, but I really don't post a lot here, so my input probably doesn't have much consequence. It's a cool subreddit though. Thanks for reading.

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jhangel77 · 2014-05-14T00:09:57+00:00

Hey RPW:

I stumbled into this subreddit for the first time the day before yesterday. It was from a thread that was bashing RPW. (troll x and twox) I decided to come in here to this and what I saw was refreshing. I am ashamed to say that I listened before when most everyone there was saying RPW were just basically women that alphas could walk all over. The straw that broke the camels back was that it seemed like I was always getting downvoted a lot for bringing another opinion and view into the conversation. While I'm not 100% RP, I do think this sub has much better ideas and is more welcoming on stuff.

I want to say to you all: I'm sorry for believing what trollx and 2x said.

spence6 · 2014-05-03T03:24:59+00:00

lurker. Found this sub about a year ago, and it's changed my entire perception on relationships, and has helped me develop something truly special with my fiance.

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Title	We Hit 5000!! Lurkers and Newbies--Come out and Say "Hi!"
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	46
Comments	122
Date	April 30, 2014 1:57 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/24d84d/we_hit_5000_lurkers_and_newbiescome_out_and_say_hi/
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