Another beautiful interaction with my lovely wife I'd like some feedack on.
HER: Hey I turned in some of the babies clothes at a store and I have to return today to recieve what they will give for them (we previously agreed she can keep this money) They close at 8pm. Will you take care of the baby (in addition to my normal dities feeding, bathing, etc the older 2)
ME: I can do that but it won't be until 7:20pm after I finish feeding and bathing the others (as youve heard previously, she's given me weeks of hard no's, so I'm not in a particularly supplicating mood).
H: That wont give me enough time
M: You should have plenty of time to get there by 8, but if you feel that way you can take the baby with you
H: I am just going to go anyway. You do whatever you want.
M: Your responsibility is our children (she is a SAHM), this is how you provide value to the family. You're abandoning your responsibility. I told you the conditions under which I would help
H: That's fine. I'll take the baby, but whenever you want to go do something or hang out with your friends you're not allowed. Thats not a part of your work, your responsibility
H: slamming the door on the way out, yelling Next time you want to do something, you're not allowed. I'll remember this
She's gone now, in a rage. Advice going forward?
ETA I just texted her "Can you pick up some pullups for 3 year old while you are out"