On vacation. Every night I go have a cigar when family goes to bed. My wife is obese and I have posted here and at MRP about that. I am about six weeks into MRP.
So she texts me, complaining that I do this every night and it makes her feel like a babysitter.
Since I am not interested in making a sexual overture to defuse it (since I don't want it), and sure as hell am not going to apologize or DEER anymore about what I want to do, I decide to pressure flip.
I tell her to come join me as I would appreciate her company. Kids are old enough to take care of themselves.
She declined, and says kids are asleep and she doesn't want to (which I figured- she just wants to complain).
I STFU. Next text from her is "I am going to bed see you tomorrow." I reply with a kiss-blowing emoji. (Which I figure is the kiss her on the head to end it if it's a comfort test).
Given this is the first time I tried a strategy in response to a shit test, how was my response? Should I have made a playful sexual comment instead? Or something else?