Guys, I’m slowly trying to unfuck myself. My wife and I are separated and living in the same house. As some of you that have followed my posts know, I caught her cheating and called her out on it. She swung branches and said ILYBINILWY. I had already started to follow a loose version of the map on my own.
Since then I’ve read NMMNG,IFGWISN,MMSLP and a.m. half way through the rational male.
I’ve been trying to be a good dad and spends tons of time with the kids while I am living in the same house with them, and the divorce splitting of assets and finances have been done on our own without any fighting.
I’ve been going out doing my own thing and vaguely answering or changing the subject when she recently started to care where I’m going or where I have been.
I’ve been flirting with her and doing things like a&a when she shit tests and flirting with her daily. I have refused to text her unless it’s about logistics, otherwise I pick the phone up to talk to her about whatever.
Her long distance boy friend is coming into town the weekend and she is going to spend it with him obviously. She says she loves him yadda yadda. I just smile and change the subject. I don’t show her ever that it bothers me now.
Some weird things and I’m trying to make sure my interpretation is correct. She is being extremely nice and supportive. Texting me nice things saying good morning have a good day at work etc, she even tried to kiss me when I was locking eyes with her while cooking. I moved and said I’m not that easy anymore with a smile on my face and kept cooking.
Another thing that happened is she thinks I went on a date(which I did) and she kept asking me about her and what she looked like. I kept deflecting and said dinner was nice, or I’ll say I don’t kiss and tell with a smile on my face.
Is she being nice because I’m getting back to how I used to be and she is slowly getting attracted to me again, or is she just being nice to cover up what is really going on with our relationship?
I’m in the same boat if she leaves or stays, so at this point I just keep reading, working out and slaying it as a dad.
This should be fun. Did I handle it wrong?