Q4RP: What will you tell your sons when they get their hearts broken?

[deleted] · 2018-08-10T23:32:24+00:00

Same thing my dad told me.

"Women come and go, let's go golfing".

I wasn't raised to focus on women, and if i had a son he wouldn't be ethier.

Salty-Bastard · 2018-08-10T20:15:27+00:00

I told him its okay to be angry, emotional, and confused. Its how you process those feelings that are important. Take your time healing so you heal proper. Love yourself above everyone else.

Everybody should have their heart broken at least once.

I started early so my first one was at about 15 y old.

[deleted] · 2018-08-10T19:53:22+00:00

Id tell him it sucks and feels like it's the end of the world but it's not and if he puts his mind to it he can get better girls and turn her into a bad distant memory. Being able to deal with stuff is the makings of a man

cxj · 2018-08-10T19:49:15+00:00

The same thing I tell the youngbloods I "mentor" on the touring rock music circuit: life is rough and unpredictable and you will get hurt. There is nothing you can do to avoid heartbreak. There is no tried and true, safe way to live, because life is inherently unsafe. You can get used and played by a girl you had genuine feelings for, harden your heart, play 10-20 girls in a row in 4-8 months of touring one year, easy, then get used, played and heartbroken again, then feel even worse because you know you deserved it for doing the same shit, then move on for more pussy and another reckless attempt at a relationship with someone as damaged as you.

This is what life is about. "Stability" came from the church, obedience to god/authority, 9-5 jobs, etc. Our music, our culture, our entire lives, are a rebellion against that, because it is a false narrative and a false promise. Pain isn't something to avoid, its a part of life to be embraced. It's the price you pay to fuck hot young things, get your music heard on stage, tell your boss to shove it, to really truly live.

You've only got one life, and no time to waste being sad and miserable,, you need to move on with the pain and get what life has to offer: art, music, pussy, money, friends, good times, video games etc.

You were never going to escape pain, if this hadn't gotten you, something else would have. Pain is a sign you are truly living.

Khiv_ · 2018-08-10T22:56:57+00:00

"Don't worry, my child, you are stronger than you think. After all, you survived 3 attempts of an abortion."

Gravel_Roads · 2018-08-10T22:08:58+00:00

I’d probably do for a son the same I do for all my other friends and family that have been in this position: Take them out for gelato, maybe catch a hockey game, play their favorite video game with them or, if the break is real bad, I’d let them lounge around eating hot soup or brownies or whatever and hang out watching nature documentaries on YouTube.

Because breakups are inevitable and there’s no actual solution to the pain other than to re-learn new habits that don’t involve the person that broke their heart. That’s it. That’s the only healthy option. I’d simply encourage them to focus on the things they have that they still enjoy about their lives and maybe encourage them to enjoy the benefits of being single while the wounds heal (ie. help them use all that extra time getting their lives optimal. Help them clean their house or have a garage sale or get rid of items that remind them of the person. Accomplish some goal for the year like going camping or hit a certain weight goal ect.)

Anything that reminds them that they like themselves independently.

As for me, I guess my biggest heartbreak was the end of my first LTR. We’d been together for 8 years and I always spent the holidays with her family because mine is kind of garbage. The first time holidays rolled around when I was single again put me in a pretty black depression for a while as I went through them alone in a new city. I was 27.

SirNemesis · 2018-08-11T16:04:31+00:00

How does a TRPer who spins plates till his dying day end up with sons?

swl016 · 2018-08-10T21:47:41+00:00

Would tell him every man goes through it so he just needs to push through like everyone else did.

oftheinfinite · 2018-08-10T22:29:41+00:00

I'll tell him the truth first (he's not attractive/he's ugly) and not to even bother going for attractive women again.

LUClEN · 2018-08-11T00:50:23+00:00

"Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again, but life goes on."

[deleted] · 2018-08-11T03:15:32+00:00

Try with another girl. Even if there is no romance you might make a good friend.

Pope_Lucious · 2018-08-11T13:51:18+00:00

I would give him a hug and tell him I’m proud of him for crossing through this tough life experience. If he has a personality which copes by relating to similar experiences in others, I may also talk about a time I had my heart broken so he feels less alone.

My advice would be something like,

“I know it feels really bad now son, but no woman is worth your personal development. Keep doing things which make you strong and I promise you your life will get better not just with women, but with everything.”

Iron-Giant169 · 2018-08-12T15:43:04+00:00

Love is trash, here’s some whiskey

themormonchurch · 2018-08-13T16:48:55+00:00

I'd tell him it's time to fuck all her friends.

And her sister too, if she has one.

jax006 · 2018-08-10T19:39:50+00:00

I'd tell them to put it outta mind and that theres plenty of other chicks out there and regardless of all that YOURE the only person who can make YOU happy forget the whole Disney love shit.

I'd also wager to say I've never had my heart broken :D

poppy_blu · 2018-08-10T19:55:38+00:00

Realize that TRPs want their sons to never marry or fall in love, just keep being plate spinning Chads until their dying day.

Heh, No, why would you think that? We want our children to know there is a great tool exist, TRP, That it expains a lot of what happened and if they want to, they can use it to be chads, but we will not force them into it. We will just warn them about the feminine normal behavior.

Not every man can deal with such a life. You work so hard just for sex? after your teens this loses interest quickly. I couldn't be an chad forever for example, I hate socializing, and with passion and my son would probably get that too, as I got it from my own dad. I just hope my son will not suffer as much as I did before getting to this tool.

What will you tell your sons?

"It hurts right? I am here for you, there will be more woman, lets have a bbq this weekend, okay?" like any father. I would in another moment tell him about my views on this and how he can improve himself. If he takes after me, he will be chad for some years then get annoyed and leave such a life. Not everyone want to die a chad, most do want commitment and love. We just have a hard time finding someone worth giving those.

What advice will you give them?

"It happens, You didn't have enough value, You know there was a hypotheses called TRP in my days, wanna hear it?"

After telling him if he agrees I would ask: "What do you think? can you see where you can improve? I have some savings, lets do it". And put him in a gym or help him with social skills and everything else he may need. to find his next girl and avoid having their heart broken.

Bonus question (if you dare): how old were you when you first had your heart broken? It doesn't have to be in the context of a relationship. It could be the girl you had a crush on who broke your heart when she started dating the quarterback.

Hum, heartbroken by a crush I think around 10-11 years old, Yasmin, her name, that's most of what I remember, she said mean things but I cannot remember exactly what, I know it was something about being fat. (which at the time I was)

Heartbroken by a girl in a relationship, was when I discovered a girl I was dating had cheated on me with a friend of my brother, I think I was 14, not sure.. That did hit hard. First time feeling directly the face of hypergamy. I remember I cried a lot and stopped going to school and the gym for a week to play video games. I was too green for that age.

blackedoutfast · 2018-08-10T20:57:41+00:00

"son, remember the words of the great reverend doctor - 'bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks. we don't love them hoes' ... now quit being a crybaby emo pussy and go fuck 10 other women and you won't even remember this one."

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TheGreasyPole · 2018-08-10T20:51:05+00:00

Plenty more fish in the sea.

the_calibre_cat · 2018-08-11T19:56:09+00:00

Man up, get used to it, find some productive avenues to direct the anger and sadness towards, that time heals all wounds and there are many fish in the sea.

newName543456 · 2018-08-13T08:58:55+00:00

Sth like this.

Brazilian_Slaughter · 2018-08-10T21:28:15+00:00

You felt. Mistake.

I never felt in love. Thank God.

Wallstreet3 · 2018-08-10T20:58:30+00:00

I'd say 'Told you so' and 'this is what women are, this thing that you list after, drool over, desire, this is what she is' and I'd end it with 'bitches ain't shit bit hoes and tricks'.

abaxeron · 2018-08-10T23:40:08+00:00

What will you tell your sons? What advice will you give them?

"Sad indeed. Now wipe your nose, get back to homework, thank the fate that you still have homework because she didn't decide to ruin you, and pray that she isn't pregnant with your kid, and you aren't infected with her pathogens. Or, again, thank the fate that you're sure she isn't pregnant with your kid. We still both have a lot of work to do; I'm counting on you in the shed this Saturday; this project we're doing isn't going to finish itself."

Bonus question (if you dare): how old were you when you first had your heart broken?

I have a problem remembering the experience that would qualify. Deep emotional dissatisfaction because of non-reciprocal attraction? - Let's say around 15. I always had issues with getting over break-ups, but "broken heart" is something that leaves you mentally shattered. If we place the threshold there, then I was 25 and got my very first divorce :)

prodigy2throw · 2018-08-10T20:06:17+00:00

If my son gets his “heart broken” he’s too far gone and I have failed as a father. You gotta buy a new son when that happens

rathyAro · 2018-08-10T19:33:44+00:00

Focus on money

It's pretty much the only thing that matters in real life

Title	Q4RP: What will you tell your sons when they get their hearts broken?
Author	poppy_blu
Upvotes	12
Comments	107
Date	August 10, 2018 7:25 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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