A lot of people who whine day in and day out about relationships on here and outside the Internet are struggling because they fail to take responsibility for themselves and instead want other people to do it for them. Insecure, anxious women want a man to come in, sweep them off their feet, and make them feel 'safe' (wtf does that even mean in the 21st century US unless you live in the hood) and weak, insecure men want a woman who will stroke his ego and deliberately downplay her own positive traits to make him feel better because he refuses to challenge himself and take action (towards goals, a specific achievement, etc.) to provide that fulfillment for himself.

If everyone would learn and struggle to fulfill themselves FIRST, they'd be less disappointed in relationships and what the opposite gender does. Women need to grow up and learn emotional coping techniques. Men need to grow up and find something to DO that will give them the ego satisfaction they crave. Period.