CMV: If a woman is repulsed by the idea of giving a blowjob to her husband, she is not sexually attracted to him

GregariousWolf · 2016-01-30T17:11:01+00:00

By specifying a particular sex act, I think you weaken your argument. I dated a girl once who was repulsed by french kissing but was dtf.

I think a better way of setting this question up would be to ask is or is not your willingness to experiment sexually related to the level of attraction you feel for a partner?

NalkaNalka · 2016-01-30T15:38:08+00:00

Ugh I hate this type of threads. OP has to overshoot a bit by saying "all" instead of "almost all" then we get 100 odd comments of pedantic nitpicking.

OPs, stop using the word "all" in your posts. You are just poisoning the well of your own thread.

Ichtragebrille · 2016-01-30T09:09:56+00:00

Ehhhhhh I mean, I mostly agree. I generally think that giving sexually is a huge sign of attraction, so even if she's not the biggest blowjob fan, it should be done occasionally as a compromise. But I also find women who are entirely repulsed by giving head to be pretty rare. There's a difference between disliking the act and disliking the person.

GratefullyGodless · 2016-01-30T17:52:17+00:00

When my wife and I started dating, I asked her for a BJ and she obliged me, and then threw up all over the place after I came. So, I told her I wouldn't ask her to do that again, and even though we've been married over 30 years now, I never have.

But, just because she doesn't give me BJs does not mean that she's not sexually attracted to me, or I her. We have plenty of other ways to satisfy each other without her having to do something she doesn't enjoy, and which would kill the moment instead of helping things get hotter.

A good sexual relationship comes from finding the things you BOTH enjoy sexually and doing those things, not just selfishly asking for those things that satisfy you only.

ianturpiesmoustache · 2016-01-30T09:05:42+00:00

That entirely depends on whether she's repulsed by the idea of giving a blowjob, or repulsed by the idea of giving a blowjob to him. If it's the latter, I agree.

artichokess · 2016-01-30T10:04:00+00:00

Giving oral sex has never felt sexual to me. I do it to make the other person happy and because I want them to reciprocate. The performance of the act itself has nothing to do with attraction because it isn't arousing (for me).

hippydipster · 2016-01-30T13:05:24+00:00

I need your view on this thread first: https://np.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/42yz1i/back_rubs/

If a husband dislikes giving his wife backrubs, is he sexually attracted to her? (paying special attention to Archwinger's solution on how to get out of giving backrubs to wives, of course)

cookiebootz · 2016-01-30T18:41:52+00:00

Would all it take to change your view be a woman is a woman who says she's not into BJs at all but still experiences sexual attraction? If not then what kind of evidence would be sufficient?

For a lot of people, yeah this would be true. I can't personally imagine being disgusted by the idea of giving a guy a BJ and still being attracted to him. But not everyone experiences or expresses attraction in the same way.

Edit: I want to add a caveat, that I'm comfortable sleeping with a guy before I'm comfortable blowing him since it seems a little more intimate to me. There's a window of time where I am attracted to him but the idea of a BJ makes me uncomfortable. I don't think I'm alone in this so I guess take that however you will when it comes to your question.

[deleted] · 2016-01-30T15:17:01+00:00

I pretty much agree. Even if a woman detests a sex act she is going to do it if she is attracted to her partner. If she doesn't suck dick or give ass but did it to a previous boyfriend/hook-up.. congratulations, you da beta bux.

ozymandias271 · 2016-01-30T16:38:14+00:00

Some people just don't like giving head. The world is wide and full of many things. It doesn't mean you have to date them, but it also doesn't mean they don't want to fuck you senseless.

Nistan30 · 2016-01-30T08:59:43+00:00

Why do you think that the person isn't sexually attracted to the spouse and not in the act?

Moolg86 · 2016-01-30T09:05:44+00:00

If I was repulsed by the idea of going down on a girl, I probably am not that sexually attracted to her.

can confirm lol, but I once dated a girl who claimed to have been orally molested and was a vegan as a result of it, never did get her to blow me, but I could tell she was definitely into me regardless, ate her out too ^{.^}

insurrecto · 2016-01-30T18:24:27+00:00

Additionally, I believe this the other way for myself, If I was repulsed by the idea of going down on a girl, I probably am not that sexually attracted to her

Well, the penis is of course cleaner than a vagina, which is why vaginas always smell bad (bacteria live in there). I don't like to go down on a woman unless she has good hygiene and just took a shower.

Due to anatomy differences, I don't think it's fair to compare blowjobs to eating a chick out.

[deleted] · 2016-01-30T19:24:34+00:00

Umm no.

[deleted] · 2016-01-30T22:32:59+00:00

I never liked them...and I have terrible gag reflexes. That being said I don't except oral from him because I don't like giving oral.

And just...warm goop in the mouth...it's not pleasant. Which is why I don't swallow if I do, do them.

dragoness_leclerq · 2016-01-30T10:38:54+00:00

If a woman is just flat out not into blowjobs then she's just not into blowjobs. She could find you to be the most attractive man she's ever been with and still not be down to take your dick in her mouth. Maybe she had a bad experience with her high school bf where she threw up on him during a BJ? Maybe she just absolutely cannot stand the taste/texture/smell of cum or precum. Maybe her gag reflex is super sensitive? Hell, maybe she just doesn't care for BJs because she gets zero sexual pleasure out of it.

That sort of thing often has fuck all to do with raw sexual attraction. A woman could need a change of panties every time you text her phone and still not be inclined to suck your dick,

You people need to stop lying to yourselves - and each other - about how a woman would do annything if she's really sexually attracted to a guy. Because it's not true.

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[deleted] · 2016-01-30T15:30:04+00:00

You're correct. No need to change your view.

[deleted] · 2016-01-30T15:33:31+00:00

Anyone else ever having sex with a woman they find really physically attractive, you go down to eat her out and her pussy smells funky?

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[deleted] · 2016-02-01T01:53:58+00:00

It depends if she had did it with other guys or not. If she never did it with other guys she had then you could accept that. If she sucked other men off but then doesnt for you? Then shes not attracted to you. Now virgin or not if she is repulsed and doesn't give it a chance for you then ya still not attracted.

Locastor · 2016-02-01T06:42:20+00:00

As long as a woman enjoys penetration to completion with a man and is inviting and eager for it, she is attracted to him.

midnightvulpine · 2016-01-30T11:19:27+00:00

Then the same could be said for any guy who won't eat out his woman. He must not be attracted to her, right? I'm sure we can add even more sex acts to that list as well.

summit_girl · 2016-01-30T12:10:22+00:00

More information is needed on that. I like giving blowjobs quite a lot, and from what I've talked with my girl friends, almost all of us like oral sex, giving and receiving.

However, willingness to give blowjobs, in my case, depend heavily on hygiene, whether the guy is as least trimmed down there, and the way is tastes (I've been with two guys whose precum tasted horrible, in the sense of disgusting/nauseating).

In any case, these things need to be discussed at the beginning of a relationship IMHO.

betterdeadthanbeta · 2016-01-30T09:35:28+00:00

For example, if a woman, wants to give her husband head but it's painful because his penis is huge and doesn't really fit in her mouth, that doesn't count.

Whew! I was worried for a second there.

Title	CMV: If a woman is repulsed by the idea of giving a blowjob to her husband, she is not sexually attracted to him
Author	gavinok
Upvotes	18
Comments	138
Date	January 30, 2016 8:54 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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