Thought experiment for women, but men can participate:

  • Pretend that you are with your SO, who is everything you could have dreamed of

  • He is attractive to you, great in bed, smart, funny, well-read, well dressed, has the moral fiber that you would like a man to have, same values, and makes great romantic gestures.

  • Now pretend, you browse his history and find out that he's been part of a "dating strategy guide". This guide is not TRP.

  • On the guide, however, you find that his entire personality, his witticism, his romantic gestures, and all the things that made you fall for him were based on/inspired by this guide

  • The guide itself does not have anything that offend you, however.

Does finding out about this guide make you feel less attracted to your SO of your dreams?

Do you feel manipulated in any way?

Would you prefer if all of his mannerisms were actually naturally borne, and not inspired by this guide?