Sued old plate who owed me $2500 and things have gotten really nasty - how to proceed?

Giulio_Evola · 2019-11-08T14:20:59+00:00

You're a fucking muppet for loaning some cunt $2.5k.

babybopp · 2019-11-08T13:49:39+00:00

Crocodile tears man...

Get your money back. If she had just ghosted u then I would have some empathy towards her. She went overboard and talked shit about u. What u can do to soften is tell her that you are going to reduce it to 100 and that’s it. She probably still talks shit about u

yettymonkey · 2019-11-08T13:52:55+00:00

Stand your ground! Remain stoic and if anything her “new boyfriend” can loan her the money to pay you back lol. Her money issues are NOT your problem. Let this be a lesson to you not to date/have relations with broke women.

Yashugan00 · 2019-11-08T14:33:23+00:00

Briffault's Law every time.

when she asked for a "loan", women don't mean that like a man does. words are mutable and redefined to mean what they want it to mean (hence why our society is suddenly so engrossed in the meaning and definition of words, it's the female frame)

she never intended to pay you back. and then she relied on cutting you off (because you are just a tool for her desires), then pre-emptively slander you (so what you say is just you being butthurt and she retains her halo). and then , she started shaming you to back off (this is what Ester Vilar calls the ultimate purpose of the church: honour and manly virtues are twisted as manipulation tools)

none of this was accidental. it didn't just happen and you were unfortunate to be stuck with the check.. it is all part of the female instinct.

go dispationately scorched earth on her. women are never held accountable and then they laugh and brag to their friends what they got away with. it's all a game to them.

hoopingblob · 2019-11-08T14:06:39+00:00

My family orginated from sically and my great grandfather used to be a Don (he died of cancer) anyways he always told me those lines

"se tu ti fai figare di uno tutti ti figano"

Translation: "if you let yourself get fucked by one everybody is going to fuck you"

It doesn't matter if you need the money its about the principle of not fucking with you.

NorsemanLewis · 2019-11-08T13:45:22+00:00

Two sides of the coin.

On the one - taking the stoic approach and swallowing your pride. Yes this is the weaker approach and will just let her get away with stepping all over you (assuming that is the case and there is no other reason for cutting you out).

On the other - let one step on you and you open the door to allow others to do the same in the future. Not only that it is extremely rude to cut you off the way she did, but also knowing she owes you 2.5k? It doesnt matter whether you need this money or not, you did not give it to charity, you helped her in the time of need and she decided to spit on you right after. For what you care, she can go and ask her new boyfriend for the money, as playing the victim and crying to you after being disrespectful will not work.

That is a pickle situation but I would go with the latter. All she had to do if this was me in your shoes, is to simply talk to me and I would part ways peacefully. Spread rumors and be rude af? Nah son.

audacious_wirble · 2019-11-08T14:11:06+00:00

This does not seem like a rp question. It reminds me of Dave Ramsey teachings. This may be your "stupid tax". You should never loan anyone money. If the banks wont loan them money, what makes you think they will pay you back?

If you choose to let this go, then for your future self you can decide to gift money from then on.

Best way to ruin ANY relationship is to loan money. It creates a slave /master and is very toxic for both parties.

Hope that helps!

Blackhawk2479 · 2019-11-08T15:04:08+00:00

Or do I act empathetic and let it go

Sure, if you want to get played by the same girl twice.

What the fuck is wrong with you?

Massap24 · 2019-11-08T13:54:13+00:00

I’m not going to comment on how beta it was to give a plate $2500(oops). Anyway I would let this shit go and move on, that’s just my personality though. In reality you fucked up when you lent a broke person $2500 and expected to even get $50 of that back. Based on that alone I would’ve took my beating like a man and learned a hard ass lesson. Considering she’s already paying you back though and you’ve already done court work, keep accepting the money until she eventually stops. If she’s really broke she won’t be able to maintain that.

interst3llar · 2019-11-08T14:24:14+00:00

amend the complaint to seek additional damages for intentional infliction of emotional distress

Gaidsbola · 2019-11-08T14:51:40+00:00

So.... what I’ve learned is op is poor and a beta provider. Stop being poor and a beta provider.

Ant1matter8 · 2019-11-08T14:09:49+00:00

Loaned 2500$ to a girl you were friends with lol.

I mean it's 2500$, worth fighting for imo, you sound like a pussy, focus on the money, what she feels or does is not part of the equasion, that is her own problem.

TheLastKitKat · 2019-11-08T14:38:16+00:00

So wait. The girl stole you, ghosted you, and spread rumors on you, and you feel empathetic about her feelings over the fact that she owes you money ?

Take the money back and never talk to her. She's not your friend, she's not your girlfriend, she's just someone that owes you $2500, and she's the one that put herself in this position.

MattyAnon · 2019-11-08T14:59:45+00:00

Her most recent email, which has hit me somewhat emotionally, is that I'm horrible for putting such pressure on her before Christmas and she's going to pay $140 a week at the expense of her bills and food to get it back to me.

She believes she is entitled to your free money and you are a bad man for asking for it back. This is an entitlement problem. This is how people respond to free help, so learn this lesson well.

What I am asking here is: do I hold my ground and get my money back even though I don't really need it and it's obviously causing her grief?

It's not causing her grief, she's trying to manipulate you into letting her off.

Other than that, this is entirely your choice.

Or do I act empathetic and let it go, even though I think she will still hate me because of the fact I went to the effort of suing her.

She'll hate and disrespect you either way, you've learned that much already.

Dependants get entitled, manipulative and ungrateful, this is a weird and twisted but reliable fact about the world.

EDIT: AS WEIRD AS IT SOUNDS, I don't want her to fucking hate me, but I'm not sure if it's too late. I'm trying to find a balance of how best to approach.

You need to weigh up the money versus her hating you. You need her to like you ...... which is already fucking weak. She's exploited this already and will continue to do so. She knows how to get to you.

But..... ultimately..... this is all just your choice.

TacticalTacktleneck · 2019-11-08T18:20:02+00:00

Goes without saying that your first error was lending money to her.

But then she‘s got the audacity to bail on the payment and slander you? I‘d have a hard time keeping my cool in your stead.

I don’t know why you’re not going nuclear on this woman (cause I know I would, but whatever), so give her a choice: Full repayment in whatever rates you see fit, no matter how long it takes OR complete and total destruction in court.

Bitches need to learn that actions have consequences.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2019-11-09T12:55:38+00:00

She was struggling financially and I loaned her $2500.

I see where you went wrong.

NEVER “loan” people money, especially broke ass MFers who can’t handle money.

Things happened and she never got around to paying it.

Funny how that happens.

“dirt broke struggling to pay her bills and eat”

Blah, blah, blah.

Her most recent email, which has hit me somewhat emotionally

Stop being a faggot. Did you think she was going to think it was cool that you sued her?

is that I'm horrible for putting such pressure on her before Christmas

No hamster ever accepts responsibility. She’s a dead beat and some how that’s YOUR fault.

and she's going to pay $140 a week at the expense of her bills and food to get it back to me.

She might pay you something once but I doubt it.

do I hold my ground and get my money back even though I don't really need it and it's obviously causing her grief?

No, you invent a fucking time machine, go back to the past and the. do not loan her the $$$, retard.

Or do I act empathetic and let it go, even though I think she will still hate me because of the fact I went to the effort of suing her.

Spoiler Alert: she already hates you.

EDIT: AS WEIRD AS IT SOUNDS, I don't want her to fucking hate me, but I'm not sure if it's too late. I'm trying to find a balance of how best to approach.

She already hates you. And broke ass losers never pay. And WTF do you care about some bitch who trashed your rep? Tell her to get the $$$ from her bf.

Also, go over to r-legal advice and as what a “confession of judgment” is, because you should condition any settlement in it. Agree to knock off $500 if she agrees to one. And then go punch yourself in the dick 10 times for being so stupid.

impotentludius · 2019-11-08T13:58:56+00:00

id say change your principles.

loan only amounts of money that you can forget about, if they pay you back great. if they dont they have shown their true faces.

Borsao66 · 2019-11-08T14:11:28+00:00

https://youtu.be/78-4RobJQ0Y

Patches0wholahan · 2019-11-08T14:22:51+00:00

Proceed. In the future when lining money always get interest back.

Bobby_Says_No · 2019-11-08T14:36:35+00:00

I wouldn't let the money go, but if you honestly are in no rush to get the money and don't need it, why not maybe wait until the new year for her starting to pay you back?

You honestly shouldn't care what she thinks about you either, she is clearly a piece of shit, lending all that money then doing a runner....

red_philosopher · 2019-11-08T14:43:20+00:00

Nah, fuck her. If she wants to treat you like shit, she gets the stick. Hell, if it was a loan I would still expect it to be paid back, though I would be very flexible about it if she was nice about it.

You've got a judgement and she reaps what she sows. Let it be a lesson to her.

ganz_allein · 2019-11-08T15:15:10+00:00

Get your money back. Donate it to charity, spend it on hookers, strip clubs, myfreecams, buying a boss soundbar, buy your siblings gifts - whatever the fuck you want to do. Just don’t be a chuck and give it to an ungrateful cunt who would talk shit about you.

__TheDon__ · 2019-11-08T15:22:44+00:00

Get your money back, and stop giving a fuck what people think. Especially those who hustled your ass.

RStonePT · 2019-11-08T15:23:35+00:00

I do ok for myself financially

Not so well if you can't chalk up 2500 as the price to ditch this chick from your life.

Her most recent email, which has hit me somewhat emotionally,

If you took her to court, you shouldn't be saying fuck all until your court date. Since she asked to negotiate a settlement, either accept it, or don't.

EDIT: AS WEIRD AS IT SOUNDS, I don't want her to fucking hate me,

yes, a lot of dependant men are terrified of someone not liking them. I'll save you the trouble, she already hates you, now either drop it or follow through.

blysol · 2019-11-08T15:27:00+00:00

There's a appropriate decision based on the timeline of events

When she initially asked: don't give money to plates
After she ghosted you: let it go and move on
After you took her to court: follow through on your decision

You can't go back in the past.

PerplexingPegasus_ · 2019-11-08T15:54:36+00:00

Get your money back brother, she had enough time to earn it while she ghosted you.

If she’s truly broke as she says, defer payment to the start of the year or 100 every week.

BPasFuck · 2019-11-08T16:06:12+00:00

Everybody's pretty much telling you what you need to hear. And you seem to be listening, even though you still try and defend and rationalize some of your behavior and feelings.

These are the remains of your blue-pill beta nice guy delusions waking up and lifting their heads inside you. You need to ruthlessly suppress that shit.

Here's how it is:

You made a choice to pursue this through the courts. It's too late to back out now, without looking like even more of a pussy chump. The only thing to do now, is to ride it out, and get your fuckin' money.

Fact is, anyone that hears this story, will respect you more for it, than they will if it ends with you doing the equivalent of: "Haha, j/k, I don't really want the money. You can keep it, bb."

If you don't really want the money, than you admit that this is about her and her attention. You admit that you are a 4th rate loser and a 1st class dumbfuck.

So, don't do that.

As for her hating you: Too late. She already did-- plus a side of contempt when she started spreading rumors.

Pursue your money ruthlessly, but coldly. Nothing personal. Just righteous. You may find her willing to plate herself down the road, when she breaks up with her boyfriend.

MrSpearmint · 2019-11-08T17:12:09+00:00

Man if I were in your shoes I would just cut the bs and ghost the girl forever, drop all the charges and just forget the money. Carrying on with this bs will only give you headaches and stress and a lot of time lost in court rooms etc.. Just see this as a lesson of life and don’t give anybody money.

I am giving you this advice since you said you are financially sound and your mental wellbeing is more important than this thief.

hmsthinkingmeat · 2019-11-08T17:26:13+00:00

She used crocodile tears to scam 2500 out of you and you fell for it.

Now she's using crocodile tears to scam you so she doesn't have to pay it back - and you're falling for it.

"What should I do?" - fuck the bitch over like she tried to fuck you over, who cares if she has to struggle to pay her dues.

It's people letting them get away with this shit that causes a snowball effect leading to even more entitled shit from them.

Man up, grow some balls, and don't lend any more money to any more hoes.

In my case I applied for child support from my ex and she turned up on my doorstep crying she couldn't afford to pay and would need to go bankrupt.

I told her to go away, then voluntarily reduced the amount she has to pay - not because I felt sorry for her, but because I know she has financially screwed herself because the dummy still has copies of her bank statements coming to my email address.

If she went bankrupt I'd get nothing, so I worked out what she could afford to pay and told her to pay that.

Tears are the weapons women use to manipulate you.

Fuck em all.

TheGoblinTurkey · 2019-11-08T17:52:32+00:00

I don't think you know what plate means

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2019-11-08T18:42:09+00:00

First off, youre a moron for loaning her money. Second, do not budge. Take her to court if need be.

Spaghetti1776 · 2019-11-08T18:57:53+00:00

Get your money back. She is trash. Use as much force as possible, don’t just trust her.

FlyingSexistPig · 2019-11-08T22:26:37+00:00

Those are crocodile tears she's crying. Stand your ground.

You didn't give her the money, you loaned it to her.

power_cleaner · 2019-11-09T01:41:09+00:00

Never loan money and expect it back

Take her to small claims court

nycitties · 2019-11-09T02:01:05+00:00

Don’t let this bitch cloud your logic with her emotions. Yeah it’s Christmas for you too. That 2.5k you could’ve used for your winter vacation you deserve.

Carry on

FightGuard · 2019-11-09T11:20:37+00:00

You thought the world of a girl who was cheating on her boyfriend with you?

interst3llar · 2019-11-09T11:44:48+00:00

No we slept together before she got with him.

btrpb · 2019-11-08T13:50:52+00:00

GetBehindMeSatan666 · 2019-11-08T14:33:35+00:00

Drop this bitch and the law suit. What in the fuck? First off youre a moron for lending some broke broad that much.

You lost dude. Accept that. You got taken advantage off. It happens to betas. You suing her is just prolonging the time and energy you need to put into her. "I dont want her to fucking hate me" Really??? Really? You really are a stupid ass beta suing a woman over 2 grand is itself a beta move just like you loaning it was in the first place... There is no balance. You fucked up. Move on with your life.

Dont loan broke people over 2k+ and expect to get anything back in the future.

Title	Sued old plate who owed me $2500 and things have gotten really nasty - how to proceed?
Author	interst3llar
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Comments	184
Date	November 8, 2019 1:35 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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