I’ll start off with stating I’ve half assed the side bar and only briefly participated in OYS. I found it difficult to stay consistent when I was lying to myself about what my intentions were. I could go into the specifics, but at the end of the day I’m just not excited for marriage, not exactly happy with my relationship, and fucking myself financially. I’m in no place to lead myself through life, much less another human. Marriage isn’t going to fix this, and there’s no point of considering repairing this after calling it off. I did not propose for the right reasons. I’m 27, she’s 26, we’ve been together since highschool, engaged for nearly 1 year, 7 mos to the wedding.
What do I need to consider before moving forward on this? We share an apartment with 6 months left on the lease. She’s on my credit card. We have 2 cats, I would only want 0 or 1 of them. She’s in grad school living off of loans and my assistance. Her parents are broke and she will be a little more than screwed financially for a while, plus they aren’t close to the school so she wouldn’t be able to stay with them.
Then there’s the hooked venue and photographer, ring, DJ, etc that’s been partially payed for. I still care about her, a lot, which is largely what’s made this so difficult to decide on. That and my track record of indecision. There’s going to be significant fallout with friends and family, but that’s just part of it. Go ahead and call me out on my shit, but I’m really looking for some logistical answers here from guys who have done this or gone through a divorce.