I’m washing my hands of my pickme friend.

souredskittles · 2021-01-06T02:08:37+00:00

Honestly I’m done giving pickmes advice. They usually do this crap where they avoid putting up standards and then you have to sit and listen later about how he’s so horrible.

NoisyBubbles · 2021-01-06T01:58:49+00:00

It's infuriating to see your beautiful friends grasp at CRUMBS and then come tell you about it. Why send the screenshots and ask for advice if they never fucking listen? I have two friends that are doing this right now and I just stop engaging when they bring up their dating life.

Breesasha · 2021-01-06T02:03:28+00:00

Yes, it's a big deal to them. They want someone to say that they should stick it out or that the guy isn't so bad. If you say the obvious like they should leave or it's abuse, they immediately defend the guy.

GettingOffTheCrazy · 2021-01-06T05:37:03+00:00

What the heck is a "co-working date"?

entpgirl415 · 2021-01-06T03:28:54+00:00

At least you’re getting these responses! My pickme friends legit question and kind of belittle my standards. It’s gotten to a point where I promised myself I’m not talking to them about dating anymore 😅

pinkcloudzzz · 2021-01-06T04:04:23+00:00

It goes in one ear and out the other. I have a friend like this. I’ve spent hours trying to explain this shit to her but she never changes. It has to come from within.

HottPinkSlug · 2021-01-06T06:18:16+00:00

Some Pick Me's do this to everyone. I had to stop talking to my worst Pick Me friend after I figured out she was straddling both sides, telling me what I wanted to hear then doing the opposite with her SO. I realized then I had no idea what she was really like because she was such a people pleaser

biggestsigh · 2021-01-06T02:15:39+00:00

You can only do what you can do.

gutsandgorey · 2021-01-06T17:34:52+00:00

Going through this with my friend too. She's meeting up with her first "love" after spending 2 years crying to me about how he cheated on her, disrespected her, gave her an eating disorder, and ghosted her. I tried to talk her out of it but she got snippy with me.

warinmymind94 · 2021-01-06T07:47:10+00:00

Oh my God. Seems like that "date" is him going to her house and she does his work for him 🤡🤡 yikes. Its hard to deal with pickme friends. You've grown into a wonderful HVW and have queen energy, and that results in outgrowing pickme/ lv friends. If she works with you though just distance yourself as much as possible.

2021-01-06T07:34:17+00:00

I have a pick me friend and it's such shame that she works so hard for male attention. We spent new years eve together and she spent half of the time worrying about which selfie to send to this guy that she likes🙄

I decided I'm not gonna give her any advice and I won't initiate any conversations about men. She's a great friend, I'm just disappointed she's a pick me.

Gourmay · 2021-01-06T19:56:11+00:00

Two of my friends are still pickmes and desperate to be in real long-terms relationships. All the while dating narcs on OLD who ghost them after sex and then telling me that they hope they can stay friends. I’m trying to tell them all the time that they deserve so much better but I’m genuinely starting to wonder when enough will be enough for them.

Title	I’m washing my hands of my pickme friend.
Author	randomdazee
Upvotes	131
Comments	24
Date	January 6, 2021 1:29 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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