This post turned out to be an essay, so ADHD kids, you better pop that addy before reading on.
I find myself posting on TRP whenever I do some heavy introspecting for a few days. It is a great platform to flesh out my thoughts, see them in writing (which helps reinforce beliefs immensely, also why I suggest people write in a journal), and provide insight and value to those just getting started with TRP, or those further along in their journey.
I have been reading TRP for a little over a year at this point.
The Path to Becoming an Alpha
We all know the blueprint to becoming an alpha, it has been echoed here many times:
Lift hard, eat right
Groom well, have a good sense of style
Read non fiction
Develop a titanium frame
Have a solid foundation for your finances
Talk to everyone, learn to be social with everyone
Have fun hobbies that you are passionate about
Find a purpose in life
When I read that list, I think to myself "is that really all it took to completely transform my life? Is that really ALL it took to go from a LIFETIME of being beta to completely transforming my inner and outer world?" The answer is yes. However, with this change in lifestyle comes consequences in the form of opportunity cost.
The Lonely Road to the Top
So what did I do after initially discovering TRP? Similar to most of you, nothing.
I simply read post after post, wanted to internalize it, master the theories and concepts, memorize the lines, and become Chad in my head; I wanted the end result without having put in any actual work, without risking anything. I was happy with my mental (and physical) masturbation, happily living vicariously through "Fake" RP stories.
I say "fake" because once you actually implement the principles you read here, stay consistent, and do it over a long period of time, you suddenly find yourself as the protagonist of those very same stories.
After an excessively prolonged period of mental masturbation, I decided to put theory to the test. The way my perception was at the time was this:
If I was already at rock bottom, I had nothing to lose, and had nowhere to go, but up, what's the worst that a drastic paradigm shift could do? So I did, I put theory to the test.
Suddenly, you're the guy who other people are looking at in the gym for motivation, the "douchebag" with fitted clothes showing off the physique you've worked hard for, the guy who has read NMMNG, The Power of Now, 48 Laws of Power, and other books that has helped shift your mentality and expand your worldview, the guy who people do not fuck with because of his physique, and if they try, it doesn't work because of his unshakable frame, the "life of the party" type of guy.
Yeah, yeah I get it, hard work, meditation, lift, blah blah, NOW TELL ME ABOUT THE SLUTS!!
I used to hate girls. I thought "why are they so mean, why am I a friend, why do they never talk to me about their girl friends, sex, etc."
Guys, when you are a BP, beta, a soyboy, a guy with no frame-sex does not register in a girl's mind when she looks at you. In her eyes, you might as well be a eunuch. That's why after Chad gives her a dose of daily vitamins and minerals (dumps a load in her mouth) and leaves, you are the one she cries to about "that asshole". She will obviously never reveal the details of what happened, just paint him to be "an asshole."
When I started on this journey, I was a gymcel. I always loved working out, so I had a decent physique at the start of my RP journey, but was still struggling with an eating disorder, smoking weed multiple times a day, porn addiction, jerking off a lot, playing video games/watching Twitch tv, binging on TV shows, etc. My life was going from one artificial dopamine hit to the next.
Since then, I've hooked up with several girls, had a couple of plates, and fucked a couple other as well. I'm currently in a LTR with a girl and things are progressing well. I know, it's nothing super crazy, I haven't creampied a girl's asshole in the club bathroom yet, but all of this is still substantial progress for me.
During this time I have learned the following about girls:
Every girl is on a spectrum of masculinity to femininity; the girls I am most attracted to are ones furthest towards the feminine side. Sounds obvious, right?
My experience has been, the more feminine the girl, the more bratty, bitchy, entitled, etc. These are also the girls that tend to be the hottest, most submissive, and eager to please. These girls will shit test the most, because they are looking for someone to replace daddy, and once you demonstrate that your frame is unshakable and they're either operating in your frame or they'll be replaced, you will see an entirely different side of her
Girls are beautiful and there is something that turns me on from an evolutionary perspective when experiencing masculine/feminine polarity
There is an ABUNDANCE of girls out there, so do not settle for a manipulative/abusive/shitty one
Talking to girls everywhere, going on a lot of dates, or spinning plates internalizes Abundance Mentality-you don't have to be fucking tons of girls to have this. All it takes for you to internalize abundance mentality is knowing you CAN fuck new girls with relative ease if you want/have to
If you find a good girl, worth a LTR, then go for it. A LTR provides a different type of experience from a hookup, plate, or FWB. You can enjoy each others company, care for each other, grow together, go on dates/trips together, and love each other (yeah you can do the same with plates, but if you're doing all that shit it's basically a relationship at that point.)
This is not a green light to stop hitting the gym, reading, holding frame, etc. LTR's are great, but the girl must be aware that she can and will be replaced if she acts out.
- Don't be an autist with TRP. When you first start reading, you will be balls to the wall and internalize very black and white thinking. Remember, TRP is a toolbox to use-you have been gifted the tools/knowledge to navigate life. Do not have expectations that every girl you meet will be a marriage worthy, virgin, unicorn. On the other side of the coin, don't assume every girl is a cum guzzling slut who has rode 100 cocks.
The Other Side is Better, but Lonelier
So how does all of this tie into my title? It's simple, after a year of really pushing myself: physically, mentally, spiritually, financially, socially, creatively, with game, frame, and more-at times I find myself feeling lonely and someone who others can't relate to.
This isn't meant to be a sob story, but a reality. A concept that is consistently repeated is this: "you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with."
When your old friends are incels, or waste time drinking beer and playing video games, or binge watch Game of Thrones for the 5th time, will you be a reflection of them? More times than not, the answer is yes.
If you want to, and I mean truly want to, become "alpha", which for me means become the best version of yourself, embrace/develop your masculinity, and create the life you truly desire and envision for yourself-you will have to spend significantly less time with those people, if not cut them out entirely.
I'm at a place where I had to cut out some of my childhood friends, some due to the fact that they are stagnating, and others who are simply jealous for where I have gotten in life. It's such a shitty fucking feeling, the people who were closest to you, are jealous or resent you because of your transformation. Luckily, I still keep in touch with a couple of old friends who I know have my best interests at heart and will be lifelong friends.
New people I've met? I've met a handful of new people who are driven, have goals, and actively work to better themselves. These are the people who I can connect with on a deep level and who I've made friends with and talk to on a regular basis.
I now find myself able to get girls with relative ease, but struggle with finding/keeping strong male friendships.
If there's one thing to take away from this post, it's this: work HARD, consistently, in the face of failure and ESPECIALLY when you don't want to work, to achieve things others won't. Do these things to develop yourself as a person, to self-actualize, because once you get there, you will realize how many others you've left in the dust. Once you get to this point, you will be able to reap the rewards that others can only dream of.