Getting any girlfriend/plate is not your problem.

E_Anonymous · 2018-09-20T20:27:19+00:00

You want the prize, be the prize.

EricAKAPode · 2018-09-20T19:37:43+00:00

80% of men are below average, according to female OK Cupid users. Just because there's a large pool of mediocre women doesn't mean there's a large pool of them willing to settle for a mediocre man.

Doesn't invalidate your point about being honest with yourself about wanting to date up.

frtalavera91 · 2018-09-20T19:56:45+00:00

Stop jerking off all the time, not no Fap, just not all the time, stop watching porn, stop staring at tens all day on instagram. I think that the biggest issue is this constant feed of tens day in and day out. Its corrupted your mind into staving off a lot of quality catch. Like any man I separate women into two categories when walking down the street, would have sex with, would not have sex with. But when your feed is lying to you all day it skews your field of vision. Relearn how to look at women again, and this whole parading girls around I disagree with. Be with a gal because you want to be with her, not because of what your friends will think.

Spilledmychips · 2018-09-20T20:10:54+00:00

Yea some dude came right up to my date at the fair last night, cuz he saw something he really wanted. I applaud that.

Although I turned around and smiled at him and he turned and went on his marry way.

Guardian_of_Justice · 2018-09-20T23:18:41+00:00

I can't get a girlfriend

That's a symptom, not a root cause.

fat

lazy

boring

unconfident

These are the root causes of the "ICGAGF" disease. And OP's right, you could totally lower your standards and achieve the silly goal of having a girlfriend.

Then you realize you have a bigger problem....

"I want a girlfriend that likes me."

Or maybe,

"I want a girlfriend who wants to fuck me."

And then maybe you get to a point where it's just "I want girls to like me"

Until you finally get to a point where you uncover it at the most base level....

"I want to be the type of person that people are attracted to."

Having a girlfriend? That's about as shallow as it gets.

Keeping a girlfriend? That's a better level of thinking, but it isn't the whole picture.

Being a man that girls want to be with? That's the core of it.

This is why TRP gets results... It taught me to stop trying to control the damn outcome so much. To stop thinking surface level, and to think at the core of issues. Now I control myself and my processes, which is all we can really do.

This is something that applies in all human interaction... Stop thinking about yourself and your wants so much, and try to offer others something of value.

StrifePrevails · 2018-09-20T19:40:02+00:00

You're arguing semantics. When this kind of post is made, the assumption is obviously that the girl is attractive, else the OP wouldn't want them

Astral-Projector · 2018-09-20T19:53:49+00:00

As i always tell my friends when we see a hot girl: "You know, there is always some dude that is tired of fucking her."

redhawkes · 2018-09-20T20:45:46+00:00

How many times it needs to be repeated that the relationship talk is not your job.

You need to value your time/commitment, it's the most important thing.

The guys you're talking about are willing to give it for free which is analogy of a male slut. No one values/respects whats given for free. So they automatically put low value on themselves.

Even if the said guy gets a gf, he's going to get the 'lets wait for sex' bullshit and treat him as her girl friend. I see this shit everywhere. Guys acting like chicks thirsty for commitment and willing to wait for sex 9 months or more.

Fuck that noise, read the sidebar and lift so you can be the one choosing.

boredathome19 · 2018-09-20T19:47:50+00:00

It's frustrating when you feel that the girls you actually want are not interested in you even though your SMV has increased so much and its getting harder and harder to actualyl raise it more.

I'm not bad looking, but compared to my steroid using model face friend it's incredible hard to get any girl at all of that caliber. I'm not even talking about 9-10s, just scoring a solid 7 is hard for me while girls from 4-6 have all called me insanely beautiful and that I could be a model.

Sometimes I do get a 7, but it's hard to keep an abundance mentality when it's rather rare. I feel like my SMV is exactly on the edge of getting the girls I want.

zdenipeni · 2018-09-20T19:44:22+00:00

Follow your purpose and girls and plates will come running , then just pick and choose

atticusfinch1973 · 2018-09-20T20:21:48+00:00

Just like anything else - if you want to get exactly what you want then you need to get specific about it.

Not "I want a job". Say "I want a job where I'm programming computers and making 100k a year." This brings clarity about what you need to do in order to get there. Then you can devise a plan and move forward (if you're not a loser and just complaining).

With women, be specific about the traits you want and then plan about what you need to do to find them. Want to bang a hot IG model? Make sure you have a really high SMV and hang out at clubs and parties, because that's where they are. If you want a smart girl with a good job who makes a lot of money and doesn't whore around, you need to look somewhere different.

Just like with lifting, specificity is a thing. You aren't going to get a good deadlift by bench pressing.

usernamedoesntexists · 2018-09-20T22:58:39+00:00

As a woman myself, this also applies to most of the women out there.

[deleted] · 2018-09-20T22:13:02+00:00

TBH I just wanna fuck A skinny/average chick.

My whole sexual lifetime has been big girls smh

rp_tsukaisute · 2018-09-20T22:56:59+00:00

Unfortunately, this is not true. Not even close. One of the rude awakenings men go through it the realization that they can be rich, smart, healthy, drive a fancy car, wear nice clothes, etc. and still will get rejected by fresh-off-the-boat uneducated 40-yo single-mom recovering junkie ex-prostitute waitresses. And that once they get their shit together, gain a little patience, and assert themselves, they can get it on with gorgeous young wealthy smart women about as easily.

If downgrading your expectations slowly until you find a match worked (which is approximately what happens in isolated groups of men & women), nobody would be so frustrated.

DesperateTomato · 2018-09-21T02:10:58+00:00

SMV means nothing when you're ugly as fuck.

alvichm · 2018-09-20T20:47:22+00:00

Yeah, all men just want a hot instagram model as their partner. Oh, sacred is the status it brings, having a goddess next to me, but Im not of those, divinely selected. Therefore I should just conform with just a girl that is just as mediocre as I am.

Come on dude. I'm pretty sure you can give a more productive advice.

vandaalen · 2018-09-20T21:13:10+00:00

If your goal truly was to get a girlfriend then you could have one by tomorrow

not true

Dawaggon · 2018-09-21T00:14:58+00:00

Well yea but you can't set your goal as having something average. Foh lol

23547689 · 2018-09-21T01:59:04+00:00

what if you just want to get with an average looking chick? What steps should I be taking to score like a 4-5?

thebadmanpuntdbaxter · 2018-09-21T02:28:48+00:00

Why settle for a 5 when you can beat it watching a 10 get bukkakied

desistrategist · 2018-09-21T03:45:35+00:00

TRP is not about chasing women but chasing excellence in what you do. If you have maintained / learnt your "to-do" FRAME, the battle is already won.

TheGinnnnnnger · 2018-09-21T04:27:33+00:00

I think this is pretty much implied...

uwey · 2018-09-20T21:33:02+00:00

I begged differently opinion.

Don’t be specific. List out absolutely NO, fat, dirty, ugly etc.

And only go approach anyone who don’t have those problems. Out of those in your quality pool. Some will like you.

I say if you don’t have luck, then you need to gain more data from the pool, date more. You need 100 to get 1, then 5000 should get you good amount. Manage the money and time for it like running a well oiled cooperation. Your time and money spend on a date will narrow down very quickly, girl like expensive things? Out if she is not worth your initial investment. This is pure supply and demand, man get excited when short term option approach. Don’t, get long term planning and work toward the goal to spin plate.

Date only rich and fit girl, their look is not 8-9 but their personality is like 7-8, those are my daring/marriage zone. Those are lovely and bubbly girl that are young, right and tight body and you can raw them as much as you want, most also on pill.

Be able to plow many young hot women at your disposal is very powerful ego boost. You get my idea.

tarck · 2018-09-20T20:21:42+00:00

I have plan in my mind that if I will not find the one till I am 35 yo I will just find one before the one to create couple kids. So at this point I could drasticaly alter my criteria for so. :)

[deleted] · 2018-09-20T20:23:08+00:00

Wrong, OP. How to spot somebody who has no idea what women want and what they like.

NiceTryDisaster · 2018-09-21T02:04:23+00:00

You want a HOT AS F**K girlfriend

Not necessarily. But at the very least what guys want in a girl is:

A decent face
Good bod
Some brains
Has some interests/hobbies/personality

The problem is it has become so difficult to find girls that meet the bare minimum of beauty and brains. Just having the above 4 qualities probably puts the girl in the top 10%. When you walk into a room how many % of girls do you even see that are not fat, not old, not below 18, have tits/ass, don't dress like thrash

Revin3 · 2018-09-20T20:50:25+00:00

Ugly girls dont want guy like me too

thewrecker8 · 2018-09-21T00:17:53+00:00

Women don't even know what they want. We've all known girls who say "usually I like a guy who is like "x" but there's just something about him or you".Someone posted a line a woman said one time on here that is so true. "A woman never knows what's going to make her wet".

Title	Getting any girlfriend/plate is not your problem.
Author	LowSpecTea
Upvotes	266
Comments	130
Date	September 20, 2018 7:27 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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