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Just had my first random hookup, first time having sex in forever...kind of feel like sex is overrated. Am i right or just need to have more of it?

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November 8, 2018
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She was a cute black girl. We actually got a long real well. She had a really big ass something i love. I came pretty quickly, her pussy kinda smelled like deep fried grease. But after i was done i kinda felt “this is it”? This is what ive been stressing out about and all my frat brothers always rave about?

Ofcourse i want to have sex again, but i dont really feel super desperate for it anymore or super excited about it anymore. Is this normal?


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Title Just had my first random hookup, first time having sex in forever...kind of feel like sex is overrated. Am i right or just need to have more of it?
Author Scrummy671
Upvotes 132
Comments 116
Date 08 November 2018 06:43 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/53812
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/9vcnxe/just_had_my_first_random_hookup_first_time_having/
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[–]CryptoManbeard225 points226 points  (5 children) | Copy

The Japanese have a word for this : kenjataimu. It's the period after ejaculation when you can think clearly. In 3 days French fry pussy will be all you think about.

[–]theserottendays72 points73 points  (0 children) | Copy

Schopenhauer called the post-orgasm moment of clarity as "devil's laughter" because it's when you realize we're slaves to a biological imperative uncaring of our happiness.

[–]billyultra29 points30 points  (0 children) | Copy

Aint that the truth brother

[–]TheTrenTrannyTrain13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thus the advice to always make life changing decisions after masterbation.

[–]ajs_rb266 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

So true

[–]ChadTheWaiter1003 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

The period of time doesn’t last me a full 3 days. But that clarity is so beautiful.

[–]BuckNekkid18282 points283 points  (28 children) | Copy

Surprise! Hookups/ONS are nothing else than assisted masturbation with a lubricated, tight, warm tool. Also, if her pussy smelled like deep fried grease then you need to fuck healthier girls, jesus christ.

[–]horologist2018 1 points [recovered]  (10 children) | Copy

Also, if her pussy smelled like deep fried grease then you need to fuck healthier girls, jesus christ.

Seconded, that's gross.

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[–]Aarxnw49 points50 points  (9 children) | Copy

Thirded, would not cook my eggs in there

[–][deleted] 27 points28 points  (8 children) | Copy

Fourthed, if she gave birth would it then be the son of the guy on the KFC logo?

[–]Aarxnw39 points40 points  (2 children) | Copy

Damn, this guy thinks outside the bucket

[–]LucrativeMath3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Legit lol thank you sir

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Kentucky Fried Grease

[–]sixseven898 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lieutenant Colonel Sanders

[–]HurricaneHugues11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Served 3 tours in the Salvation Army

[–]unorthodoxcowboy3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

You guys are animals. Nobody’s going to offer OP a napkin?

[–]robrTdot[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

And a “spork?”

[–]TheEarlyMan29 points30 points  (15 children) | Copy

Black people have considerably more sweat glands than white people, who have even more than asians.

[–]2319Skew6 points7 points  (12 children) | Copy

link?

[–]thisisnotme__--10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy

Next, he's going to tell us that Asians have sideways vaginas.

[–]2319Skew3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Or all Jews have Jew gold that they hide

[–]thisisnotme__--0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

...in their butts.

[–]4matting0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

Google.

[–]2319Skew6 points7 points  (7 children) | Copy

Am I doing this right?)

[–]4matting4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, this isn't some complex assertion with precise claims, it's vague statement with vague claims. You can easily research this on your own.

Your demand to put the burden of proof on OP over something that simple is just lazy.

[–]1DubbleFUPAwitCheez0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Do you always need to be spoon fed

[–]2319Skew4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

Read the first sentence in the link out loud to yourself.

If you're still struggling with that. Re-read it again.

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If you're still confused, let me paint you a verbal picture. It may be easier.

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If a man comes up to you and tells you that they cure your colon cancer by ramming a solid 3-1/2 in. x 3-1/2 in. x 11 in pure aluminum rod inside your anus while chanting in Latin the recpie for a soufflé, you'd probably want to see some sort of evidence to back up that claim. You wouldn't just drop your pants and grit your teeth. I also assume that you wouldn't hit up the local library for evidence that his claim is valid or invalid because that's just stupid.

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Don't be an idiot.

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Also for anyone that is interested. Here's a study with the exact opposite information for the claim. If anyone has an actual link to refute this study, I'd like to read it.

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[–]-TempestofChaos--1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dont be ignorant.

If you actually want to know, fucking Google it.

If you do not want to know, then do not and shut up.

Clearly in this case, you just want to say someone else is wrong because they are not posting an immediate link just because you are too god damn lazy to type in a search bar.

[–]2319Skew3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Also for anyone that is interested. Here's a study with the exact opposite information for the claim. If anyone has an actual link to refute this study, I'd like to read it."

Kinda did. Couldn't find anything. Asked for the source.

[–]RedHoodhandles-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Let's agree that you are both lazy fucks. Him for not linking it and you for not googling it. Btw, I have heard from several independant sources that black chicks sweat more during sex. So I am inclined to side with the opening statement.

[–]1DubbleFUPAwitCheez-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

So triggered. You sure you're mature enough for this sub?

[–]Aarxnw10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Asians have none that’s why, it’s a trade off though. Small dick, no glands.

The correlation is undeniable

[–]ainihon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Waiting for fifth 🍿

[–]christophertracy9263 points64 points  (9 children) | Copy

Love it that everyone around here feels sex is overrated.

Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (7 children) | Copy

I got 99 problems but

[–]JoesIcedTea14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy

Cruising down the street in my 64

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

he yelled out fire, then came suzi, the btich came in with a submachine uzi!

my favourite line of the whole song damnn

[–]isaiahexe6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

They see me rollin, they hatin

[–]GetFitGetHit5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

I have half...

92

[–]chubz4you3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I see youre a man of culture as well. Gz

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

92 is half of 99

[–]RedHoodhandles4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because everybody in here are master of abundance or so they try to seem.

[–][deleted] 57 points58 points  (2 children) | Copy

you need a better fuck.

it is a bit overated tho.

[–]Future_Alpha4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

it is a bit overated tho.

nah. its a great deal of fun if you're with a girl who enjoys sex, enjoys you and is decent looking

[–]mrpthrowa4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes. Come back when you get a soft tender slender 20 year old. It's like night and day.

[–]koedeloe203 points204 points  (23 children) | Copy

Sex is overrated. Condoms suck, after you orgasm you come to your senses and want to dump the bitch asap, her pussy might stank, she might be horrible at giving blowjobs. All that effort for 15 minutes of overrated sex. Sex is only good raw with someone you care about. I know cliché but it' true.

[–]BADBOY_LUXURY 1 points [recovered]  (6 children) | Copy

Sex is only good raw with someone you care about.

This is so true and that makes me sad

[–]mightyman10135 points36 points  (5 children) | Copy

Big facts, don’t be sad it’s jus the way things are.

[–]Random_throwaway_000 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

I'm only sad that there are so few girls worth caring about.

[–]TacoMedic15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

And you don't wanna fuck any of them.

(Mother, sister, cousins, aunts, etc.)

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That depends on the cousin...ahem 😉

[–]wabbit820 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hahaha, what? Of course not, don’t be silly, there’s like hundreds of millions of them.

[–]11-Eleven-114 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Its the way God made us

[–]4matting34 points35 points  (2 children) | Copy

Because we get the greatest level of euphoria with the mates we 'feel' like they would produce the greatest offspring with us. (relative to the other mates we have or had).

Anecdotally, my pleasure is positively correlated with attractiveness and my perception of their faithfulness. I'll get greater pleasure with a HB8 that I believe is being monogamous with me, over a HB10 that I couldn't trust with $5.

[–]RedHoodhandles5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Makes total sense biologically, yet the discussion about vetting a chick or not, caring if she's a slut or not always pops up again. When do those guys realize that for a good life you have to live in accordance with your nature.

[–]4matting0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

They lack the experience and thus the perspective to fully understand.

Most guys that come here are socially retarded, in the sense that they don't have the same level of socialization as socially successful people. Which is why we push newbies to go out and talk to as many girls as they can. It's like a bootcamp for socialization.

[–][deleted] 35 points36 points  (3 children) | Copy

Tbh that's why I'm gaming girls in my social circles, girls I can connect with and develop genuine "friendship" with.

I've had my first sex with a girl I liked so much. It was fucking amazing. I didn't cum for 30 mins straight and she loved it. Until today, were very good friends and next week we're traveling together just to fuck in some other city.

I think sex feels much better with someone you actually know and connect with. I noticed that the physical stimuli is probably 50-60% of the deal. The pathological play is much more important.

I enjoyed sex with this girl because we're already good buds. She's helping me with my mission and I'm helping her (very limited) with shit she's dealing with all the time.

The most beautiful thing about this whole thing is that I discovered that I had a tickling back. Like one slight touch and all the hair in my body is up. Once she learnt about this, she'd start gently caressing my neck and my back. The bitch even learnt where the good spots are. When she wants shit done, she just goes all the way down near my butt and I start jumping like a scared cat.

Might sound childish, but it's very romantic and I am very happy that I'm living this with her. We both know that this is eventually coming to an end because she's flying back to her home country soon. But it just feels like a very good dream.

I do love her, but I know she's just another girl and I'll bang much better girls in the future.

[–]themag1cbean8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Pathologic? Do u mean psychological?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

yeah, autocorrect man, sry

[–]Aggressive_Beta4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Exactly why LTR's are better than spinning plates forever

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

IF you know how to play your LTR right and IF you manage to hold your shit together for a long time (honestly, i do lose my shit one in a while so LTR would be the dread for me)

[–]gijoemaximus3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's only because we have raw sex with girls we care about, if there was a way to completely avoid unwanted pregnancies without going under the knife, and zero stds. We would sing a very different tune

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dude you encapsulated so much bona fide truth in your statement. so true.

[–]mrBatata0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Sex is only good raw

Great advice to fuck the rest of your life or/and take a paycheck out of you until you die.

Are you fucking insane!?! Yeah it might feel good but that is playing Russian roulette.

[–]RedHoodhandles3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Well but he's right. Everything has it's risks.

[–]mrBatata0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Doesn't mean I should make toast in my bathtub because everything has risks.

It's evident that everything has risks, just because of that, you aren't going to involve yourself in more risk than necessary. I'm not saying to baby proof every aspect of your life just not to jump in front of a bus.

[–]paprikk 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

If you travel abroad you can have all the raw sex you want without fear of child support payments.

[–]mrBatata5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

And all those exotic stds

[–]Yoasted21 points22 points  (2 children) | Copy

Deep fried grease? LOL

[–]BusterVadge24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

Finger lickin good.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Patrick Swayze up in that shit

[–]nabosch15 points16 points  (4 children) | Copy

I know it's not the most popular thing around here but the best sex I've ever had has been with my LTR.

[–]synaesthetic7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's way better when there's deep love and oxytocin

[–]BusterVadge4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Same here. Nothing is as deeply satisfying. Not in a LTR right now but I had sex with a new plate today who's never had an orgasm until.... today.

That was pretty damn close.

[–]nabosch1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's gotta be fun! I've never been able to be the first giver of an orgasm

[–]horologist2018 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

100% depends on you as a person. I am the polar opposite.

For a lot of people, one night stands and hookups, like u/bucknekkid18 said, are assisted masturbation with a live human.

For me, one night stands and hookups are like a roller coaster of joy and excitement, before, during, and after. I compare it to going to an amusement park, where some rides look great and are great, some rides look great and are terrible, some rides look terrible and are great, and some rides look terrible and are terrible.

Like I said, depends on you as a person. If it's overrated for you, then hey man there's nothing wrong with that.

[–]BuckNekkid1818 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

> one night stands and hookups are like a roller coaster of joy and excitement, before, during, and after.

I like the challenge of gaming a girl to get laid, but the sex is almost never that impressive. I've met better lays/plates at different charities/volunteering jobs that I participated in than in clubs.

[–]Psychological_Radish11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

idk wtf you all are talking about. Sex is awesome, especially if there's a lot of built up tension from a night of flirting/Gaming. There's no pleasure that compares. Fucking a hot girl (a hot girl, not Bertha the Drunk Whale at closing) is pretty validating.

[–][deleted] 31 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy

Did you think it was overrated BEFORE you had sex? That's a rhetorical question. The thing is after you bust a nut, many men feel kind of a regret and similar feeling, since they released all their "energy" into a woman's vagina and now need at least few days to get all that testosterone back which again, creates new tension and new arousal and you want sex again. That's how it goes. You fuck, you cum, you forget about a chick until you need her again.

It's as much overrated as water. Those who have plenty do not think about it until they are thirsty and once they drink it they forget again. Same with sex. Those who have none will rate sex as one of the top man's needs. Which biologically it is, but.. once you cum, you cum and you are done. Just like a glass of water.

Try posting this on incel dot com and see their response. I am sure they wouldn't be happy about your experience since you had sex and they didn't.

[–]Opioidus8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sex is very overrated, the hunt is underrated.

[–]Olram_Sacul6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yup, that's pretty normal

[–]FakeTheAlMightyy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

¶∆¶∆¶∆ autist

[–]dutchgguy7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Ye: that's exactly how it is. But afterwards in the evening you get a happy feeling.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Me love happy feeling

[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

lol women in general are overrated

but yeah, once you develop true abundance it does become a question of 'is this even worth it'. I'm at the point where I don't bother with women older than 24ish and less than an HB 8, not due to any real judgement call on my part but simply because I can't be bothered putting in the effort if she's not hot enough.

[–]mysteriumarchive5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Welcome to the true red pill. You now make a decision: do you want to be a slave to your primal urges, desperately chasing pussy around for the rest of your life, totally enthralled in"the game" just to fill an empty void in you? Or do you want to reject this sexual decadence and stay centered in your absolute mode of being, passing through this decaying modern world like a cloud over a mountain, staying true to yourself and your code through it all? The latter is the true red pill. Read Ride the Tiger by Julius Evola.

[–]BusterVadge4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

her pussy kinda smelled like deep fried grease. But after i was done i kinda felt “this is it”?

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There's your problem right there.

[–]leolanik148 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

What you thought you gonna get cupcakes and cigar, and bunch of men standing around giving you cheers. Nah man, this is why TRP kept telling dudes, focus on your goals and not Pussey and it is not the Mecca of your happiness! That was your temporary glucose spike.

[–]xddm26533 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

pussy kinda smelled like deep fried grease

This is what brothers always rave about?

well...

[–]toothpickhd10 points11 points  (5 children) | Copy

The thing about sex is that when people describe good sex what they mean is different for girls than guys. Even though both can benefit you as a guy.

When a girl says that you guys have a good sex she essentially saying you last a long time, dominate me, and make me cum multiple times. Something not a lot of men do.

When a guy tells a girl they have good sex, they usually mean she is a freak and lets him do stuff he wants to do, facials etc.

The second one is obvious how it benefits you. Its fucking awesome and fun.

The first one can be tiring sometimes. You have to learn to last like 30 minutes. And you need to have experience so you know how to make a woman cum, and you are essentially doing 30 minutes of cardio because you are in control the whole time. Honestly sometimes its kind of more of a work out then fun. But I can guarantee you after you've made a girl come 5 times in 30 minutes she will look at you like a god.

So keep fucking buddy and get better and better at it and eventually you will find out its not overrated at all and all the people here saying otherwise just don't know to operate in the bedroom.

[–]hippomania18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

It comes a time you realize physical pleasure it's secondary to the feeling of making a girl completely yours as in giving her the best orgasms of her life. That's absolute domination since she becomes dependant on you.

[–]toothpickhd7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is exactly what I’m saying. There is good value in it. Anytime I have sex with my girl she is instantly in subservient mode for like 12 hours. Makes relationships / plates very easy.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Spill the secrets operator

[–]3chazthundergut0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Check out Sex God Method

It's a game changer

[–]hippomania2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This man fucks. Definitely.

[–]dtyler862 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao... deep fried grease. I felt the same way when I lost my virginity. It’s really something that I have realized I feel with every new hook up for the first time it’s not really that amazing until you’ve done it a few times and then when it becomes intimate it’s a different kind of excitement. First off, condoms fucking suck. If you have a long-term relationship or a consistent hook up that is on birth control and you were comfortable trusting that they are clean, unprotected sex will probably change your mind. Every time I start dating someone sex is really not that amazing until I’ve done it with them maybe a large handful of times

[–]petergriffin26602 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You were too stressed during your 'encounter'

You didn't let yourself enjoy the ride, that's prob why u didn't last long and u built it up too much. It's supposed to be a fun ride. Sex in a LTR is quite a bit better as you'll both be comfortable with each other. Hookups are just the thrill of the hunt.

[–]sonnydanger1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sex is honestly over rated. I like the chase and the hunt more than the sex tbh. Knowing i can pull a hoe is exciting and fun.

[–]vaqq11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

man said deep fried grease. I can't LOOOOL

[–]HectoSexual1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I passed my 30th plate and I am just now starting to feel like sex is less exciting than it was.

All that means to me is that it’s time to move up to hotter and crazier girls.

[–]XxPockoxX1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Shit black girls smell like grease?! Mexican girl smell like roasting peppers..

[–]gaki1231 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Are you mutilated? I mean circumcised?

[–]AceMav21 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Love me some big booty ebony’s. Did you hit it from the back if not it’s prob why you feel like that.

[–]Scrummy671[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes i did

[–]binrobinro0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Your feeling is correct.

[–]eddee_d0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Same experience recently so I feel you. It really ain't that hype.

[–]SolarTortality0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I usually feel like that after I have sex with a person BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO NOT BE HAVING SEX WITH ANYONE as opposed to when having sex with a person because you want to have sex with said person.

[–]The_Lightskin_Wonder0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm an ass man myself, and sometimes I come to disappointing realization that an ass is just for looks, but I just have sex when I'm horny. You might feel different about it tomorrow.

I masturbate on the regular but pussy, and the act of is so much better, I'm a very freaky person though so, I kind of need a partner. But I always like to surprise women with my vibrating cock ring. I give them different sex and in return they come back.

[–]Herr_Hrodberth0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I assume you used a condom like all of the other Reddit cucks? Condom sex is shit. I would rather sit and watch commercials on the TV than have condom sex, and I hate commercials. Rawdogging a girl and cumming in her pussy or ass feels amazing, though.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

The 18 years of responsibility and parenthood sure dont.

[–]mrHappyPotatoe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You yourself have made big deal iut of it. Enjoy it as it is.

[–]Datanami0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Funny how these posts are always the most upvoted

[–]faustian_talos0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Am I the only one here that has a problem with *her pussy kinda smeled like deep fried grease* ???!!!

[–]SteveStJohn0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

PCH, Post Cum Hate, is normal.

[–]GeuseyBetel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Most of the guys here are saying sex is overrated and I agree. It's only not overrated when it's with a girl you're not immediately sick of after you nut.

Also black girls are pretty much always smellier in my experience (not being racist, may be coincidence, but just my experience)

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

why does it matter that she was black?



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