"The key to immortality is living a life worth remembering." - Bruce Lee
The man was brilliant on so many levels it's not even funny. Being a practitioner of JKD and Kajukembo, the philosophical side of martial arts is every bit as important as the physical. I've applied that into my day to day life, and I'm legitimately the happiest I've ever been. Here is a list of 10 things I've compiled to remove from your mental existence so that you can finally start establishing your true worth in this world.
1. Be whoever you want to be in front of the whole world, it doesn't matter. But, stop lying to YOURSELF.
At the end of the day, you have to live with yourself and your actions. So why lie to yourself that what you're doing is working for you if it isn't? How can you express yourself honestly and truly if you're living a life you're not proud of? STOP doing that. If you're an introvert, own up to it. If you''re socially awkward, admit it. If you're an asshole, be an asshole. Never compromise who you are at your core to be someone you want the world to accept.
2. Happiness is PRICELESS so... stop trying to buy it.
We are not defined by the material aspects of life. When we die, that car, nice apartment, collection of high end watches and harem of women at your beckon call will be meaningless. To love, laugh and live, we never have to pay anything and thus, all our desires are gifted to us for free, we can't buy them. Similarly, we can't buy happiness - we have to somehow find it, it may be hidden right around the corner. True happiness is organic. Your worth as a man isn't in your bank account, it's in the IMPACT you leave on every soul you meet in your journey in the mortal plain.
3. Stop looking for happiness exclusively in others.
Falls into the same place as above. If you're not happy within and with yourself, any happiness you find in others is meaningless. You can't exist truly if you despise what you are so much that you have to lie to the world. ou have to find happiness in yourself first, only then can you share that happiness with someone else, someone new. You have to be content with what you are and what you have as an INDIVIDUAL. Stand tall and the world with bask in your shade.
4. Stop being afraid of trying new things just because you're afraid of making a mistake.
We've all been there: "The complacent zone." Stuck in the routine so much that the very idea of doing something new sparks dread in our hearts. Ditch that mentality...it's holding you back. The only way to continue evolving is to experience new things. The moment you stop learning, you stop living. To become a master of anything, you must make mistakes. So master your world and yourself. Get out there and do something new. If it fails, do it again...but with a new approach. The only truth in failure is believing it to be absolute.
5. Stop stooping down to other people's levels even if they force you to.
This society thrives of tearing down people. Be it celebrities, politicians, or even every day people. You will be tested and challenged by those who live in misery, and they will take joy in making you miserable to validate their own meaningless lives. NEVER allow this to happen. If you have to stand alone in this world as an island, hard as it will be...do it. In time, you'll find yourself surrounded by people who aspire to be on your level, rather then those who look to bring you down to theirs.
6. Stop forcing yourself to get into a relationship.
This is a big one. One that the principals of TRP is founded on. As a man, a TRUE man...being with a woman should not EVER define you. She is not your reason for existence, she is a PART of your existence. Relationships are beautiful, it's a fact. Finding a woman who adds to your life is an awesome feat, but finding a relationship to get through a bad phase, or even worse...a relationship that saps your energy just for the sake of not being alone is wrong. Get into a relationship when it's meant to be, not when you want it to be. If you're mind, body and soul are not complete...you're wasting both of your time.
7. Stop finding flaws in the new experiences because of a horrible past experiences.
This kind of self-destructive behavior holds so many of us back because man guys do this completely subconsciously. Be it a relationship, tasks at work...anything. You can't quantify the worth of every experience you have on the memory of the bad ones. ALL of your experiences are what builds you into who and what you are. Embrace the positive ones, reflect on the negative ones...and LEARN FROM ALL OF THEM.
8. Stop missing out on the beauty of small moments.
In this day and age where everyone is looking for what benefits them individually, it's easy to overlook those small moments that bring you joy. A stupid joke from a friend. A glance from a beautiful woman. The smile of a child when you do something that blows their mind and inspires them. These moments happen all the time, everyday. Cherish them. These are the things that help leave your mark on this world.
9. STOP WORRYING SO MUCH.
There are some things that are out of your control. No matter how much you strive to reach them, you can't. This ties into the being afraid of new experiences. Part of that fear stems from not having control of the outcome. Well guess what? You'll never know if you're capable of succeeding or failing if all you stress about is failing. Nothing has come to anyone of worth who sits on the sidelines and worries about if they fail, or what others will think of them if they do. YOU are the one who matters.
10. Stop competing against everyone.
The worth of you as a man is not quantified by your worldly possessions, despite what society has forced down your throat since you came out of the womb. Should you aspire to be better than you are now? Absolutely. But do so for the sake of making yourself stronger individually, not because you want to seem like you're worth more in this materialistic society we live in. A man who knows his cultural, spiritual and mental worth is more valuable then anything. Be the best within your means. In the grand scheme of things, we are on this world for but a fleeting moment. If you spend so much of your time trying to compete with what media says you should be doing, rather then doing what you as a man KNOW you should be doing to make your life and the lives of those around you better, you're wasting time and defeating your purpose on this world.
Break free of the construct society and media has labeled as "being a man". It's a lie built to keep free thinking men shackled to old ideals. Be stronger. Be better. Be smarter.
"Be water, my friends."