This isn't anything new but I haven't seen it discussed in quite some time here and it is well worth revisiting the topic for all the new members and lurkers who've recently joined.
TRP spends a lot of time discussing Alphas and Betas. That's a great dichotomy for men trying to improve their lives and improve their understanding and interactions with women. However, it sets up friction with women because as the man is trying to change the male/female dynamic towards his set of goals, she'll be trying to shift it towards, or maintain it at, her goals. So, it's helpful to examine her goals by looking at how she views men.
It's simple, for women there are three types of men: creeps, good guys and assholes. Believe it or not, most (healthy) women want men to be good guys. That's what most women believe will make them the happiest. And to some degree that's true (to the degree that she can readily swing between a couple of these good guys based on her current needs without diminishing her potential future swings due to her past swings). So what does it mean to be a creep, a good guy or an asshole?
First, it is important to understand that, just as for men, for women all intersexual interactions are sexual in nature. More specifically, it is about his offerings in exchange for her (possible) sexual attention. This is almost always implied, at least by the female as this gives her the greatest degree of flexibility. In short, as men develop their abilities to show their worth as sexual partners, women implicitly offer the possibility of sex in exchange for access to that ability. This underlies all natural non-familial male/female interactions. And that's where the labels come in, it's a quality rating system.
CREEPS--Creeps are those men whose sexual expectations explicitly exceed their utility to females. Think about it. Whenever you hear women deem a person as creepy they are always saying that about a man, always in regards to how he's interacting with a woman and it is always meant to shame or slap him down. In short, it is their way of A) forcing him to stop and B) signaling to other women the issue. It is always about him, never about what he is doing. That's because the action is ok, if you are a guy who is worth it. Chad sending flowers out of the clue? Great! Beta Bob sending flowers at all? CREEPY! Chad surprising you on your birthday? How Romantic. Bob doing so? HOW'D YOU KNOW MY BIRTHDAY YOU STALKER! What makes these things creepy for Bob? He's assuming the relationship and doing so publicly without having the clear social currency to back it up. Could he have obtained a relationship with that girl by engaging in a pattern supplicating overtures over an extended period of time thereby giving her time to explore other alternatives and also thereby allowing her to socially show his other values before granting him relational status? Quite possibly, but that would make him a good guy and not a creep. Why, because creeps are those whose explicit sexual expectations clearly exceed their utility. Women intently dislike creeps because they end up being of no functional use at best and at worst damage their ability to use other men (for example by a creep who publicly claims a girl in order to preemptively chase off rivals).
GOOD GUYS--As I said before, most women believe they want good guys. Knowing what a good guy is helps understand why women believe that. A good guy is simply a man whose sexual expectations are not as great as his utility. Let that sink in. It is anyone who will give a girl more than she has to give him. The greater his utility and the lower his sexual expectations, the better he is. This is why orbiters are so desired by women. They will do anything and expect nothing. It's also why "sex" or a "relationship" will ruin it. It will, because the equation has changed. His expectations have increased. Her profit margin, if you will, has greatly reduced.
Contrary to popular TRP belief, good guys do get laid. But it's important to understand why. It represents a woman's investment in high utility. If he has high value other women will want him and will woo him. This includes by offering him sex. So, a woman will therefore have sex to keep him if she believes other women can and will steal him and her cost to replace him exceeds her cost to keep him (this is the basic of dread). However, she always wants to be ahead in the game. What does that mean? It means she'll dole out sex only at a rate less than the utility he is providing for her. How much less? As little as she feels she safely can (this is the basics of dead bedroom). Honestly it isn't because women are evil, it's because those who couldN'T use their sex for procurement didn't have offspring to survive.
So, when women label a guy a good guy, it means he has value in excess of his sexual expectations. But, this is still highly subjective. Why? because it leaves a lot undefined. It doesn't mean he has small expectations or great value, just that his value exceeds his expectations. So, a beta orbiter likely has little value but he also has small expectations. A high value man may have great expectations but extremely great value. A woman will want both in her life, but she'll use them completely differently.
Being good can even get you female endorsements to other women, but be sure to understand it. If a woman is setting you up with your friends and labels you a "good guy" know that it means the following. He has enough expectations that I can't use him as an orbiter but low enough value that I can't risk having sex with him, however, if another woman has a sexual vacancy he'll stay in his place. You then just have to try to determine what vacancy she'll trying to use you to fill.
Women love them some good guys because of how useful they are.
ASSHOLES-- Women hate assholes. Well, more correctly, they hate how much they love assholes. But why? It's because assholes are those few men whose sexual attractiveness exceeds their actual usefulness. As stated above, women expect to profit from their sexual interactions in large part by a woman's ability to control intersexual interactions by way of their implied sexuality. Assholes turn this upside down. Women want to have sex with assholes even when they are certain they won't profit from it. They can't help themselves and that means they've lost control of the situation. It doesn't mean he has no value, just that his attractiveness exceeds his value. She's willing to do more for him than he is for her and she knows it.
By way of example. When a women calls someone an asshole, he isn't simply doing something she doesn't like. He's doing something presumptive. He's acting outside the social norms and he's doing it in such a manner that only he benefits, or at the very least she doesn't benefit. What makes it worse is that it only makes her want him more. That doesn't mean every time you're called an asshole she wants to sleep with you, it does mean that you're on the right path. You're attractiveness may also need to improve. It's possible you're acting preemptively with no explicit sexual expectation and are therefore called an asshole (if you're explicit sexual expectation was manifest you'd be called a creep). But, if she wants to sleep with you and aren't offering value in kind, she will absolutely call you an asshole.
This is what every man should strive to be. In control of the situation and where his sexuality is the only significant offer of value he extends. It doesn't lend itself to stable LTRs but he can dial it back as necessary if that's his goal. But only after he's mastered the art of being an asshole on demand. And he only does that by understanding what it means to be one.
It should always be your goal when socially (not professionally) meeting a new woman to get her to call you an asshole as soon as possible.
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