Boredom is toxic. It leads to wasting time and causes mistakes in your strategy. The following post describes both why boredom is the enemy and how to combat boredom.
Rule 1: Never text a woman because you're bored
You have nothing to do at the moment, so you decide to see what your woman is doing. Here's the issue with that: you will annoy her with your incessant texting. It will become addicting to rely on her to assuage your boredom. She will come to realize what is going on and she will hate you for it. You will become lame and unattractive. So whatever you do to cure your boredom, never text a woman.
Rule 2: Exercise
Exercise is a great way to release endorphins and close any feelings you have of boredom. It does require motivation to go out and exercise, but once you've brought yourself about to doing it you will feel much better.
Rule 3: Avoid masturbation
I will argue that masturbation, especially masturbation to porn, is a purely Blue Pill activity. Being bored can lead to masturbation tendencies because you get horny feelings when you are doing nothing. Rather, fight these tendencies and go out and build yourself up.
Rule 4: Avoid overeating
Being bored often leads to eating not when you're hungry, but just because you have nothing better to do. Cut this out. Instead, find something else to do instead of eat. Eating may give you warm feelings inside, but your weight will take a toll and in the long run you will regret it.
Rule 5: Read, write, study, learn
Boredom often comes from procrastination. Fight these procrastination tendencies and tackle what you need to tackle. Do the homework you need to do. Get ahead in your class. Research stocks and other investments that will make you money. There is plenty to do that you are putting off. Conquer boredom by putting these things on the forefront.
Rule 6: Get out of the house and stop oversleeping
When you're bored you may have tendencies of oversleeping. Get out of the house, sit at a coffeeshop, and find ways to alleviate your mind. Oversleeping is a terrible habit to get into and will ruin your circadian rhythm. Go for a walk, go out somewhere in public, and get yourself doing things.
Rule 7: Clean your place
Cleaning your house is a way to conquer feelings of boredom as well as become productive. Cleaning is simple, and requires minimal tools. The dividends from a clean house are fantastic, and you will feel accomplished after cleaning your place.
tl;dr/Conclusion: Boredom is the enemy. Make a conscious effort to fight it. Go outside, exercise, do homework in order to better your life and get that much closer to accomplishing your goals. And whatever you do, never text a woman out of boredom.
One great way to avoid boredom is to post frequently on the Red Pill.
I'm sort of joking around here because CaptainCringeworthy had a girl dump him recently and he's posting here on the Red Pill an awful lot to fill the void in his life. The posts aren't bad, but observing the volume of them masks his inner stress. (in my opinion)
CaptainCringeworthy will eventually tire of the posting and find other things to focus on. For now we have a high volume top level poster. (multiple per day)
My Advice
The OP (CaptainCringeworthy) might consider a "one top level post per day" routine in order to prevent excessive focus on this sub.
If the OP feels the urge for more then do it in response to other top level posts rather than top level new posts of your own.
I don't post because I have nothing new to say, or no new ways to say it. I can't bring myself to put up crap content or clickbait titled bs everyone should already know.
My field reports would be bland successes or obvious failures that I can troubleshoot myself.
Sadly purplepilldebate has more interesting shit 9/10 times these days. Signal to noise ratio is getting bad.
i like the failure field reports more than the successes, both prove truths to the side bar.
Thank you for noticing this. Everywhere I looked Captain Cringeworthy was posting, surely we should implement max number of posting from someone in a week/day?
OP literally admits to having conversations with tinder bots because he is "bored and lonely". He rehashes and misinterprets old concepts on a nearly hourly basis at this point. He is a 20 year old who asks the internet if he should move out of his parents house. Anybody that takes him or his advice seriously is a fucking loser.
/u/shut_up_liar, I agree with your assessment, but I would also challenge you to provide a field report of your own. Your posting history is sparse and consists only of short comments. You should contribute to the discussion.
Criticism is easy. Taking criticism is much harder.
Anybody that evaluates advice solely by the author's bio is misguided, quite literally.
Absolutely this.
Knowing the concept of argentum ad hominem should be basic knowledge for everybody who is trying to improve his social skills.
Anybody that doesn't strongly consider the source is misguided, quite literally.
If after considering the source you can still take what this person is saying seriously then I would question your intelligence unfortunately.
Ideas are independent of the speaker.
I know that you know this too. You're just confusing wisdom with truth. A parrot can say something true, but that does not mean the parrot is wise.
Ahhh I see. The good old "do as I say not as I do" mental gymnastics routine is in effect at all times?
If I'm broke and living on the streets are you going to take financial advice from me?
If I'm overweight and disgusting will you take health and exercise advice from me?
I've gone through your account, and you do a good deal of criticizing others. That's easy. I'd like to see the next time you post something that contributes value to the community.
Criticism is necessary. It's how this community separated the good advice from the bad and refined it into the advice we proffer today.
/u/shut_up_liar's critique might be harsh, but it rings true, and it isn't trolling.
Your participation in the community is appreciated, but right now you are speaking when you should be listening - this much is evident in your writing, and in the advice you offer. Your words are like those of a man who has read a book, but who has not lived its events.
We are not here to tear you down or humble you because it gets us off. We are trying to help you. There is still work you need to do in your own life before you try offering up your advice as expert opinion.
You make good points. Im a young man myself, as much as I know I may be ahead of people my age, I haven't experienced enough to offer sound advice.
So I don't post. I cant post, Until I know what im preaching is legitimate on my experience.
Although I truly do hope I can help this sub the same way your posts and many others posts have helped me.
Anyways thanks for sticking around after youve figured it out.
Thank you for your kind words.
A good contributor is one who wishes to actually help people, rather than boost his own ego by looking like a sage. That's typically the first and best way to distinguish.
I'm sure you will be a good contributor when the time comes. But for now, don't let anything stop you from posting your field reports. Those are valuable no matter who they come from, so long as they are paired with introspection.
Letters to Lucilius #29 excerpts:
"Of course, this is his choice. I’d rather speak to someone who wants to listen to what I’ve got to say. Even better, someone who will take my comments on board as a means to improve themselves. After all speaking to a person, one-on-one, is better than speaking to a crowd. I’m guessing that most people in a crowd only hear what they want to hear. They don’t hear what you have to say. Most of these people will simply react to what the crowd reacts to. But I suppose if you speak to enough people, with enough frequency, then maybe some of my words will make a positive impact?"
"I find that when speaking to a crowd you spend more time trying to please them, then getting your message across. What’s more, if they don’t recognise you as one of their own, then this lack of affinity means its an uphill struggle. But beware as if you walk on stage to speak, and you’re met with excessive clapping and cheering, then you’ve become an entertainer. This sort of learning is so important that people shouldn’t consider as trivial entertainment. And, remember, being popular doesn’t make you a good teacher."
"There will be a moment at which you may suspend, even abandon your giving advice. This is where the other person is unwilling to listen to you any more. When you are not getting any response from the other person at all."
Why does everyone on this sub feel the need to constantly go through other accounts' post history? It's a bullshit move based in insecurity. If you were actually confident in the shit you were putting out you wouldn't have had to compare it to whatever the guy you're responding to has put out.
But I guess you'll just do the same to me since I don't post as much as you do, therefore I must be some kind of inferior community member right?
I really hate when people do that. If I get into an argument here I'm arguing with the person's idea or thought, not the person themselves.
The guy made a point, maybe a bit harsh in my eyes, but still he made a valid point. And OP just looks through his account and completely ignores what he said.
This has happened to me. God forbid you browse any drug related subreddit. People will dismiss anything you say about any topic and call you a junkie.
It's because we're literally here talking to a username. Post history gives us slightly more insight into the topics they're interested in and how their mind works. It's contextualization.
I'd value advice from someone who has a variety of interests and has previous successes more than advice from some effeminate dude who enjoys hotwifing. Same type of deal here.
And you can't even take your own advice that you spout here literally all day every day. I guess I'm the pot and you're the kettle.
Who cares if he got dumped and is posting here to deal with it? Maybe he needs to reset and is using his posts to help himself think through shit. Doesn't make what he says any less true. Attacking the OP instead of the content of his posts is a chick move, dude. You have beef with him personally, take it to PM or move on with your life.
Even a broken clock is right once or twice a day. I've seen improvements in his posts. I agree he needs a bro irl though.
Imagine if he took this time to go out, improve himself, and approach women? Even with a 5% success rate he'd be balls deep!
I need to do that myself. I was slaying it and then I dated a girl for a year and my game is shit now. I don't feel I'm doing anything differently, but going straight-edge (not literally) for a job fucked my social world up.
I've just been hitting the gym and adding to my resume. I doubt girls and society have changed that much in the last year, though it really seems it's harder now.
Same boat my friend. I got out of a terrible relationship that ended in a divorce after 4 months. It took me a year of self improvement and confidence checks to get back out there. Then, I banged a couple HB8-9's, met what I thought was a great girl, and fell right back into oneitis. 6 months later, here I am again, going sober, working out a lot more, focusing heavily on my career and betterment... The great thing is I know how to get back there now- I did it before form far deeper depths. This is a chance to come out even stronger and more intelligent, and more sure of myself. Don't look at it as a negative, and don't worry that you're missing out on "THE party" or any bullshit. All that shit could vanish, and guess what you're left with? YOU. So work on you, forget the rest for now, and when you come out the other side the rewards will be hard to sift through.
Well, I didn't see this post after I read OP's. He gave really good advice up there, I recommend reading it. But, I'm pretty sure you've already mastered what he's commenting on.
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Agreed. He has been posting a lot, but the quality is high at least.
If the quality of these posts is high to you I would suspect you've never read the sidebar.
The sidebar is the culmination of thousands of posts that went nowhere.
Thousands.
GLO suggests peoole write more, build the rp lexicon. The man does just this, and all the crabs want him back in the bucket.
Neo showed others a path here, gentle guidance into a better masculinity, while ackgnowledging his contributions have value.
If you think hes posting too much, ask yourself. Why are the other 160k members not posting enough to drown out a single voice?
This place only works if its net producing. Net consumption is a female quality, and will kill this place faster than anything (other than letting women moderate)
Too many posers, too many afraid to write about their failures because ego. Too many just want the endorphin rush of belonging to a group.
Want to know a good redpill lesson from the captain? If things arent the way you want them, get to work and change them.
Vox has said as much in his book "sjw always lie"
GLO says it in every post
Rollo said as much in Trm
Pook eloquently says it in his book
And now im saying it. Post a failed field report, where you got shot down. Reflect on why it didnt work, let the boys throw a few punches at you and shrug it off. I guarantee those posts are better then mocking another man.
Just because its not as good a post as "book of pook" is a cop out
I think the problem with OP's posts isn't that they are low-quality, but rather the ones that I personally have seen on the front page tend to be these quick-fix, umbrella lists that tend to be popular on forums like this. That, or some rehashed/basic advice we've seen before. And sure, maybe there isn't anything wrong with reviewing the basics, but something about the constant posting drags the quality of each down in my eyes. If a different member posted each, I'd say this place was doing decent at the moment. But one guy, out of nowhere? It's a bit odd for me.
Normally id agree, except.
How many guys here dont lift yet. The #1 basic thing, and how many still arent lifting?
The most basic thing needs 100 different posts, 50 different ways, and while op could polish his posting up with more field reports, less armchair "wisdom", its a fair bit better than the 20 personal questions a day mods have to remove, or the mental masturbation posts, where we point to a shitty woman doing shitty things and laugh
. 02.
You just spent all that space and time to respond to a point I never made.
There's a whole lot of people that comment here about "RP is", what is a "high quality post" etc. For a lot of people these comments make it blatantly obvious that they have done no reading of the most basic material that this community is supposedly founded/based on.
The stuff that OP has been posting on a nearly hourly basis for the last week + has been by and large low effort, low quality rehashes of material that is covered in the sidebar. If someone finds his posts to be high quality I think that is a good indication they have not read (or not understood) the most basic readings that are "required" before commenting posting etc here.
Quality... Not high quality.
Also, consumers tend to get mad when producers arent catering. Its usually the biggest tell that someone is value leeching, and not value providing.
This place is for guys to swap notes, not guys to read manosphere porn.
I find it hard to believe youve finished the sidebar been here at least 3 months, and never had a field report or theory worth writing on.
SIDEBAR This x siderbar 1000 times sidebar
Boredom>Procrastination>Passive Aggression>Personality Disorder.
Read up on it. If you are not productive, you are not in your masculine... and the wominns love masculine men.
I'm on fucking Reddit when I should be out in my shed deadlifting.
Deadlifts are literally the most important exercise in the universe. Fact.
If you posted one a week vs 7 times a day every day people wouldn't dismiss your posts so readily
Have you seen porn? It's pretty good.
Well, every time i hit a fap streak i look for weirder shit to fap to. So, avoiding it completely is actually better. I just fap to the woman i would like to fuck.
If you haven't reached a level where you have to watch two midget chicks headbutting dude's balls to get off, you're cool.
That's nothing, once met a chic who was into freakier shit than me, and you can take that literally
Imagine shit test you'd get from her? Damn...
Taking shit test to a whole new level
I peak at the flexi doll stuff, where the women's expressions are fixed and they don't react. Their boredom and despondency is actually a massive turn on.
You have to fap to give you pleasure and satisfy your desire, if you think about a woman or watch porn to fap, you may think you need a woman to have pleasure but you just need your dick.
This might be the strangest comment on masturbatuon I've ever read. I know what you mean to say here but the implication is that you shouldn't fantasize about women and should only focus on your dick - a penis. Ghey
Actually, that's part of the advice in "No More Mr. Nice Guy". It's supposed to help you get over shame of your sexuality that was instilled in you in your childhood. There was a time when I found it very helpful, might have been just a placebo effect, though.
I call it meditative fapping. You don't think while fapping... Only feel.
Might work for me with a fleshlight, no fucking way could I get off doing that by hand
And all of your magnificent erogenous body well bodybuilded, it's even more beautiful in a chick mouth.
This whole thread is now about porn. Very successful hijack goodsir
“For me the real evil of masturbation would be that it takes an appetite which, in lawful use, leads the individual out of himself to complete (and correct) his own personality in that of another (and finally in children and even grandchildren) and turns it back; sends the man back into the prison of himself, there to keep a harem of imaginary brides. "And this harem, once admitted, works against his ever getting out and really uniting with a real woman. "For the harem is always accessible, always subservient, calls for no sacrifices or adjustments, and can be endowed with erotic and psychological attractions which no woman can rival. "Among those shadowy brides he is always adored, always the perfect lover; no demand is made on his unselfishness, no mortification ever imposed on his vanity. "In the end, they become merely the medium through which he increasingly adores himself. . . . After all, almost the main work of life is to come out of our selves, out of the little dark prison we are all born in. Masturbation is to be avoided as all things are to be avoided which retard this process. The danger is that of coming to love the prison.”
I've always filmed me and my girls (with consent) and watch that every now and then.
Pretty solid advice.
Make Gym time when your bored af. You feel great afterwards.
make gym time all the time even when you're not bored
I can't stress Rule 5 enough.
It's awesome being able to kill 2 birds with one stone. You're entertaining yourself but also making yourself a more interesting man and gaining valuable knowledge. Whether it's philosophy that helps change your perspective and allows you to better handle life like Stoicism, psychology so you understand people better, economics and finances for your life endeavors, or learning about others who've achieved the things you want as well.
Hell even just reading some classics and sharpening up your vocabulary and making awesome impressions in job interviews or conversations with others and having something to talk about when you can connect over a cool book.
Just be weary of keeping yourself entertained with something that benefits you in no way too much. Sure, a bit of mindless entertainment might be necessary, but when you can keep yourself entertained and get something out of it I can guarantee it's always a better option than just leveling up in a video game.
Only boring people get bored.
good points. I never understood when people say they're bored. it's like, you have the whole fucking world in front of you and you're bored? lazy motherfuckers
"Avoid overeating, avoid masturbation, stop oversleeping, never text a woman, etc..."
A lot of negative rules here. Not saying any of them are wrong, but these are all things that you should do automatically. A healthy and strong man has all these aspects of his life pretty much on autopilot.
So, potentially good reminders for new guys here, but if you want to advance in TRP these type of basic things need to be totally conquered to the point where you don't have to think "No! Stop overeating!"
As a lurker: the atmosphere around here is really getting more and more toxic. For me personally OP has hit a really important topic. I don't play games on my phone and when I get bored I usually just text randomly around. Exactly one of my issues. Sometimes I am even falling into the oversleeping habit as well. Something that is very hard to fight unless one has a super tight schedule or self-discipline. But it seems pointless opening up a discussion on those topics when all you guys are out to crucify OP.
Nothing is a more obvious sign of lack of ambition than boredom.
Fuck Rule 4 I'm skinny as fuck lol
I just wish this guy would do something with his life than reiterating everything (and irrelevant crap) one at a time off the sidebar.
These posts stem from heartbreak and true boredom.
Rule N: Write another useless article on reddit before meeting with your probation officer.
How do you know you oversleep? Most of the time i wake up tired, but i passes pretty soon after i wake up. The tiredness makes me want to sleep in
Before you go to bed set an alarm for 7-8 hours, give yourself an extra 30 mins to fall asleep and bam. You're guten
An overlooked habit for good sleep hygiene is to wake up and get out of bed at the same time every day, even if you have a late night. Your body adjusts and you eventually get tired around the same time every night (assuming you have other good habits like no stimulants late in the day, minimal artificial light at night, adequate exercise etc.)
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For me, I know when I wake up with a headache and feel groggy.
Actually , the basic idea of your post does make sense .. not in every single case though .
+1
going to have to agree. boredom is deadly
These are great tips for any human being, blue or red Pill folk.
These are the type of posts that make me coming back here enjoyable.
All things I actively pursue to accomplish each day. Solid post bud.
lol when did red pill become 'distort yourself into a different version that you think women will like'...? that's like, the opposite of red pill
If you're bored often, then you have a problem - you don't live an interesting life. My suggestion would be get some hobbys, join a social sports league, start a business. When you do occasionally find yourself bored, do something to improve yourself. There's always something you can do you're probably procrastinating on because it's not fun. Whatever you do, don't fill your time with video games or binge watching TV.
Boredom serves an important social function with the potential to facilitate prosocial intentions
Lack of motivation is why I'm mgtow
I normally fucking hate your posts, but this one was prime. Good job. I hope things are looking up for you these days.
I'm nurturing an interest in stocks and investments, but don't know where to begin. Any tips?
Great post; you may want to try publishing this outside of TRP. This is great advice that both women and men can benefit from! Edit: part about never texting a woman should be true to al people IMO, it's a non-productive way to alleviate boredom.
Seriously this dude is killing the quality of this sub. And the fact that so many neckbeards are supporting his shit shows how far the lurk here still has to go. Shut the fuck up and go lift kiddo.
Rule 1 doesn't apply to me
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That means every time you text her it's a signal you have nothing better to do. Think of it in a tribe. Rather than hanging with the men (which should be almost all the time), you're hanging out with her. Makes you look lame
That might quite possibly be the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
Nah it's just about how to text the woman. She may even like being used to combat your boredom. But if you text like a bitch she'll be turned off.