I've been spinning plates and hooking up with random girls and I don't like it.

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Every time I hook up with random girls or get with a plate I feel like something is eating away at my conscience. I get the most intense post nut clarity and feel like absolute shit. I've been following TRP for three years now and I really appreciate the self improvement aspect of it but I don't know if it's just me as an individual but I would prefer only fucking one girl that I have feelings for rather than fuck many with zero emotions.

I'm twenty years old studying at a collegiate university and pussy is super easy to come by. The general consensus here is that I should be fucking as many girls as possible especially at my age and position but what should I do if I feel like it just conflicts with who I am entirely? I honestly felt happier when I was a virgin chasing crushes.

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Title I've been spinning plates and hooking up with random girls and I don't like it.
Author xJaegar
Upvotes 181
Comments 100
Date 04 June 2020 01:35 AM UTC (11 months ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/670845
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/gw7iw9/ive_been_spinning_plates_and_hooking_up_with/
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[–][deleted] 238 points239 points  (11 children) | Copy

TRP is amoral and offers a set of tools. Take the tools and you do you. Spinning plates is to create abundance mentality, which is necessary to circumvent blindness due to oneitis and see properly. Again it's a tool; use it as you please.

[–]TheRedPillRipper73 points74 points  (8 children) | Copy

it just conflicts with who I am entirely

If spinning plates isn’t your thing then maybe your preference is an LTR. If so it’s never too early to start vetting.

Just remember and be prepared for the fact that even in an LTR; her turn will end.

Godspeed and good luck!

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[–]i-reddit-ck15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just beautiful 😭😭

[–]sam56688437 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pin this comment

[–]Pizza Harpoon Legiongcaa990 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Great comment

[–]jackandjill220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]downvotesanimals108 points109 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, stop doing it if it's not making you happy. No need to get so delusionally RPd that you ignore your desires.

[–]comcain80 points81 points  (9 children) | Copy

You do you.

There's a reason TRP recommends spinning plates at age 20. You should be focused on school, not LTR relationship drama. Get a gf if you like, but you sound like the sort of guy who falls hard for a girl and that may not end well. Oh, well, everyone has to learn sometime why there IS a Red Pill.

Have you read the sidebar? Are you lifting? Have you read The Rational Male?

By the way, the reason I'm smiling a little here is compared to some of the posts here, you're golden. "Oh I can't get a girl, I'm too short. OR too tall. OR ugly. OR bald. OR OR OR. "

Count your blessings that you're bored of too much meaningless sex, okay?

After university, it gets more difficult. So enjoy the plethora while you can.

By the way, college is concentrated smart girls. They have to take a test to get in, as did you. If you're looking for a gf, you're in the right place.

Either way, good luck, brother. It's hard feeling soul weary of the girls you fuck. Been there. Finally settled for a gf myself. I'm honestly not judging you.


[–]xJaegar[S] 29 points30 points  (6 children) | Copy

Really appreciate the response. I've read The Rational Male twice now, great book and will always continue engulfing myself with Rollo's philosophy. I think you're right in regards to falling hard for a girl; I struggle to catch feelings for girls in general but when I do, my mind is focused on them 24/7.

Funnily enough I am short and have personally been down that black pill rabbit hole (before I discovered TRP) but I'm doing pretty well now and catch the interest of many girls. I have a really good physique too and the gym is a major part of my life. I think I'm just going to continue living my life and studying and maybe sometimes get the occasional hook up in. Thanks once again

[–]johncillo10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s the thing, Abundance is a part of a biological frame of men, it’s part of our nature too. However, having a family is ingrained as well, LTR’s are hard mode pussy, so if you want to start one, go ahead, but do it from a place of abundance and good frame, maybe you’re feeling this way because you haven’t found any girl to share more than a fuck, or someone you genuinely like. Keep doing what you’re doing and be critical, don’t consume or do something just because you read it on a forum, make sure is part of your essence and the authenticity within you. Have a good life, hope everything works out.

[–]Wants permission to daternsbrum2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

BE CAREFUL. You seem to be kinda like me. I have two modes, I'm either not caring at all, or I care 100%... So you are either not catching feelings for any girls and living life as normal, or you are obsessing over someone who doesn't even care if you exist.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good thing you recovered from the black pill. I have been in the rabbit hole too, and goddamn I am never going back there again.

[–]TheBlockedUser0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

"my mind is focused on them 24/7"

This is a severe case of validation seeking. Oneitis is what we call it.

[–]xJaegar[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah you're right, I'm only speaking from experiences in the past way before I discovered TRP. I haven't caught feelings for years

[–]TheBlockedUser0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Bud, as long as you admit your weaknesses, you can convert them into strengths.

Keep trucking along.

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[–]2000wfridge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'd add to this that book smart is different from common sense smart. Colleges are full of blue haired radical leftists and feminist whores, not to mention the sheer number of std carrying psychos who will file rape allegations if you break up with them

[–]Gtrplyr383817 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just because you can get girls doesn’t mean that you must get them. I had periods in college where I was on top of a woman thinking that I would have a better time drinking beer with my friends. Take a break and only go for the girls that really interest you.

[–]mortalcoil118 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have never been a plate spinner. My few ONS's have felt closer to masturbation than I like. What I do enjoy is the honeymoon stage of relationships. I also hate condoms. You could try serial LTR's. Get tested together, make sure she's on BC and she's faithful and have amazing honeymoon period sex where you can't keep your hands off of each other, and when it gets boring, end things amicably and move on.

Just a bit of advice, while TRP is amoral, you seem to have a moral code, and there are 2 things I live by.

  1. Try to leave a girl better than you found her.

  2. As tough as it can be, especially in 2020, don't ghost her if you want to break up. This will ruin all of the good karma built up from 1. Try your best to break up amicably. You would be surprised how many people handle an honest break up better than you think they will.

Just my 2 cents.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do what suits you. Follow your moral compass (and be glad you have one).

And there's a huge difference in being able to, and choosing not to, than not being able to, and either not doing or trying too.

[–]SavorThePill9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

A recent phenomena in the manosphere consists of some figures going Godpill. Roosh V, Elliott Hulse, LFA (well, not really LFA, but he's been encouraging his viewers to keep the notch count low). These guys were dedicated to the redpill and had no qualms about gaining that carnal knowledge with legions of women. Roosh was probably the biggest proponent of living the playboy lifestyle.

For one reason or another, these guys have eschewed the notion of abundance with women. To interpret why broadly, I believe it has a lot to do with pair bonding. Evolutionary biology says that humans are naturally polyamorous, or at least serial monogamists...but behavioral psychology doesn't seem to support that. Emerging insights on people who have had multiple partners doesn't seem to support that either. What more people seem to be discovering is that having multiple partners may be psychologically damaging. Humans have a tendency to pair bond, so we put an amount of mental or even spiritual stock into our relations with others, especially if the relation pertains to fucking.

For many centuries, perhaps millennia, the institution of monogamy was the norm; now, it's appearing possible that our brains have a natural inclination toward monogamy that has been cultivated by the many years it was practiced...or maybe we've been socially conditioned to being monogamous via exposure to media, historical accounts, our own upbringings, etc. Whatever the case may be, I've been learning that monogamy is better for people--maybe not everyone, hard to say.

So, I'd say the life of sexing droves of women isn't for you. And I don't think it's for most people, despite what many will say. At worse, it's an addiction and a form of validation. The baseless quest for more women steers you away from your mission, and in your case, makes you feel like shit. I know, my position is antithetical to some of the ideology here on TRP--while the upper echelon have declared TRP's about sexual strategy, I've always found it to be about improvement and I'm sticking to that.

It sounds like you know what the answer is. Be it.

[–]dzmisrb431 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Very interesting points.

It's so weird how conflicting some things are.

Many things you said are true.

But it's so strange that at the same time we know that males get much higher sex drive if they change partners and many similar things to that when it comes to changing partners. And yet in many ways we psychologically and almost spiritually (I don't believe in supernatural but it's closes thing to something like that) all lean towards monogamy and deep relationships at the same time.

So what gives?

[–]SavorThePill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ah yes, you've brought up a very interesting concept here: the Coolidge Effect.

We humans do enjoy novelty. I believe facets of that phenomena could be extrapolated to other phenomena of our world, such as social media usage. If most humans didn't have such a keen fixation on what's novel, people wouldn't keep scrolling through their newsfeed.

The same goes for consumer culture. People want that new phone, new pair of shoes, new car, etc. One could become bored with their previous phone, but the latest iPhone comes out and wow do they sure love using the marginally better camera and UI.

In a sense, I think the Coolidge Effect comes from what I hypothesize to be an innate sense in animals to commodify/objectify sex, and treat the acquisition of new sexual partners as though we're acquiring the latest phone.

[–]rumpleforesknn7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

TRP doesn't exclusively apply to spinning plates. It can effectively be implemented into LTRs with practice. If spinning plates isn't for you, then seek LTRs. Just be aware that you will need to be more mindful in a LTR as it's easier to slip out of frame and TRP principles over time in a LTR.

[–]phisch136 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

So don’t spin plates?

Imo, Number one principle from red pill is do whatever makes YOU happy.

Seems simple to me. I definitely go through phases where I genuinely don’t feel like spinning plates. So I just don’t for a while.

[–]RPOpenUp2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You should reconsider the way you view plates.

A lot of men on TRP think of plates as a disposable vagina that you bin after fucking. Nothing more nothing less And there's nothing wrong with this.

However spinning plates can also be used as a tool, not just to get sex, but to properly choose your relationships. TRP is not saying you shouldn't emotionally invest into women at all. It says you should seriously choose which women you emotionally invest into, cuz you know there's a lot of low quality women out there.

Try to view spinning plates as filtering out the good ones.

Good luck

[–]winstrol22 points23 points  (32 children) | Copy

Stop fucking 5s & 6s. Game the 8+ stop playing yourself

[–]xJaegar[S] 9 points10 points  (30 children) | Copy

I've surpassed the 5s & 6s, in fact I restricted myself to 7s and above in hopes that it would change my current thought process but it has made no impact. The best lay I ever had was with a 6 who l felt a genuine connection with whilst the worse was some 9 I met on a night out.

[–]PlusTenStrength38 points39 points  (28 children) | Copy

Stop fucking girls you don’t care about. Every time you have sex with someone new, a part of your spirit is exchanged with them. When you keeping fucking these randoms you taint your soul with their energy and you give away your seed for nothing.

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[–]goldenpoopstain4 points5 points  (15 children) | Copy

Where do you find the tools for this sort of stuff?

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[–]ev3rynightfireworks-3 points-2 points  (5 children) | Copy

this sounds like schizophrenia to me, im never taking that shit. You feel like you're in the angelic realm?

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[–]OlderRedBrother2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

can you make more of a post on this thesis? if you don’t end up sharing it in TRP let me know if it’s in another subreddit. i resonate with a lot of what you’re saying. i’m reading “Autobiography of a Yogi” right now. trying to personally find a great mix of “crushing it/TRP” type ideal with also mixing it with the ideal of making the world a better place and spiritually enhancing myself and all those surrounding me that are important to me

you should make a longer post about your perspective and your experience and your thesis!

[–]l_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_l0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I feel a heavy sadness around the world and it worries me.

[–]SavorThePill2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy

You have to start doing the deep dive. Start getting philosophical. Some people go the way of stoicism, more serious than the TRP take on it, progressing to the teachings of Seneca or Marcus Aurelius (the most prominent stoics). Or you could go old school with Plato or Socrates.

You could check out the enlightenment authors such as Rouseau, Voltaire, and Locke to name a few. Brilliant thinkers whose works influenced our democratic ways of life.

Or the more modern minds such as Adam Smith (my personal favorite), Ralph Waldo Emerson, and Alan Watts, and Jordan Peterson (I'll throw in Marshall McLuhan too, despite his leanings toward technology and futurism). For all the jabs dealt to him, Peterson's perspectives are nonetheless valuable and thought-provoking (and very inspired by Karl Jüng, who's also worth looking into).

Pertinent to the more spiritual side of things, I think David Deida and Elliott Hulse (I know, polarizing figure for the last few years now) are great. Very enlightening, insightful material that expanded my grasp on the more abstract sides of life.

[–]xJaegar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I read meditations two years back. Will give it another read, stoic philosophy has always interested me.

[–]noNooodleArms0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

You forgot Nietzsche.

[–]SavorThePill0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Many wise people that weren't included in my comment. Nietzsche is a little too pessimistic for my tastes, but nevertheless posited some fascinating concepts!

[–]noNooodleArms1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ah man, I disagree. Think about Eternal Recurrance...living in such a way that you would do it over and over again....I strongly agree with Voltaire & Adam Smith, though! Good stuff.

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[–]SavorThePill1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

In the context of philosophers, it is more constructive to base your assessment on the value and merit of their ideas and insights and not on aspects of their personal lives, unless of course you're listening to a person with an egregious set of habits or biases.

In the case of Peterson, his unfortunate struggle with drug addiction doesn't bar any of works from being valid--it doesn't make his ideas, especially before his trouble, any less potent or valuable. Of course, it apparently has diminished the perception that people have formed of him.

Peterson is recovering (he's writing a new book as well). People can improve. The implication of your argument is that people cannot be rehabilitated or improved, which completely flies in the face of TRP.

[–]awihsoj8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

this. I love trp but I dont understand how guys willingly give away their seed so easily. Semen Retention.

[–]marcus8crassus5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Care to elaborate and/or share personal insights/experiences?

[–]SavorThePill3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

This guy gets it

[–]nixon9930 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy


[–]PlusTenStrength3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Regardless of how you interpret it, it’s naïve to assume the world is purely physical in nature. There are metaphysical forces at play that affect human psyche in a very real way.

[–]nixon9930 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Any proof for that?

[–]PlusTenStrength1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Here’s some material regarding the metaphysical as dictated by the CIA

CIA declassified documents


• ⁠Altered states of consciousness (e.g. out-of-body, remote viewing, biofeedback, hypnosis, transcendental meditation, dimension travel, seeing into the past/future, REM, amongst others)

• ⁠Practical methods of obtaining these aforementioned states of consciousness (that have been tested)

• ⁠Description of the Ether (while not directly called ether) and functions through which we, as humans (i.e. beings of this dimensional frequency), operate through the ether

• ⁠The role of frequency/resonance and altered states of consciousness/specific dimensional existence

• ⁠The physics that found our hologram based reality

• ⁠Acknowledgement of specific ancient Tibetian, Indian, and Judeo-Chriatian views of the world/nature/holy trinity—respectively—as correct

• ⁠Everything written within is in an attempt to discuss how the "Gateway Tapes" (specific meditation practices that gradually step up in conscious difficulty coupled with the addition of certain frequencies played at specific steps) can lead to accelerated conscious awareness and ability of aforementioned altered states to be used practically; better so than traditional forms of yoga, motivation, and other forms mentioned that escape me currently.

[–]IRA_INK-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

Every one has their own beliefs and worldview but this sounds like pure quackery to me. "Taint your soul with their energy"? This isn't an anime. You fuck a chick and that's it. There doesn't have to be some higher meaning, it's basic biology.

[–]mega_kook6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

It depends on how much meaning you put into it. OP seems like he tends to fall for a girl hard, so therefore he should stop fucking girls that will bring down his mood. Other people aren't affected by it as much and they fuck whomever they please.

[–]SavorThePill-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Just because you won't take the time to properly discern the meaning doesn't mean it's bullshit. You could call anything bullshit with that sort of rationale (most people do).

[–]IRA_INK-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Properly discern what? If OP doesn't like spinning plates then that's ok. There is nothing wrong with preferring having genuine feelings with one person rather than mindlessly fucking multiple women. I just said the whole "energy" and "spirit" shit sounds a bit delusional to me.

[–]salezman120 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It feels like you are on a quest for oneitis.

[–]Tousen711 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. It's easy to get bored without a challenge.

[–]Crixusgannicus4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

There is no "who you are" really. People assume "identity" is some permanent solid thing. It's not. It's a series of CHANGEABLE likes, dislikes, responses, actions and REactions. That includes your so-called conscience.

That's why education and advertising work. Propaganda (like feminazism) too.

[–]xJaegar[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I definitely agree that your identity changes in regards to external factors which is why I decided to continue with the random hookups in hopes that I'd maybe eventually like it. However this hasn't been the case two years on and it's really made me miserable. Still, I'm young and have many years to experiment with.

[–]Crixusgannicus1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's right.

That said though. Do as you choose because you want to. Never FORCE yourself. There is a difference between MOTIVATING yourself and FORCING yourself. LEARN IT!

Best wishes!

[–]Trance-World4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

Go monk mode for a while

[–]xJaegar[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

This is looking like a good option. I have the next three months to work on myself before I start my second year of university.

[–]l_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_l0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Highly recommend it dude. Its hard at first but the "clarity" everybody talks about is real. Include meditation and mindfulness

[–]thesoloronin3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good. Now keep doing it. Just goes to show you how powerful the Feminine Primary Social Order is when indoctrinated constantly through several generations.

TRP is an amoral set of tools, not unmalleable principles. Like money, you can use it for directly benign or indirectly malignant purposes.

[–]RP_utiliser1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get on your purpose, having a gf who likely wont respect your time will deter you from your long term goals. You’re 20 and still have a long way.

[–]trpthrowaway2241 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Then the women aren't high quality enough for you

[–]leotard-princess1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't do it then.

[–]JSJRB14921 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Read the Greek stoics and the Catholic Church Fathers. The world's greatest religion, Christianity, has the perfect answer for your problem.

Meaningless sex never gives you happiness. It empties you, and robs everything of its meaning.

The most attractive man I know is a 6'4 jacked super Catholic dude who dates a lot of hot girls but doesn't bed them. He actually redpills them and teaches them the virtue of chastity.

I'm a Catholic RedPill 19 year-old 6'3 very handsome dude who gets girls easily. I always ALWAYS struggle between the two paths: the narcissistic Casanova path or going down the true Christian man path. Sounds like you should think about it too.

[–]Musicgoon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The idea of spinning plates is to create abundance and combat oneitis. It sounds like you're further along than most guys.

The idea isn't to get as many notches as you can. You can still be red pill aware and only have one relationship. Do what makes you happy. Just don't put a woman on a pedestal, prepare for and shut down drama, and be your own mental point of origin. Be ready to walk away at any moment.

I would say never stop flirting. You don't need to fuck every single girl, but keep your skills and game tight.

[–]cockkksucker3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

get ur reps in dude ur still a kid, become a sex god

[–]Normie50001 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

God didn’t intend for us to sleep around

[–]flyinghorse10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Take a break. I was in the same position as you. I quit dating around a year ago and I'm happier. I'm just focusing on other goals and having fun seeing my pals. When I feel like dating again, I will.

[–]Gawernator0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah that’s normal, not everyone is a degenerate. If you don’t like it then don’t do it. Pretty obvious

[–]btrpb0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not everyone who spins plates is a degenerate, either.

[–]idontevenlift370 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would use this time to work on yourself and do what makes you happy personally, that will be much more fulfilling than spinning a lot of plates. It’s true that your early twenties are great for spinning plates, but if you stay on your grind and build yourself up getting pussy won’t be much of a problem regardless of your age. If you desire only one girl then having an LTR is an option, just don’t succumb to oneitis, remember AWALT.

[–]rprookie0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Texas A&M?

[–]xJaegar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nah, I live in the UK.

[–]Distractingyou0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think it just means you already spinned plates and you dont need to do it anymore i think any man should spin plates but for a period of time so he proves to himself he can otherwise he will always be condenmed to live a simp life so yh if i was you i would be happy to end it

[–]spartan_samurai0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't force yourself to spin plates if you don't feel like doing it. No one is gonna give you award for how many plates you have spinned.

The whole idea of spinning plates is to introduce you to the world of abundance so you don't catch oneitis for a girl.

And the man who have more options is always better than the person who have only one option.

[–]scissor_me_timbers000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah man I know the feeling. And it doesn’t even have to be a super serious relationship, just someone you get along with and have some connection with, rather than a total meaningless fuck. Just don’t get too emotionally invested or needy. But yeah go for quality, not quantity. Find a girl or two that you really vibe with and spend your time with just her/them. Eventually they may ask for exclusivity.

[–]thatbadrogue20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

they call that marriage, young one

[–]Kratom_Dumper0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do whatever you want to do, almost all guys that have been successful with meeting a lot of girls eventually gets tired of it and settles down.

[–]KillaJewels0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do what you want to do. But just remember, you'll regret it later for not taking full advantage of your time and place in life rn. Keep sniping so you can improve yourself for later, when relationships become practical. In college, I would say relationships are NOT the way to go.

[–]linkofinsanity190 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What u/menazich said was spot on. I'd like to add for your purposes what the utility is specifically.

Hooking up and spinning plates:

  1. Gives experience interacting with, seducing, and handling women.
  2. gives the aforementioned abundance mentality.
  3. It is one of the most efficient ways of finding a woman for the long term since you are seeing multiple at one time. She stays a plate until she proves after sufficient time and screening that she has potential to be trained to be a good LTR. You also have an abundance mentality while screening and training her. Once you start training her, that is more investment on your part than a simple plate. With investment comes a risk of oneitis if you don't have abundance. We all know what oneitis does to women we actually want to be around. Then if she passes through training and doesn't have any major infractions going forward, you've got yourself a decent woman for you to have an LTR with.

Spinning plates is a Swiss Army knife of a tool. It can do a lot of things for you. It can be a means to an end like building experience, getting an LTR worthy woman, or getting over a particular girl, or it can be the end itself if you so choose.

[–]DopeMeme_Deficiency0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I feel you. Five years of TRP left me way more empowered, but also left me feeling kinda scuzzy. I felt dishonest, and even though they were dishonest too, it still bothered me. I too wanted to try LTRs again. Remember that you're the prize, a compromise is a compromise for both of you, not you bending to her will, you do nice things because you want to, not because she expects them.aintain frame, and don't allow emotions to rule the day. In the end the principal's of TRP are true, as are those in MGTOW. As others have told you, take the tools you can use, and put the rest aside for later. Keep in mind that if you invest emotionally, you're likely to get burned, and it hurts. Trying to find a good woman is harder than trying to find diamonds in kitty litter, but I believe in you. Good job at recognizing yourself and what you want. Keep doing you.

[–]EdvardMunch0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

God this thing starts as self learning and eventually you end up babysitter for the new.

Do what you fucking want holy fucking shit.

[–]1MrTheFalcon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"The general consensus here" is not TRP. TRP is about embracing reality including an honest view of yourself, with stoic virtue. Body count has nothing to do with it. Abundance is a state and opportunity, but not one that you are required to engage.

Focus on school, and self-improvement. Allow women to be close if they support your ambition. You can reciprocate by supporting their goals as well. Sex will be the natural side affect of mutual admiration, and you will be happy.

If you follow this path, you may develop one-itis. Just remember that you are twenty, and you'll change a lot in the next 10-20 years. So will she. So even if she's a perfect match for you now, you'll both be very different in the future, and you'll both have FOMO if you're stuck together. So be intimate in the moment, but compartmentalize those feelings.

[–]RaidenDark0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The general consensus here is that I should be fucking as many girls as possible

At the risk of catching a ton of flak for this: that consensus is stupid. This is not red pill mentality, this is PUA mentality. I'm not impressed in the slightest with a high body count and you shouldn't be either. Far more impressed am I with the man who has a quality relationship with a quality woman. It takes a quality man to net a quality woman. Know what a high body count takes? Technique. Literally anyone can do it simply with the right know-how. It says nothing about your value - only your knowledge and how willing you are to lower your standards. Men with high body counts invariably fuck women far beneath them in order to get there. Personally, I am against the lowering of standards. I would rather stay celibate for years on end than fuck a woman who is beneath me.

There are a number of bad things that happen when you lower your standards. For one, the women you fuck develop artificially inflated standards. Second, your view of women is dragged down by all the garbage women you spend time with. Finally, your own self esteem plummets. This is a subconscious process that you have no control over. Remember what Jordan Peterson said about us and lobsters? We have a hierarchy tracking mechanism built in to the brain. It knows what we're doing and releases the appropriate chemicals to make us feel good or holds them back when it sees fit.

This is why you're not satisfied. Fucking lots of women is a meaningless pursuit that any idiot can do. There's no reason for you to feel good about it. A candy bar is great when you're starving. But when you've avoided sweets for a long time and eat healthy, the very idea of a sugary explosion like that is physically repulsive. I couldn't fuck a low quality woman if I tried. They disgust me. Doesn't matter how pretty she is when I can smell the daddy issues. My life doesn't revolve around pussy, it revolves around my purpose. I'll take it when it's worth it and only then.

[–]alex_de_tampa0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

They will do it to you and not blink or think twice about it.

[–]Guarnerre19950 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Doing something that isnt you is BETA imho. You fuck 0 women or 1000 women a year, if you dont like it who are you lying to? Yourself.

Youve tried, doesnt suit, time to move on and try something else

[–]reallyphatty-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

hey man, iam in uni first year

just a question, how did you able to see this many girl in uni or where

[–]xJaegar[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't quite understand your question. I assume you're asking how I'm meeting many girls? I live on campus so there's a big social aspect with parties every week. I also go to a club reserved for my uni only and meet a lot of girls there as well.

[–]IveSawitall-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

That is your bluepill mind fighting hard to claim its space, you are Rene the and still Very young.. it's normal to feel that way after you nut.. you want to give yourself permission to catch ONitis for that special unicorn?.. good luck. We'll be here for you when you come back broken and bitter.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Purple pill for you my friend

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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