Spend money on your car, not men. Your life may depend on it....

MulticoloredCatMug · 2020-12-05T23:03:59+00:00

I know this might sound silly, but unlimited data could be a great thing too. Use Life360 and your family can track you at all times. Paying extra if possible for data could help u out a ton safety wise. When u go on a date, let ur friend track you the whole time until you’re safe at home etc.

her-vagesty · 2020-12-05T23:11:33+00:00

Know basic things. Know how to top up your oil, know where the coolant goes, know what the warning lights mean and how urgent they might be, know how to change a tyre and make sure you have a spare. The oil light is super urgent, if you drive on low oil you can really damage the engine. I keep oil in my car in case it ever needs a top up. I get my car serviced every few months, it's old-ish but reliable because I've taken care of it. I once had to spend a night in my car because the petrol station on my long drive was out of petrol 🤦🏻‍♀️ very cold, creepy night trying to sleep in my car, would not recommend.

AcctJustForMe · 2020-12-05T23:26:26+00:00

Know how to change a tire, but don't change it in an emergency alone if you have the choice not to. A woman outside a broken down car is a target. I forget my pride and sit in a locked car to wait for help or at least a chaperone.

ivory_727 · 2020-12-06T00:08:13+00:00

I definitely agree with your point about a AAA membership. I feel very empowered and safe driving long distances knowing that if something happens to my car, I won't be completely helpless.

ThrowawayKITTY777 · 2020-12-06T01:29:52+00:00

AAA is hands down the best roadside service out there... check your cellphone plan and car insurance plan and see if you can get a deal on it through either I get mine for $5 extra a month on my phone bill.

You should definitely learn to change a tire and make sure your car has a tire kit with all parts working and in good order... you need a jack, tire iron, heavy duty work gloves, lug wrench, and roadside flares .... also I recommend getting a full size spare if your car didn't come with one, those crappy donuts are NOT worth it. Plus if you're small or lightweight I recommend having a cordless impact wrench in your tire kit... make sure you get the converter that works in your car for the charging base. Sometimes a smaller person can't get lugnuts off a car without another person's help... but check the torque rating on the impact wrench before you buy... should be able to handle MORE than 100 foot-pounds of torque to work.

I definitely agree with never let your gas tank drop below 1/4th full. Plus I always have a 5 gallon emergency gascan filled up and waiting in the trunk if I leave my city. And I always have a couple of charged up fast phone chargers in my car, just in case something goes wrong and my car won't turn on to charge my phone.

I hate that asshole men have made accepting roadside help unsafe. These days you really are better off waiting for AAA. I still always stop for a fellow woman on the side of the road since I have car skills and can be actually helpful. I think more of us car enthusiast ladies should make a point of always stopping to help our sisters stranded on the road.

Samvanderkamp123 · 2020-12-06T02:59:22+00:00

Another point is about bringing groceries or shopping in from your car.

Get everything to your door. Lock your car. Then, having checked the area, unlock the front door and get right inside.

Lock your front door even if you are planning to go back out in 60 seconds.

Do not ever relay between your car, your open front door and kitchen. It takes seconds for someone to dart into your home.

And stay alert. No phone calls, no headphones. If you have pepper spray or a weapon, it’s no use to you at the bottom of your purse.

Samvanderkamp123 · 2020-12-06T01:31:26+00:00

I posted this because I was watching ID today and a woman was killed after her car broke down.

And because another woman on JustNoSo allowed her LV boyfriend to change the oil on her car - he ended up destroying the engine on her car. So you have to take care of this yourself.

honeybeeroll · 2020-12-06T03:11:57+00:00

Get one of those combo knife/seat belt cutter/window breakers. Keep that within an arms reach of the drivers seat, God forbid you ever need it.

Some credit card companies offer roadside assistance. Citibank for ex still does. AAA is of course better but if you don't have them, these credit card roadside assistance, they'll come tow you, bring you gas, etc.

Jumping your car yourself: there are USB power banks that also double as a jump. Keep one in your car and keep it fully charged cuz jumping your car uses up the whole battery. But do not leave it in your car in the cold weather, keep it in your bag instead, as the cold will zap the battery life.

Other stuff you should have: an air pump for tires, washer fluid (summer type and winter type), snow/ice scraper, a small collapsible shovel (in case you've ever had a dick boss who keeps you in the office for hours after it starts snowing 🙃).

Be sure to get your car regularly serviced, know how often various fluids and filters should be changed, and learn how to change your engine and cabin air filters yourself, it's super easy and like a 10th of the price of what a service place will charge you.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-12-05T23:42:57+00:00

So I don't live in a very large town so I never expected this. One night my alternator died when I was coming off the freeway. I just barely coasted into a parking lot at a small business before my car totally died. Moments later I hear a bunch of screaming and up pulls a big truck. A bunch of young men get out with baseball bats and start chasing down two other guys on foot.

Everybody's screaming and running all over the place. I freaked out and melted way down into my seat praying these men would not see me. I watched the guys with baseball bats jump over a fence after the two guys on foot. A minute later the truck wheeled out of the parking lot and left. That was fucking scary. I didn't even know what business I was at to be able to tell anybody where to come and get me. Likke hell I was going to be getting out of my car to wander around in the dark and find out! You don't want to be in that position.

You should also all learn how to check your fluids, add fluids, check tire pressure, add air to the tires, check for leaks, have flares, chains, a gas can, a functioning spare tire, tire iron, jack, know how to change a tire, and carry duct tape and screwdrivers. Also a good idea to have a few weapons in your car like some basic mace, a fish mallet, a baseball bat, asp, gun etc.

I know one woman who was saved from being attacked in a parking lot. A guy snuck up behind her while she was loading stuff in her trunk and she happened to have a baseball bat in her trunk that she pulled out scared him off.

flowers4u · 2020-12-06T04:15:51+00:00

There was just a woman on aita asking if she is the asshole since she doesn’t let her bf or anyone borrow her car and the one time she did he scratched it and didn’t pay to get it fixed. He then asked again and she said no... she’s dumbing him as we speak

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/k7gcf4/aita_because_i_told_my_bf_he_cant_ever_borrow_my/

Optimal_Grapefruit_5 · 2020-12-06T02:13:47+00:00

Excellent advice, saving this faster than lightning

Twolipz_78 · 2020-12-06T03:43:32+00:00

I ride a bicycle 35 mins to and from work five days a week. I go home when it’s dark past warehouses. Pray for me.

TexiMcCrae · 2020-12-06T07:27:50+00:00

Every day I’m shocked at how many people don’t know their vehicles, to include men. Everyone should know how to change their oil, change a tire, change filters, how to jump batteries, etc.

Inspection-Critical · 2020-12-06T00:44:16+00:00

Meanwhile, I know a woman who gave her car to her boyfriend... 🤷‍♀️

_bbears_ · 2020-12-06T22:39:10+00:00

AAA has saved me multiple times, it is absolutely worth the money. As other users have said, always have your phone charged, don’t let gas run low and I have my best friend sharing locations on Life360. I was raised sort of feral and made many mistakes I’ve learn from that could have cost me my life. One time I stopped on a 12 hour drive to rural Maine to get my brakes fixed, after I got back on the road my hood popped up almost blocking my view and terrified me. The mechanic didn’t close it all the way. I pulled off the highway and jumped out very quickly without my phone to close the hood and locked my self out of my running car. First I went into the woods and got a log and tried to break the back window but couldn’t. Eventually, praying I wouldn’t get assaulted, started to flag cars down. A Russian (?) couple in a van who didn’t speak English pulled over and I had to mime the problem. I could tell the wife had forced the man to stop and the husband was weary of me. He said he had nothing to break the window and I started to cry, he eventually handed me an ax he had under the backseat (I think he was too nervous to give it to me as first) and I broke the back window not giving a fuck but wanting to get back in the car ASAP. I was very lucky. I now keep an extra key in a magnetic box under the car so nothing like that will ever happen again. I also carry mace on my key chain and a knife in the center console. I do not travel without mace and a knife after many other close calls and lessons learned.

Title	Spend money on your car, not men. Your life may depend on it....
Author	Samvanderkamp123
Upvotes	302
Comments	32
Date	December 5, 2020 10:49 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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