When you finally get into your FIRST healthy relationship...This was me almost 5 years ago!

New_Article7411 · 2021-04-04T20:49:36+00:00

That feeling where you wonder if everything is a trap 😩

w0rmsongs · 2021-04-04T22:08:10+00:00

I've experienced men who would pretend to be open with their phone. But anytime a message came through/it vibrated/whatever, they would visibly flinch, even just a very slight movement, before confirming with a glance that it wasn't a threat. That always made my skin crawl and senses tingle.

Jezebel143 · 2021-04-04T22:51:33+00:00

Okay but there could always be a Bat Phone or two. Or he could have a Google number and if he has those notifications turned off and doesn’t keep the apps installed.. It’s 2021, I wish it were as easy as this video, which is actually kinda cute.

Revy_Ur_Engines · 2021-04-05T00:18:34+00:00

This is such a shame because there are some women who are so used to being treated wrong, they destroy good relationships. It’s so important to heal so you can accept what you deserve without questioning everything.

disposable20201129 · 2021-04-04T21:25:26+00:00

Isn't this Rahul? I mean different guy but that's Rahul's schtick and probably his voice too.

Weremaid · 2021-04-05T01:33:49+00:00

“What kind of wicked game is this..”

That made me actually laugh out loud, because I would 100% not be able to trust that lmao

logickilledthecat · 2021-04-04T20:23:53+00:00

Nope. Open phone policy can still be played against you (deleted messages, secret chat feature, archiving chats, etc.).

Trust but VERIFY completely on your own terms. Vet, vet, vet.

If something feels off, it is.

Papaverinum · 2021-04-04T21:42:42+00:00

This will be me... well, never actually. HVM are too rare to be found 🙃

Platipus6 · 2021-04-05T01:39:47+00:00

"Where are all the good women? I just want someone who is trusting and loyal!"

wellp, tell your bros to stop fucking us up.

electroloop · 2021-04-05T00:52:31+00:00

Nah. Plenty of men have second phones where they actively cheat on their partners on. Their main phone might look pure and pious, but his second phone has all the secrets and his side chicks.

UnstrirringCoffee · 2021-04-05T09:18:10+00:00

Even if a guy was okay with me looking through his phone, I am not going to be the bad guy towards one of his friends. He can text himself that he is not available, after he finishes the dishes. Also dishes do not need to be announced.

WornTheTshirt73 · 2021-04-05T07:18:05+00:00

Do women really pout their lips and comport themselves like small children? Paedo culture

TopJunket7249 · 2021-04-05T13:04:57+00:00

Ex husband gave me his phone password and card pin second time I met him, so I could change music/answer texts/pay for stuff while he was driving and couldn’t use his hands. Yeah...he ended up being an abusive, paranoid guy who used this as a sign of how “open” and “trustworthy” he was, when in reality he was isolating me from my friends and family and creating a narrative that he is the only one I could trust and who loves me and is there for me.

At the end of the day, so many seemingly HV actions can be used in malicious ways. Vet from all angles and constantly. My dad says “test, test, test—don’t let them get to the next level of trust until they proved themselves to you not just once, but multiple times.”

_jellybeanqueen_ · 2021-04-05T03:01:17+00:00

This is obviously in the context of a single phone (no burners). I asked one of my BFFs, who is super private and iffy about who touches their phone, why someone would be so on guard about what they do on their phone and why you aren't allowed to touch it ever. And honestly their response? It's because they're up to no good and have shit to hide (taken directly from someone WHO DOES SKETCHY SHIT).

I'm all for the open phone policy, like go off read my texts and my dream log and the weird inspirational quotes in my notes app, if you truly have nothing to hide you wouldn't be so on edge with your partner using your phone

Title	When you finally get into your FIRST healthy relationship...This was me almost 5 years ago!
Author	The_Real_Nixie
Upvotes	367
Comments	26
Date	April 4, 2021 12:49 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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