5’1, 200 pounds and in her 40s: Does she have to settle?

loneliness-inc · 2021-05-24T19:08:30+00:00

Brutal honesty is appreciated.

Wish granted!

Listen up sweaty pie. We think that you're awesome and that you absolutely deserve, only the best! Never settle cystur!

Let's face it, opposites attract! Therefore, for your squishy shortness, you deserve - ABSOLUTELY DESERVE!!! - a 6'4 chiseled guy with a six pack. After all, he'll need a really big cushion for his hard pushin'. He'll need a really short wymyns to counterbalance his height. You're the perfect candidate for this.

He should be 25. Because you deserve someone young to counterbalance you being old.

He should be a gazillionaire to counterbalance your stinky fat broke ass.

He should be cold and stoic to counterbalance your warmth.

He should be the most magical man with whom you'll have the most magical relationshit! Once you've settled into the magic, maybe you'll even shit out a kid or three - magically - in 5-10 years.

Remember cystur! You're perfect as you are! In fact, you're so perfect, that we at WAATGM think that you deserve all that's good in the world that will lead you to become even more perfect (if that's even possible OMG 😲).

We think you should eat quality cheese cake, topped with the best pie filling, chocolate and caramel drizzles and the best ice cream. You should taste new pastries every day, because you earned this guuuurl. These might make you even more perfect than you already are.

Remember cyst, know your worth! Never settle for less!

fuzzy_brb · 2021-05-23T22:08:42+00:00

you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink

People have told her she needs to lose weight, but she needs guys on Reddit to tell her AGAIN?

MelkorHimself · 2021-05-23T22:04:05+00:00

Settling implies you accept someone whose sexual marketplace value is below yours. At 5'1" and 200 pounds your BMI is 37.8, or morbidly obese. If you get with someone, they are settling for YOU.

Thatshygurl · 2021-05-23T22:35:49+00:00

Not to sound closed minded, but I don’t know how people can be so heavy and happy about it. Like do you not enjoy mobility?

ImlackingOriginality · 2021-05-23T22:31:50+00:00

Brutal honesty for her? Here it is.

In short: if they wanted a fucking ball, they would buy it on a store.

In long:

Bitch youre nearing morbidly obese, you have more fat than a fucking wolf in a tundra, of course you are gonna be hot. But never in the other meaning.

Idk what waif like woman means, but cheating on someone is shitty, regardless of the person and it was probably rough for her.

But one thing wrong is not being morbidly obese is not a necessity for receiving loyalty, it is for getting a partner. Many men literally mostly care about sex, looks loyalty and happiness.

And, your question is REALLY simple. Just use this key emotion: empathy. Would you date a 5'1 200 lbs 40yo guy? Rate him out of 10.

And lets be honest, you want a hot guy, that makes a lot of money and is willing to commit.("stable")

Would a hot you want him?

Just ask questions to yourself damn it, answers are obvious.

And dont try to underestimate your situation. You know you are curvier than the fucking earth.

If you stay fat and "happy" (the reason you post this is your lack of happiness), you wont need to worry for any long term relationships lady. Half of an average life is already over, and you are by no means average.

And its not as if you will be fucking upset that you lost weight, you idiot.

Is it that fucking hard to walk and not eat a large pizza in a single meal? It literally pisses me off to see such dumb shit, like an elementary school me can think of the stuff i wrote here.

me_at_myhouse · 2021-05-23T22:43:43+00:00

"If I stay happy and fat"

Why does she think she can't be skinny and happy? How did fat people get this reputation for being so funny that you overlook the fat?

RatingsOutOfTen · 2021-05-24T00:25:10+00:00

These women need to just date fat men....

Instead, they will say they aren't sexually attracted to them and act confused because they probably get sex once every few months from fit men on tinder.

This mess isn't going away anytime soon. The entire dating market is broken.

NBA_MSG · 2021-05-23T22:26:45+00:00

Not necessarily. If she's happy with herself maybe she'll find someone who's happy to be with her. Of course, that person is more likely to be 5'3" and weigh 250 lbs than any Male model that you're hoping for but you could both be happy

Futureman999 · 2021-05-24T00:45:22+00:00

Telling a fit person they have to desire a morbidly obese woman = telling a gay person they have to be straight, because Jesus

Just doesn't work that way

just_a_CPA · 2021-05-24T02:18:26+00:00

Someone needs to explain to this lady the difference between fuckable and dateable.

GrannyLesbian · 2021-05-24T00:25:16+00:00

If she finds a man who is fatter than her sure....

Women no matter how fat they are do not want to sleep with a fat man, fatter man or a fat woman.

I have had women tell me this when I was fat and they were fatter than me at the time.

I-am-the-lul · 2021-05-24T00:06:00+00:00

Here is the truth, the few guys who are willing to settle for you now will not come close to being as attractive, sexually or otherwise as the guys that banged you in your 20s, you have two choices, lower your standards enough to settle for one of the few man willing to wife you up or learn to enjoy spinsterhood.

I won't waste your time telling you to lose weight to improve your chances cos I suspect you won't do it anyway.

Worried_Promotion570 · 2021-05-24T00:07:24+00:00

She doesn't need to "loose" weight..

She has plenty of "loose weight" hanging off her already.

Cristoff13 · 2021-05-24T00:36:38+00:00

I'm happy for her if she really is that comfortable in her own skin. However is she really happy being "warm, squishy and a good cushion" (that sounds like something a 10 year old would write), or is it just bluff?

No_Exercise_8670 · 2021-05-24T07:18:19+00:00

She is not happy in her body, she just doesn't have will to change it so she made this excuse. It's even easier since body posititivity and stuff like that is heavily promoted. But the thing is that most women(and men) would be happier being fit.

FreshNothingBurger · 2021-05-24T13:58:14+00:00

Brutal honesty is appreciated

Ah yes.

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NickTesla2018 · 2021-05-24T01:41:33+00:00

You think she dates fat guys? Yeah, right.

SpacemanLost · 2021-05-24T00:34:10+00:00

She doesn't have to settle. She can have all the cats she wants.

sony_anumo · 2021-05-24T11:51:23+00:00

These people who keep asking the same question, just beacuse they dont like the answer.

Honey it does not matter how many times you open the fridge, there is still only expired milk in there...

Dreamer217 · 2021-05-24T15:08:28+00:00

At this point someone will be settling for you, and you should thank god if that happens

Llawgoch25 · 2021-05-24T15:47:42+00:00

Jesus, 40, 5"1', 200 llbs.......at her age even if she lost a load of weight she'd look like a walking scrotum from all that loose skin

kyledontcare · 2021-05-23T22:37:58+00:00

"Waif" is a thin, petite type girl like from Japan or somewhere else in Asia. There are western women like this but not as many.

HugeQock · 2021-05-23T23:32:58+00:00

Eh, some guys are into the whole "curvy" thing. So thats not that bad imho.

That age tho..... oof.

Tasty-Elderberry-716 · 2021-05-24T00:38:26+00:00

The way she describes herself Grosses me out 🤢🤮

grocerydarby · 2021-05-24T05:27:15+00:00

She doesn’t settle. The house does

silly_birb · 2021-05-24T10:58:35+00:00

Fat acceptance woke shit didn't work, duh...

Taint-Punch · 2021-05-24T13:39:07+00:00

She'd rather scour the internet for the rare chubby chaser than to modify her diet and lifestyle. She needs to understand that men who will settle for a fat, lazy woman are rare as hen's teeth. Personally, laziness and the overall feel of an obese body disgust me, but there are also long term issues......like being her caregiver in my golden years because they cut her feet off from the diabetes.

sleepyhousewife · 2021-05-24T18:30:00+00:00

So she fat, ugly and old. She is probably shaped like a cottage cheese in a stocking. That is not cute, no matter the sugar coated words she may use. She has no hope. She is not even a left over woman. She is a greasy husk. Gross. Gross. Ugh. Why do women think their value never diminishes?

EvolvingMan1994 · 2021-05-24T18:45:22+00:00

Woman, you need to loose at least 70-80 pounds (31-36 kilos) to see something close to "a secure (&sexy!) future with a man". But since you're extremely unlikely to do that, WOOF WOOF and MEOW MEOW are always there to procure and die alone. Peace.

Harry_Teak · 2021-05-24T04:12:55+00:00

Her husband gave her the answer to the question but still she asks it, hoping for a different answer. I'm sure she'll go far in her new life. Well, as far as the nearest Golden Corral

sleepyhousewife · 2021-05-24T18:32:11+00:00

Imagine not liking exercise or being healthy. I can't imagine the low energy hell she must experience every day. Why work on yourself when you can just pretend you're okay they way you are?

Euphoric-Cycle1688 · 2021-05-24T19:19:51+00:00

it's warm, squashy and a good cushion : hopefully I was on an empty stomach

Ok-Adeptness4906 · 2021-05-24T20:30:07+00:00

I stopped bathing, brushing my teeth, and changing my socks and underwear three years ago. Do I have to accept that if I get into a relationship with someone now (as a filthy man) that they are settling, rather than getting what they really want?

altair43 · 2021-05-24T21:44:35+00:00

Make no mistake, she already knows the answer! That post is to seek validation, even if she is denying it.

Won't get fooled again.

lurkerhasarisen · 2021-05-23T23:11:02+00:00

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1st10Amendments · 2021-05-24T02:06:16+00:00

You do you, sister! It’s not that you are wider around that you are tall, so don’t worry about that.

Your real problem is that you’re on the wrong side of 28.

Good luck, though.

AdrianWerner · 2021-05-24T09:40:06+00:00

Ehh...OP has misread this. She doesn't ask if she has to settle. She asks if somebody she will date will find her to be meh and only "settle for her" because he has no better options and thus might cheat if given such option.

evergreen35 · 2021-05-25T11:14:41+00:00

Fat usually means lazy and undisciplined and everyone knows it.

Lazy and undisciplined are unattractive traits.

2021-05-26T07:51:51+00:00

Would love to hear opinion if a man where to ask Reddit if being not 6’ 1”, out of shape, and broke would really have to settle. Women think they an have their cake and eat it too.

DurangoLSD · 2021-05-26T18:32:38+00:00

At 40, if an unhealthy lifestyle had contributed to her weight then she has far more to worry about at her age than keeping a man.

She better hope she can keep her body functioning.

601kclaf · 2021-05-26T22:58:15+00:00

You need to take care of yourself and your body. If you’re content with a healthy psyche great ! If you’re content with an unhealthy body, then yes they will eventually be attracted to and want to be with someone that is more healthy. It’s about health, not physical attraction

Preoximerianas · 2021-05-30T04:58:50+00:00

but am a chunky lady

is going 5’1 at 200 pounds

Ma’am that isn’t “chunky”, that’s dangerously obese, the ideal weight for a 5’1 woman is between 96-116 pounds.

ShittierLord · 2021-05-30T16:47:54+00:00

She can stay fat if she wants. She just needs to lower her standards for a partner and be realistic about who she can attract in that condition.

Okayokayokay9999 · 2021-05-30T22:57:56+00:00

Overweight, and over 40, yikes. I bet anyone giving "brutual honesty" will be banned from whatever sub that is.

FitnessEnthusiast98 · 2021-06-01T05:43:32+00:00

She probably DİE alone.

GundamZero83 · 2021-06-09T18:09:21+00:00

So basically, she’s bigger around than she is tall 🤨 good luck landing chad.

Askdrillsarge · 2021-05-24T03:05:50+00:00

It is possible that she is just fishing for compliments but it is also possible (albeit less likely) that she has only gotten advice from female friends and since she will be looking to attract male strangers she wants to also get advice from that particular demographic

Title	5’1, 200 pounds and in her 40s: Does she have to settle?
Author	heatspirit
Upvotes	332
Comments	137
Date	May 23, 2021 9:52 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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