DAE have this "problem"? (Embarrassing... Please be nice)

gabilromariz · 2014-12-07T20:09:42+00:00

You could probably get more helpful answers at a fitness sub but there's no need to be upset about boob size, just make the best of yours, whatever their size is!

Looking on the bright side, you can wear pretty sundresses without a bra and I think it looks super feminine/soft/cute with them tiny straps and deep backs. You can also wear backless stuff, which is also very feminine but in a less cute/more sexy way

Iva3442 · 2014-12-07T23:27:58+00:00

Work those pectorals, girl!

Pushups and other muscle building exercises focusing on that region with build your pecotrals up and give your boobs a little boost.

Regardless of whether the boobs shrink a bit, overall, you're going to be hotter with the weight loss, so keep at it.

Bakerofpie · 2014-12-07T21:25:23+00:00

My boobs are the bane of my existence. I have a pretty nice body and my hip to waist ratio is about ideal, but my stupid boobs are ruining the hourglass shape I want. So I feel you there. But the way I see it I need to be even more thin since my boobs are small. It doesn't look as weird for a super skinny girl to have small boobs as it does a slightly chunkier girl. Weigh the cost/benefit. Does your muscle definition and weight loss make you feel hotter than having slightly more body fat leading to slightly larger breasts?

menina_idealista · 2014-12-07T21:52:00+00:00

As a pear shape who loves to run every day, I get what you're going through; what you'll probably have to do is take pictures of your progress every week and figure out a balance of how other areas of your body look after getting fit, compare them with earlier pictures when you had bigger boobs, and then decide which one looks better overall to you. It might be worth the sacrifice if you're slimmer in all the problem areas, especially since you didn't have big ones to begin with.

You could continue to tone up specific areas of your body, like your abs, thighs, and arms, essentially creating an internal corset to pull in the body fat while doing substantially less cardio; or, you can consume more calories to get the fat to return to your chest (and wherever else it disperses - but with a lot of muscle toning, the other areas could look slimmer than when you started, even after gaining the fat back.) Doing push-ups and working out your pectorals in general will take whatever you do have, and perk it up a bit; I personally like to do push-ups with little 5 lb weights as handles to go easier on the wrists. If you really want a fuller chest but either can't afford surgery or are not willing to have it (definitely can't blame you there) then there's another way to experience some growth over time to the point where people might even comment on the difference in a matter of months, but it takes dedication and persistence; PM me if you'd like any details about this.

Overall, though, it might just be something you'll come to accept over time, especially if your SO also likes them. And yeah, breasts throughout history have definitely been a big symbol of motherhood, and womanhood - this is true. They're fun to dress up and nice to look at, which is probably why so much classical art depicts them on goddesses and in paintings of beautiful women. But there's another kind of femininity that comes from having smaller ones; it's youthful. I've seen teens that look like they're in their 20s because their busts developed, but a fit girl in her 20s can be taken a teen if she's an A or small B cup. Part of this I think is because big boobs tend to go with the "hot girl" look and small ones help with the "cute girl" look. You can play up that youthfulness and get away with wearing clothes that wouldn't be as flattering on a fuller chest; deep V-necks and low scoopnecks for example can look sloppy or distracting if massive cleavage is hanging out of them, but we can showcase our shoulders and chests with less of a risk of being overtly sexual. Boobs are great, but there are always trade-offs, and you can usually find good points to any perceived flaw. A crooked eyebrow can be cute and quirky; a dark freckle can be a beauty mark; small chests can be to your advantage when portraying a youthful and innocent look.

sugarcrush · 2014-12-08T01:29:06+00:00

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it. The majority of guys I know would take a fit girl with a smaller chest than a lazy one with bigger boobs.

[deleted] · 2014-12-08T05:10:27+00:00

That happened to me.

Oh... Nursing.

How I miss nursing!

I was a C cup!

Sorry, I don't have any advice. My husband is a boob man but he still wanted me. Work your good qualities.

OTOH, I can go braless around the house without issue. My husband likes that.

MeowZedong- · 2014-12-08T05:37:56+00:00

If you really want to tone up, look more into lifting for women.cardio shouldn't be your focus.

stillnoturday · 2014-12-08T02:13:23+00:00

Fat comes off in the last place it was put. Thats why for women to see abs they have to be sub 15% body fat. Their is no such thing as "toning" it is a made up word the fitness industry uses, I'm glad you are trying to become healthier and if your goals are abs sorry for women major fat stores are usually hips, butt, and boobs. And to put on muscle you'll have to be in a caloric surplus .... but that is for another post.

Honestly /r/xxfitness is better for women to use than the main sub or /r/bodybuilding.

-peppermint · 2014-12-08T16:23:19+00:00

if you work on your pectoral muscles it will help lift your boobs/make them perkier. we're almost the same height/weight and so when doing yoga I will specifically make sure that my upper body also gets work too! along with butt/core, a few months of this will make your hourglass just better, and if you're not an hourglass it will make whatever shape you are better :D

itaewonfreedom · 2014-12-30T16:15:30+00:00

First of all congrats on your progress!

I'm into fitness too, and a natural barely-A cup with big hips. I never hated them or anything but I made the decision to get implants this year to make them a full C.

It's crazy how much more feminine I feel finally having noticeable breasts. I've gotten more into fashion and makeup and trying on clothes is fun now. I wish I'd done it years ago. It's a big decision and not for everyone but I just wanted to share my experience in case you're considering surgery. Either way, keep up the good work!

ladymodernlove · 2014-12-07T22:11:36+00:00

Yep, I know what you mean. The important thing is to keep at it. If you give up and start gaining fat back it'll go to your belly. But if you keep with it and keep getting fit, trust that your body will wind up in a nice shape with your boobs looking the way they did.

melaniexrae · 2014-12-07T23:28:07+00:00

I too have incredibly small boobs and experienced the same phenomena when I started to lift weights. There's not a whole lot you can do (to my knowledge, I'm no expert) and I believe that when you start to lose fat, breast fat is usually the first to dissipate. (Again, personal experience; no expert). Whenever I do lift/workout I only focus on bench presses and free weight presses to work on my pectorals and that is it. I found that by having some definition to my pecs it made my chest perkier instead of looking smaller. I hope this helps some. Once I realized that having a nice rack is not in my cards I focused on making my butt bigger and more toned.

WildHoneyChild · 2014-12-08T04:08:51+00:00

I don't have much of anything helpful to add, but I'm the exact same height/weight as you with the exact same problem! Currently also trying to get fit right now, so good luck to you. I just want to say that you can definitely be feminine without big boobs. Especially if you're fit vs. being "skinny fat". And there are plenty of guys who enjoy smaller boobs as well :)

eatplaycrush · 2014-12-07T20:41:24+00:00

For one, muscle is not magically replacing fat to where your weight stays the same. This is not how it happens and this is even further from the truth considering you are not lifting for strength or aesthetics, but focusing only on core. Women can only gain up to a lb of muscle per month and this is if their diet and training is on point.

Boobs are mostly fat. You're going to lose them when there is fat loss. Fat loss and weight loss are slightly different, although go together. I train for a living and have an a-cup, but I've been small my entire life there anyway and my SO prefers it because I look littler haha. It really isn't important, what's important is how you feel and how you/SO view your body.

DingoManDingo · 2014-12-08T15:08:10+00:00

First of all, you shouldn't be doing cardio. Focus on weight training, especially in the chest and legs.

aguy01 · 2014-12-09T17:15:04+00:00

Most guys are assmen, so do your squats.

clearist · 2014-12-07T22:20:00+00:00

Push ups

proprioceptor · 2014-12-08T02:44:55+00:00

The exact same thing happened to me. Seriously. My boobs are smaller than they were when I was in middle school, and it's no fun. I asked my boyfriend - he says he likes the changes that he's seen, and that he doesn't really miss my boobs.

I get why you've posted it here - having smaller boobs can definitely leave you feeling less feminine. But I think it's good that you're getting in better shape, and I'm sure nobody is going to notice that your chest is getting smaller :)

needmorefat · 2014-12-08T21:56:35+00:00

It is happening because you're jogging. Jogging is designed for weight loss, but you're already at optimal weight. Replace jogging with multiple short sprints at maximum intensity to maintain cardiovascular fitness without wasting valuable calories. With all the extra time this frees up, start pumping iron and acquire some muscle, and work on flexibility. If the body-fat doesn't return to aesthetically optimal levels, sprint a little less and eat a little more.

(I'm male, but this is gender neutral basic fitness stuff.)

Lizziloo87 · 2014-12-11T23:21:12+00:00

padded bra :) at least until you do more chest exercises...they make your boobs perkier!!

Title	DAE have this "problem"? (Embarrassing... Please be nice)
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Date	December 7, 2014 8:04 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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