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How can men "explore" their sexuality?

BumblingBeta
September 4, 2022
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We often hear in this day and age women talking about "exploring their sexuality", "discovering themselves", "learning things about themselves", phrases like that. And for the most part, they are able to do this these days, at least in the west (not sure about in other countries).

However, what about for men? Are they able to explore their sexuality and if so, how? We are living in the age of equality between the sexes, so I assume they can somehow.

Wasn't sure what flair to use so I used the free for all discussion flair.

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Title How can men "explore" their sexuality?
Author BumblingBeta
Upvotes 3
Comments 54
Date September 4, 2022 7:15 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/AllPillDebate
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Comments

[–]250umdfail 2 points3 points  (22 children) | Copy Link

Join a kink club. Every major city in the US has a thriving scene. Just be prepared to lower your standards, like a lot.

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 0 points1 point  (21 children) | Copy Link

What happens in a kink club? Is that like a swingers club?

When you say lower your standards a lot, is it full of old fat ugly women or something?

[–]250umdfail 3 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Swingers events are usually invite only, mainly rich men and their trophy wives. As a man you get invited for only two reasons: you have a hot wife, or you're hot and hung yourself.

Kink community is far more accepting. The initial events are usually a casual social meetup at a bar, and you'll have to work your way up from there by making friends and connections.

And yes, the kink community tends to be fat and unattractive. If you're an average man you'll get opportunities to explore your sexual side, but with way below average women. Attractive people usually avoid these public events, and have their own exclusive parties.

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Ok thanks. Although I just searched swingers clubs in my city and there's one where people are allowed to join, but they charge single men more, and it's a yearly membership.

[–]250umdfail 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Those are scams, usually a sausage fest. Use FetLife to find the good ones. Many of them are free, or require a ticket per event, no membership fees.

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Really? It's a legitimate swingers club that's been going for years. The only swingers club in my city. Maybe it's a scam but it looks legit.

[–]Fit-Faithlessness149 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

The only way to know is for you to go. My guess is there will be way more men than women. Consent is still a thing when it comes to swinging and the very few women there will still only choose the best looking men unless you want to stand in a line and take your turn to jerk off on some ugly girls tits during a bukkake. The whole thing will probably be more like a voyeurism show than anything else.

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Fair enough, you might be right. Still I feel like going to see if it's worth it. But damn sex really sucks for the average male. :(

[–]NotARussianBot1984 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I went to one with my gf.

If i left her side for 15 mins, 15 men would walk up and ask if she's DTF. Not one tried to chat or offer a drink.

So if you go, dont be like those 15 guys. Lol

[–]ElectricBugs 2 points3 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

Hey us old fat ugly women deserve sex too

[–]BumblingBeta[S] -1 points0 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

Interesting how men are told to lose weight and hit the gym on purplepilldebate, then get called an incel and told that sex doesn't matter. You wouldn't ever see a woman get told that.

[–]ElectricBugs -1 points0 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Probably because we aren't whining about not getting laid and being violent towards men as a result

[–]BumblingBeta[S] -1 points0 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

They can't get laid because fat men are not attractive to women like fat women are to men - that's what you should have said. Instead you made an unhelpful response which helps absolutely no one.

Always strange how women say men focus on looks, when even the most hideous of women can get sex but same is not true for men.

[–]ElectricBugs -1 points0 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

I would argue there aren't that many truly hideous people and it is a mark on men, not women, that they will stick their dick in anything

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy Link

Ok but why do women say men care about looks when literally any woman can get laid for free whenever she wants? That's the opposite of caring about looks. Men have zero standards for women in every aspect, from looks, personality, status, money, everything. That's why you see the most fat and hideous women pushing around young children in prams out in public, because men are accepting of absolutely any woman no matter what.

[–]ElectricBugs 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy Link

I honestly have never seen a person I would class as hideous. And I do think that much more matters than looks. I prefer young men and hot bods but I've fucked some random uggos too when super horny. Perhaps I'm a man?!

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

It doesn't really matter whether a man is hideous or invisible to a woman, it's all the same. Women find a very small fraction of men attractive. If you don't pass that looks threshold, hideous or not, it doesn't matter.

Anyway the idea that men care about looks more is laughable, when there's literally not a woman on this planet (bar some really deformed woman) who cannot get a boyfriend if she is realistic about her standards.

[–]SDW137 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sex tourism (without engaging in human trafficking) either abroad or visiting escorts here in the states. Or going to a brothel in Nevada.

[–]Glad-Discount-4761 2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Men already do it.Hire prostitute.At least some women are willing to give you sex early because " empowering or whatever" so enjoy it

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

Fair enough. Do you want to explore your sexuality and are you able to?

[–]Glad-Discount-4761 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Lol.It is just for man

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

I mean, for you personally, would you want to explore your own sexuality? If you were living in a different culture which allowed you to do that. Maybe with a member of One Direction? ;)

[–]Glad-Discount-4761 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I am not going to do because it ruin and makes you useless.At the end of day,guy will leave you and you will watch him being good partner you dreamt of to someone else.

[–]BumblingBeta[S] -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Interesting. You're right. But in the west, why do so many women engage in this behavior if it ruins them and makes them useless?

[–]Glad-Discount-4761 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't know.Ask them

[–]SilentFroggy 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think it’s just an excuse for women to rack up their bodycounts and not feel ashamed for it.

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah that's true I guess.

[–]no_bling_just_dingself-aware MSTOW // أشهد أن لا حبة إلا الحبة السوداء 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

by having a homosexual sexuality

[–]Comfortable-Unit-897 -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Do your thing! Buy some high end male toys, wear sexy underwear, do yourself. You may find that having a woman is a pain. If I let another woman in my life, she will be incredible.

[–]RStonePTRedPill -1 points0 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

Why do you want to live like a woman so bad?

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 1 point2 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

That's living like a woman?

[–]RStonePTRedPill -1 points0 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

We often hear in this day and age women talking about

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 1 point2 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Well yeah but doesn't mean men can't live like that too. It just seems to get more openly discussed by women.

[–]RStonePTRedPill 0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy Link

Why do you want to live like a woman so bad?

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy Link

It's not living like a woman, wtf.

[–]RStonePTRedPill 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy Link

We often hear in this day and age women talking about

Your words

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

Yeah I know but it doesn't mean that's living like a woman. I'm sure men live like that too. Seems a bit of a weird thing to pick up from the opening post.

[–]RStonePTRedPill -1 points0 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Spin more plates is the answer you're looking for..

Friends with benefits. We don't explore sex, we aren't fluid that way.

Also, the reason I pick it up because you're the thousandth guy to talk like that and it always boils down to wanting to do what women do because everyone's the same

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Well yeah, why wouldn't you want to do what women do in this instance? Women always complain they can't do what men do. We've built a modern society around allowing women to act like men if they so choose.

Btw having sex with lots of women is a male thing to do. Many men can't do it, but it's considered a male thing to do. We have this perverse situation in society where women are doing what men would like to do - sleep with lots of people of the opposite sex.

Also not sure who is downvoting you, it's not me.

[–]darksoul1622NeutralPill 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy Link

I mean by sex right ? Like I come from a very sexually conservative country (read Muslim country) and like some guys especially in college do flirt with girls and even have sex ( only anal because of the holy loophole) so I can't imagine it is harder especially since western women are far more romantic and less materialistic than middle eastern ones

Like the people in my country who "explore their sexuality" are by no means chads they are at best average I got a few compliments from women here and there and I am 5,7 with a bit of muscle and a nice face and a kind personality so if I wanted I could too ( but my family will literally cut my balls if they found out my family preach equity in this regard)

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

That sounds like you need to be decent looking with good social skills.

[–]darksoul1622NeutralPill 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

I suppose so but not a requirement it is ( this is in my country) about knowing the right crowd and just being out there naturally being decent looking is a plus but most of us are average looking so there is that but I will say having good social skills is important

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Fair enough. I wonder why the incel population has grown in the west in the last 10-15 years? Things sound quite good where you live.

[–]darksoul1622NeutralPill 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Trust me they are not between war economic recession and being on the verge of civil war things are definitely not good

and in general people don't have casual sex where I'm from and it could be quite dangerous for the woman honour killing is still a thing in my country unfortunately Plus most men can't afford to get married which is how men get sex in my country

honestly when I read through this subreddit I just realised how first world problems are so ridiculous and miniscule compared to ours, all due respect to you and the incel community give me a fucking break you are always going poor me poor me man pour me a drink my brother I wish my biggest problem is that I can't get my dick wet and evil feminazi not fucking isis but sorry about the rant it just to help you put things into perspective

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fair enough. Well people compare themselves to those around them, so for incels they are in a bad situation in their own country, but obviously compared to someone in a country with war or famine, they're doing incredibly well.

Also I think incels want more than just sex. They want a woman to love them and desire them. If it was just about sex, they could visit a sex worker or if that's not allowed where they live, they could travel to a place where it was allowed.

[–]SaltyGeekyLifter 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sorry dude.

You can’t put the words “anal” and “holy loophole” in the same sentence and not expect immature sniggering from idiots like me…

[–]Super-Peoplez-S0Lt 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women in the "west" (whatever the fuck that is) are no more romantic or no less materialistic than any other women around the world.

[–]Siukslinis_acc 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

There are a lot of male sex toys aviable.

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

There certainly are. Are they at the level of female sex toys? They have wands, vibrators, rabbits and everything.

[–]LiterallyAFknTroll 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Dude they have robot women now

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Robot women aren't quite at an advanced enough level to seem real. It will probably take another 10-20 years before they are somewhat realistic to a human, maybe longer.

[–]LiterallyAFknTroll 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

So what? Thats better than a fleshlight, dildo or vibrator. And u can fuck the robot while u watch porn. Arousal is more visual for men anyways

[–]BumblingBeta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's more like a sex doll that can say a few different phrases in a weird robot voice. I suppose it's better than a fleshlight or similar toy, but not by much. And far more expensive.

[–]Pilling_it 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well, find a niche I suppose, and don't be too demanding on the physical side of things. If you're well into a given kink that will probably be a good bonus for women into it too. not a guarantee, but that's the closest of an actual advice I can give you

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