33 yo divorced man

IcyMycologist4837 · 2025-09-20T21:38:14+00:00

Don’t get married again. Work on the relationship with your children. Woman that want you will be in it for themselves. They will play a good game and you will lose your money and your youth.

Odd-Yoghurt1869 · 2025-09-18T19:28:50+00:00

Don't get married again, the divorce rates are higher the second time around.

Why aren't you fighting for your kids?

warrior_up · 2025-09-18T19:25:36+00:00

Why are you saying this is the question? “I want to get married” you’re not even seeing anyone…..

I think if you figure that out, you’ll find the answer(s) you’re looking for, “why am I saying I want to get married, as a 33yr old man, as if you’re living in a Disney Movie?”

KendhammerJ · 2025-09-17T20:51:04+00:00

I actually just made a YouTube video about this. Here are 5 things I would to get back into the dating scene after a divorce.

Identify the kind of life you want and the relationship you want - If you are like me you settled in the divorce and didn't go for what you wanted. Don't make that mistake again
Improve your Sexual Market Value - Style, grooming, charisma, taking feedback, etc
Take the time to get high quality photos
Man up and start talking to women during the day. It will grow your masculine essence, will give you more opportunities to meet people and it will make their day
Make sure you're completely ready

What are some things that are preventing you most right now from meeting your ideal women?

BaldieGoose · 2025-09-17T12:49:07+00:00

Seems like you're getting a lot of different advice in here, mostly from people telling you not to get married again.

I'm in your similar boat in some ways because I really do want to be settled down and have that peaceful life. Sitting on the couch reading books next to my partner and just chilling and I have found someone recently who is actually 10 years younger than me and have amazing sex and it's just been great for the last 6 months that I've known her. I'm not jumping into marriage anytime really soon but we have discussed it and we both want that in the future. And the great part is she does not want children and I already have two so it works out really well.

Personally to me there's no risk in getting married again if you get a prenup and I made it very clear with this girl at the beginning that I wanted to have one in place before we would get married in the future and she's all for it. She also is a very successful published PhD and has a great job with a international firm that is well known. Overall, I feel very lucky because this person is incredible and pretty much every way and is so different from my ex who was such a toxic person and drain on my life.

So what I will tell you about how I personally landed such a great girl who was 10 years younger than me is this -- I don't know why your physique is like but the cold hard truth is that physique matters a ton. It also helps if you make a lot of money and own your own home. It also helps if you can bring her a little bit of bad boy mystique with some tattoos or a motorcycle or something like that. Personally, I just went ahead and did all of those things after my divorce.

Hopefully you've read the rational male and no more Mr. Nice guy. If not start there. If you haven't been hitting the gym, then you need to get in the gym and get serious about weightlifting with progressive overload for about a year before you even try dating. And trust me, your dating pool is going to open wide up. I went on a few dates when I just started being single again and I wasn't in great shape and the people I matched with were also just kind of mediocre. Then I ignored it for a year. Worked really really hard in the gym and got super athletic. I made sure to post some photos that showed off my body pretty well. Nothing crazy provocative but there was a shirtless one in there and several in tank tops. I was flooded with matches, many of which from much younger girls. I've had my pic of just about any kind of girl that I want and I ended up landing. Such a super sexy Asian baddie who is way younger than me and super cool.

Anyway, this is my advice to you my friend. It's all about the physique, for the most part, and then filling that in with being a good looking provider and having a little bit of mysteriousness and badassery to you. Unfortunately, women are hypergamous and once you learn that and unlock the truth about how to land them, it's very easy.

StandardButPoor500 · 2025-09-17T08:22:56+00:00

So, the first advice I have is this: don't. But you won't listen, so...

But I married the second time when I was about your age, or at least I met the lady who later became my wife, and now is my ex-wife. She was 10 years younger.

My advice is, don't use apps or anything online, it's all crap unless you are in top 10% of attractiveness. Meet people. Be where the ladies you are looking for are.

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2025-09-17T08:07:50+00:00

Save this reel for future use 😀

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DIGJhRiTdNH/?igsh=MXE3NGZ1emxsbHllNQ==

Techdude_Advanced · 2025-09-17T04:14:46+00:00

Starring into the abyss and still wants to jump into it. You will be back here in your 40s and would have lost everything, and you will lose everything. We all would have moved on and won't be here to read your post. Perhaps then you could advise the younger guys not to make the same mistakes you did.

At 33 you still have the gift of youth to set up your life the way you want and yet you still think marriage is a great idea. Good luck.

idkwhyimaloser37 · 2025-09-17T03:45:03+00:00

I know apps may suck. But that's prob the best option or join a co Ed volleyball/softball league?

survivingtheyellowbr · 2025-09-17T03:39:11+00:00

Why would u want to get married again Actually think about what it brings you

The title doesn’t bring you anything but Hollywood romance.

You can get everything you need from just having a good relationship with someone who aligns to your vibe.

Getting married and hoping nothing goes wrong where your lost half of everything you built.

It’s.a government control that allows your spouse to walk away and you pay the penalty.

StatisticianOld8246 · 2025-09-17T03:14:29+00:00

Didn’t learn your lesson the first time?

Maseworld · 2025-09-17T00:34:20+00:00

Ahhh the lust to be bored and sexless. Godspeed, sir.

MomentSpecialist2020 · 2025-09-16T23:50:30+00:00

Don’t marry again, get a domestic partner. If you decide to marry, get a pre nuptial agreement ahead of time. Protect your assets and kids.

Specific_Mountain716 · 2025-09-16T23:40:40+00:00

Go to where the 25 to 30 year olds go which are bars restaurants or lounges. Apps suck. Location and social skills are key

FriedCrew9160 · 2025-09-16T23:34:44+00:00

How much older or younger are we talking about here

Dwro1234 · 2025-09-16T23:26:31+00:00

Why do you need to get married again?

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-09-16T23:18:01+00:00

Married again to a suitable woman sounds like a recipe for another shitty divorce.

My non-medical advice would be don't search for a suitable wife.

colddarkstars · 2025-09-16T23:15:14+00:00

you already have kids, why "being older" matters to you.

Title	33 yo divorced man
Author	Conscious_Kick4634
Upvotes	14
Comments	29
Date	September 16, 2025 11:07 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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