About a month ago, I 41 year old male told my wife I was done and wanted a divorce. She is 35 and we have an almost two year old.

I have been feeling this way for a long time mainly because I feel like I’m walking on egg shells. She will do about anything to make sure she gets what she wants. Cries, shuts down and doesn’t speak. I’ve had to ask to go to bed or cut the grass it’s crazy.

I take fault in this because until now I’ve only wanted to make sure she is happy! I didn’t face conflict at all and would avoid it at all costs! I’ve since started to see a therapist and it’s helped me a lot!!

One example is we were camping in our camper at a resort. We stayed 4 nights as planned and she wanted an extra day to swim with our son. I didn’t want to I was ready to go home. On the way home she was crying in the back seat that we didn’t stay. She told me “I’m not sure I’ll ever get over this”. So we turned around and stayed an extra night in the hotel for $350. It was bad!!

She woke me up once and told me I had character traits she can’t get over. One being ADHD. Well you knew that one!! She says it was hormones and being drunk and didn’t mean it.

The list goes on. We have been to 3 marriage counseling sessions. This last one she legit told our therapist she had “nothing to talk about”. So I obviously went and spoke abt alcohol use and going out and she said “6 years ago you liked doing those things”. She still wants to do those things and I just don’t.

I feel like I’ve grown up and she is stuck at 25 with no signs of it getting better. I want to end it but I’m afraid of her reaction and what happens next. Where will we live? If I leave for two days for her to cool off is that good?

This is a terrible way to live and I need some direction I guess! My mom says “I have to be happy”. My whole family does!!

Insight?!