Badmouthing Me

Commercial-Doubt-612 · 2024-12-09T08:59:40+00:00

We all been there bro. To sacrifice and to provide is seen as weak by woman's standards nowadays. Just another simp to be manipulated. They like all the drama of a bad boy persona. Pretend to be sad but actually proud to be knocked up by washout guys. I hope all these ladies return to the street, where they're belong.

RespectInevitable479 · 2024-12-09T08:26:08+00:00

Men have got to reach out and help other men. This won’t stop until simps are eradicated. Learn from this and help other men. Just sharing your story helps so many. This is why they hate mgtow. You’re not the only one going through this. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope you recover and don’t go through this again. A lot of men get remarried thinking this time will be different but It rarely is. Take that last sentence for what it’s worth.

Greedy-Air-9292 · 2024-12-08T21:26:59+00:00

“Women are ruthless cold hearted killers, I can’t believe I fell for this shit.”

“My daughter is 4.”

You should be kept away from your daughter for her health and safety.

IAPiratesFan · 2024-12-08T17:34:56+00:00

Outside the kids comments (my 6 and 3 year old daughters are very sad and upset that I moved out) this sounds very familiar. How do you say that you'll love somebody for the rest of your life one day and then 8.5 years later file for divorce?

And the worst part is her saying I'm like a third child to her. I did more work around the house than she ever did. Who was doing the yard work, and picking up kids toys and fixing and doing maintenance on the house, doing the snow removal and doing the dishes and folding laundry and generally doing more than 1/2 of the work? Certainly not her. The nerve of that fucking woman.

techrmd3 · 2024-12-08T13:37:29+00:00

First thing to understand about divorce logic is that there are NO CONSIDERATIONS for past services and favors you provided to the Soon To Be Ex.

Soon To Be Ex Spouses DO NOT CARE about past: payments, vacations, favors, housing, health care etc etc

Why? because they already GOT ALL OF THOSE THINGS. Don't for one second think that you will get any appreciation for anything done in the past.

NOW with that firmly in your mind. Realize that all your soon to be ex wants or CARES ABOUT is what you WILL give them at the end of the divorce. THAT IS IT... it's all they care about.

Go through the divorce process, keep as much money and income as you can when negotiating the final decree.

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2024-12-08T12:29:23+00:00

What a bitch!!!

Camping_Dad_RC · 2024-12-08T10:52:44+00:00

Get your daughter to a therapist. Start researching parental alienation - Dr. Amy J.L. Baker has written some books on this, made appearances on podcasts, etc. I’ll leave I link to her website. This is the most severe issue you are facing.

https://www.amyjlbaker.com/

Your most immediate is the financial. Make sure the attorney knows and listen to their advice.

The smear campaign is, unfortunately, something very common. She is showing you who she is, perhaps she doesn’t always behave in this manner, but she is a person capable of being the vengeful person you see now. Second, any of the people that buy her narrative or support the vitriol, are people you don’t need in your life anymore. These are truths that are difficult to accept, understand, or process - particularly in the place you find yourself now. One day you will be, potentially, grateful that you didn’t waste any additional time or energy on people with such low character.

It’s hard to not let it bother you. It’s hurtful. There is this saying in divorce with those that are high conflict and the morally corrupt - Let Them. Don’t engage in their games. Don’t defend yourself to people that didn’t bother to ask. Don’t stoop to their level. Let them show the world who they are.

You won’t ever get a satisfactory answer why she did or is doing what she is. Perhaps one of the more frustrating realities of life. Closure doesn’t come from her reasoning, it comes from the hard work and difficult journey you have to take to realize you are worthy and deserving of better. Her disrespect, her obfuscation, her vitriol are the closure.

Good luck man. Keep yourself focused on what you can do the be the man you like, the man your daughter is proud of. It’s hard, and you will need to be kind to yourself and give yourself grace, but try to keep the focus on what you can do. The only battle you are really fighting is with yourself. Will you allow yourself to change and be more like her, or can you dig deep and fight that battle within yourself to come out on the other side as a good man?

Sea_Emu_4259 · 2024-12-08T10:39:44+00:00

PARENTAL ALINEATION: Your daughter is showing early signs of parental alienation (PA) by parroting what her mother said. PA is closely related to the Silver Bullet Divorce. Please read about it to learn about her tactics If that continues adress it on the decicaated reddit r/ParentalAlienation This might be something worth documenting and discussing with your lawyer at Tuesday's meeting.
Non-disparagement CLAUSE: to add to your agreement & to discuss with your lawyer next meeting:Both parents shall not make derogatory remarks about the other parent to or in the presence of the child, and shall not permit others to do so. This includes direct and indirect communication. Both parents shall actively promote a loving relationship between the child and the other parent. Violations may result in counseling requirements, modification of parenting time, or financial penalties as determined by the court. Note that your lawyer may want to modify this based on local laws and your specific situation.This type of non-disparagement clause serves more as a deterrent than an absolute protection but valuable because:
- It creates a clear legal expectation
- It gives you something concrete to point to if issues arise
- It shows the court you had concerns about parental alienation

⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it or divorce is almost finalized bc or high risk of fake accusations:

Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse"
Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support
BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce
Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the new BF (real example: Sarah Jane parkinson bring home his BF with his 3 kids)
Don't fall for her suggestion, claiming it's better for everyone/kids. She will only benefit it. Remember, kids often recall the parent who left
🚨 If she to forces you out, demand financial compensation or virtual rent since you're still paying for the property & need to pay another rent. This makes her think twice about exploiting the situation.

Your goal is to be an equal parent, not a 🏰Disneyland Daddy in your kid's life. Stand your ground

Title	Badmouthing Me
Author	Wedditwong
Upvotes	28
Comments	23
Date	December 8, 2024 10:21 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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