Finally hate my wife.

BlackHoleSlurpy · 2022-10-03T02:55:03+00:00

Call the police and file harassment charges for her calling your employer to get you fired.

Gattsama · 2022-10-03T05:08:07+00:00

Sorry you're going through this man. Although you're in the middle of hate now, which is good cause it stops wanting her back. Long term hate is not the emotion that we want. Hate is a very powerful and binding emotion. The goal here is to move to indifference. She's just another person walking the planet, and we don't give a rat's ass or fuck what she does or doesn't do.

Complete indifference. Not there yet myself but working on it. I also filed, I think filing really mentally helps with this journey. It's the first step towards reclaiming control. Your in the driver's seat and making choices that are best for you.

Good luck and I hope no kids.

Theedon · 2022-10-03T05:43:26+00:00

It was her attack on you personally. She went for your throat with a knife. Protect yourself because she is no longer the wife you once knew.

WartimeDad · 2022-10-03T05:26:10+00:00

Mine literally never stopped slandering me. The woman is insane. I agree with you fully. Switch just flipped.

ijustdontcare74 · 2022-10-03T05:31:17+00:00

All it took was a single cheating instance for me to hate my exw, but it had been a long road of alcohol abuse, sexless marriage, laziness, refusal to clean up after herself....basically a long string of triggers. Whilst I was willing to work on those aspects with her, the cheating with an ex BF was unforgivable. My love for her had faded over many yrs of her indifference, but had hardened into hate at that point. I used that hate as fuel for the process of separation and moving on, it gave me the necessary push I needed. However once free of her, that hate faded into indifference too, and now I couldn't give two shits what she does, with whom or when as long as it doesn't affect my sons lives or mine. She often tries to engage me in txts or conversation, but I simply ignore her or limit our conversations to only kids related stuff. I can tell it annoys her that I'm not an "orbiter" she can call on for stuff, like DIY, but I refuse to have anything to do with her.

Indifference is truly the most powerful weapon at your disposal. Nothing drives women madder than simply ignoring them, it eats away at their need for attention, drama and validation....plus it gives you the peaceful, calm life that is a true blessing after a bad marriage.

MightBusiness7231 · 2022-10-03T06:45:03+00:00

The switch flipping happened to me too. I was trying to save the marriage and then one day with a straight face she said “you treat me like shit.” Over a decade of paying for everything, doing everything the way she wanted to “make her happy” (an impossible task). I just laughed. It was so deluded and the perfect evidence that I was dealing with a spoiled child, not an adult. I hate her now, but I also pity her mental illness.

dragonfly323 · 2022-10-03T11:22:25+00:00

My STBXW cheated on me 5 times in our marriage and I was an idiot trying to work things out instead of filing. She was actually the one who filed because her latest affair is apparently her soulmate or something. Just a couple of months ago I was trying to figure out a way to make this work but like you I hate her now. I just want this whole thing to be over and I wish I would never see her again but with 2 kids I am not going to have a choice. She has turned into the most evil person towards me and acts like all of her actions were my fault. She takes no responsibility for what she did and continues to do.

Cocksquirt · 2022-10-03T06:32:48+00:00

As others have said, indifference is a more powerful position to be in than hate. If you hate her then she is still controling your emotion. She feeds off this and will continue to use it to her advantage until you no longer allow her to. You will get there with time. Stay strong and best of luck.

dday_throwaway3 · 2022-10-03T19:27:27+00:00

Men ask me when they should file for divorce. I tell them, "When you hate your wife more than you love your children." It looks like this.

RideATX · 2022-10-03T19:04:25+00:00

Welcome to the anger phase. It lasts anywhere from 6 months to a year or 2. Use it brother, anger is a great motivator. Hit the gym, get better. Money, fitness, game.

tyyyy110 · 2022-10-03T13:53:18+00:00

Welcome to the club.

You should be calling her stbx. The person you thought you knew is no longer. It will become all things negative until the divorce and thereafter, especially if you have kids together. She belongs to the streets as mine did.

yourmomshotvag · 2022-10-03T15:09:49+00:00

My ex cheating on me countless times and only found out recently she called my employer multiple times to try and get me fired. Luckily it’s a smallish company and they already knew she was batshit. They treat you like shit then expect to be readily forgiven and take care of. Take care of you brother

Goingthrulife90 · 2022-10-03T23:18:43+00:00

Men, why would you tolerate such shitty behaviour? I never quite understood. It’s like good women get the bad men and good men get the bad women. And somehow the good ones give the bad ones multiple excuses and still love them when they are clearly beyond bad. What is wrong with this world. Then those good women and men get scarred, and shut off and even if they later meet the good opposit sex, they are too traumatised to enter another relationship. Makes me want to stay by myself forever seriously. It’s sad.

stent00 · 2022-10-03T23:34:49+00:00

Calling your work is a total bat shit crazy thing to do for sure

playerknowmore · 2022-10-03T20:33:29+00:00

Even in this subreddit you will find very few people who can relate to your story. Men need to realize women are more likely to leave. If we are being logical they don't deserve second chances. They are leaving us for facial hair, and we are giving them for dicks.

BitterJellyfish1055 · 2022-10-07T03:50:02+00:00

I sure did u spent my money Chad Patterson small old dick

cleats4u · 2022-10-06T04:23:48+00:00

Your job is how you survive. You lose that over some B.S. from a woman? Sue her ass. Destroy her credit at least. And, seek help for your pu$$y addiction. 4 different men! Jeez dude! Have some self respect. Don't hate. She's just who she is. She will do it to the next guy too. Or maybe she will straighten out and become Mother Teresa. Either way...who cares? Let it go. Learn the lesson.

xadmin1 · 2022-10-06T16:58:18+00:00

The question is how the fuck do you suppose to know that a switch flip one day with your wife?

Commercial-Drama5481 · 2022-10-15T01:13:38+00:00

Good on you man. never thought I could hate mine, 3 affairs and the gaslighting that I’m crazy for suspecting anything, calling me names and making our friend circle think I was paranoid and unreasonable. Don’t tell Him I’m hanging out with my friends he gets weird, but now all her friends know she was lying to them too the whole time, I got proof or she would have denied into oblivion. I let her do whatever she felt to have independence. Whoops. After months of shock the anger is finally setting in and I never thought I could have so much rage toward someone I dedicated my life too.

Title	Finally hate my wife.
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Date	October 3, 2022 2:51 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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