How do I vacation, alone?

dkblue1 · 2022-05-29T18:10:21+00:00

Traveling alone is awesome when you've been used to family trips all the time. You pick where to go and do whatever the fuck you want to do without worrying about anyone else nagging. It can open your eyes too when you see some of those families looking stressed and irritable. Now that I'm a few yrs past my divorce, miserable couples are more noticeable and seem common.

I recommend solo travel to help you move on and find your self again.

Kwen_Oellogg · 2022-05-29T17:47:58+00:00

Go to the Philippines. Check out Angeles City.

You'll have a great time.

No-Magazine2896 · 2022-05-29T21:15:49+00:00

I take trips to Mexico several Times a year. I have a great doing what I want when I want, meeting complete strangers or just wandering the beach. No wife nagging me.

Adorable_FecalSpray · 2022-05-29T19:17:23+00:00

One of my goals is to travel. Alone. I am guaranteed to not have to worry about making / keeping someone else happy, I can keep or change my schedule to whatever I want, I can decide to hike another 3 miles because I am feeling good or I can stay in the tent or hotel bed another hour or three.

When I am out alone eating I may or may not watch families. Depends if I am reading or flirting with a waitress. Also I sometimes do watch families… be completely frazzled and frustrated with each other. While I am sitting there relaxed, taking my time, enjoying my meal. Thinking of the next time I am with my kids, things I want to talk to them about or new travel plans we will discuss or share with them maybe.

Learn to appreciate yourself. Probably go to some therapy if you haven’t already.

There is no guarantee that when I have a travel companion that it will be enjoyable.

When I am by myself I know I will always enjoy the company.

derelictherds · 2022-05-29T21:30:44+00:00

Start with smaller outings and work up to full blown vacation. That worked for me. I actually look forward to traveling alone nowadays.

TheYankeeFist · 2022-05-29T20:16:17+00:00

Easily and happily.

You'll get there.

akihonj · 2022-05-29T21:07:07+00:00

So my first one was just a few days away but in my own country.

My next one was a meetup with other hikers to hit a big trail for a week. It was really strange but by the second day we were like family.

The way to do this is small steps, know that you're allowed to enjoy your time, you're allowed to be miserable, you're allowed to travel and just take time to relax..

matthewcoy · 2022-05-30T02:58:09+00:00

Try one of those all inclusive resorts that is adults only I did this in Cabo San Lucas had a blast

Sudden_Ad_4193 · 2022-05-30T00:02:01+00:00

I had a co-worker that went on singles cruises while he was divorced. Said he had a great time. Of course it helped that he’s an outgoing extrovert

Gattsama · 2022-05-30T03:48:03+00:00

To add to the above. What bothers you about eating alone? I it thinking about what you lost, seeing others happy and projection, missing conversation, that eating is partly social and not just to survive, etc?

Try to dive deep into it. Because a man should be self actualized and able to be OK in solidarity. No one is judging you. Society has programmed us to believe certain things and one of them is eating alone is bad. But why? The idea is it's because you failed to attract a partner, but that assumes we want one.

Try to change your focus from I am alone. Instead from I am free to explore, I am free to choose, I am free to self reflect and improve. There are a lot of reasons to go on vacation. Consider sometimes taking one to deliberately be in isolation or solitude. That doesn't mean no people, just people are not the goal or purpose.

For example, I like to go to the mountains and run alone. Will do 4-5hrs just in the moment and lost in thought. It physically, mentally and emotionally grounding. It's recharging. Some times a man needs to be alone.

sheruncle · 2022-05-29T21:51:37+00:00

I recently spent a week in Vegas and the next in San Francisco... alone. I loved the solitude and control over what I did, where I went and how I spent my time.

Think about it. What do you want to do?

playerknowmore · 2022-05-29T22:47:15+00:00

Try Las Vegas. It's adult and so many things to do you won't feel alone.

RepresentativeOk5968 · 2022-05-30T01:20:21+00:00

Don't be afraid to go on vacation alone. I went on a cruise by myself on Norwegian and got one of those solo cabins. There is plenty to do on a cruise ship, make some new (temporary) friends, and have fun by yourself. It may sound scary, but really it can be very relaxing knowing you can do things on your schedule and you don't have to coordinate with somebody where you are going to eat, what you are going to do, etc.

kaktuxmx · 2022-05-30T02:17:48+00:00

I went to New York by myself. It was awesome, is weird to go alone after being married for 6 years but it was worth it. I did what I wanted when I wanted how I wanted, nobody was complaining and it's weird but was good.

Potential_Ice_9564 · 2022-05-30T03:02:14+00:00

I’m in the exact same spot.

saygrace2 · 2022-05-30T03:53:55+00:00

Kind of in a similar situation. I want to do some international traveling and might have to do it by myself.

alvy09590 · 2022-05-30T04:40:46+00:00

Go to the Dominican Republic and learn bachata dancing. You definitely will love it and have something in common to talk about with gorgeous women.

dcpas1 · 2022-05-30T10:00:55+00:00

I will say I did not have a problem taking a vacation by myself but I still(3 years out) struggle with eating by myself. I always have this idea that people are staring at the 52 year man eating by himself and how sad that is.

dday_throwaway3 · 2022-05-30T12:15:24+00:00

You’re going to spend about 85 years with yourself. Learn to enjoy spending time alone. If are you lonely when you are alone, you are in bad company.

Token_or_TolkienuPOS · 2022-05-30T13:25:06+00:00

Oh.my God. Great time to get laid without the guilt. Do it.

Title	How do I vacation, alone?
Author	10_31_1517was_a_hoax
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Date	May 29, 2022 5:44 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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