Question for introverted men

Final_Minimum1443 · 2025-12-02T13:03:02+00:00

I am an introvert that enjoys being around people haha 😂 I am not a great talker or small talk person. I love being around people. I don't like to be alone. Being an introvert and not a great talker don't have many friends as an adult. I don't have much time to hang out with folks. Usually when I don't have my children and off of work at home alone. I have my parent moved in with me to help watch my children and help with the rent till back on my feet.

Ok-Guidance6491 · 2025-12-02T11:27:55+00:00

Interesting. I am extroverted but also like to be left alone. My ex and I were also high school sweethearts. 19 years married. 27 years total. Divorced at 43. It was soul-crushing for me. She instigated. I believe in vows (or I wouldn’t have taken them). Why is everyone so eager to get divorced these days?

Yes it is quite lonely. It’s hard to make friends as a middle aged person. Slim pickings.

bvnelson · 2025-12-02T08:23:12+00:00

I was very introverted and timid around the time I got divorced (aged 36 also) and had few friends. 4 years on I have loads of friends and most would describe me as extroverted and confident. It's very easy to stagnate whilst married. Divorce, whilst very stressful, forces you to grow. It's been very rewarding in that sense. Use the situation as a chance to work on yourself and you'll find it very productive.

Skanky_the_Samurai · 2025-12-02T04:38:29+00:00

Don’t think of introversion as a disadvantage. Think of it as a superpower. Learn to be comfortable around other people without having to be the loudest, most boisterous person in the room. Be happy being the quiet guy who can hang with his group of friends and not feel the need to say anything, or be expected to say anything. When you do speak, make it intentional. Believe me, women will be drawn to you.

There a lot of female dating coaches on YT, but I recommend Courtney Ryan, Appolonia Ponti, or Olivia Alexa. They all have numerous videos about this. Be the dark horse in the room. Women will be drawn to you like a magnet.

Bit it all starts with CONFIDENCE. Be a confident introvert.

probebeta · 2025-12-02T03:48:39+00:00

I'm introverted too but you'll be surprised how life changed after divorce. Yes the turbulence is not fun, but I got my confidence back, and at least I believe I'm living the life of abundance. The only thing that's missing is time. Don't beat yourself up about being awkward because youre introverted. One thing introverts are good at is learning the game pretty well even if it doesn't come natural to you. Once you start stacking some successes social life will start to become fun.

wantmywifeback · 2025-12-02T03:10:00+00:00

I'm introverted and 6 weeks into being separated. I'm finding myself now, less and less introverted. I HAVE to be around people otherwise things get...dark.

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2025-12-02T00:53:03+00:00

I'm an introvert with good social skills but I recharge and prefer to be alone. I'm doing bettter than ever interracting with women. Sometimes if feels surreal. It's 100 times better than in my 20s.

I guess surviving divorce and moving out gave me confidence women notice.

Bagman220 · 2025-12-01T23:36:04+00:00

I’m an extroverted man. About to be 36. It’s hard for me too.

Do you have kids? I think that’s the biggest difference maker in whether it’s hard or easy.

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2025-12-01T23:03:17+00:00

I'm introverted and also lacked communication skills after divorcing. I made it a priority to engage in small talk with cashiers, waiters etc to get those social muscles back into shape. After a few months it was easy breezy. Never had a problem getting dates.

My ex wife was an extrovert. My long term partner now is an introvert. She understands me and my needs far more than my ex. My advice stick to fellow introverts for your serious relationships.

Mangrove43 · 2025-12-01T20:58:14+00:00

Divorced at 49 5 years ago, and Covid started. Gym, get a dog, chat at the supermarket, etc. Chat on dog walks. You will find people arent bad to talk to. Dating apps are a challeng but you will to put yourself out there. You will find plenty of people who all have a story. get hobbies and volunteer. It is hard but rewarding.

Outrageous-Quail5891 · 2025-12-01T20:54:08+00:00

I am also 36. I am also an introvert. I got divorced almost 2 years ago. And I can't tell you how your life will be. There are too many factors.

What I can tell you is how my life is. After the divorce I was devastated (it came sudden, without any signs and it involved infidelity from her side). Also, I work in a male-dominated field and work from home... So meeting new people is hard. I've been going to the gym even before the divorce, and I do it to this day on a regular basis. I started to go hiking, just so that I won't be in a empty apartment.

I downloaded dating apps and I get extremely few matches and almost all end after a couple of messages. Still, I found someone this way, but I had to end that relationship after almost a year for the sake of my mental health (she was bi-polar). Now, I feel like there is no light in sight. Maybe it is because the only other match I had which lasted several days of chatting canceled the date the evening before it was soppsed to happen. Maybe it is because I still get no matches on dating apps. Maybe it is because my child is right now with the mother and the apartment feels too empty. Maybe a combination of these and more.

But there are also good things. I have more time for me and my hobbies. I can redecorate the apartment how I like. I can spend more time with friends. Am I happy? Most of the times, yes. But there are down periods. And I still feel that something is missing.

Immediate-Story2562 · 2025-12-01T20:40:36+00:00

I'm early 50s getting divorced and have also found myself isolating more as I work from home most of the time.
You are still young and have ample time to rebuild your life. I would say that don't worry too much at this time about becoming bitter and weird.

Just get through your divorce as healthy as you can without drugs and alcohol.

Make time for yourself doing the things you love, get your life in order and start thinking about dating when the dust settled. Seeing dating as a supplement to your life not as a judgement of your character.

When you do what you love, you will meet people with the same interest and probably will get a more authentic connection. So work on yourself and the rest should fall into place but also don't be shy to get outside your comfort zone and meet people. If your validation comes from inside, it won't matter if they like you or not.
Good luck bro!

AssistantActive9529 · 2025-12-01T20:32:45+00:00

I’m an introvert. Women know if you’ve been divorced . They will come to you automatically because they are looking for a meal ticket. Be careful out there

Title	Question for introverted men
Author	MaximumIll7812
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Date	December 1, 2025 7:55 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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