I just want to bring attention to the fact that most of us have been called narcissistic by our ex wives, when in fact we are not the narcissistic person, they are. It doesn’t matter what you do for them, it doesn’t matter what you say or what you prove, they will always find a way to shame you.

Recently, the ex wife and I have been doing well and very amicable. I’ve made a ton of effort to be there for the kids when she has them, as she is usually worn out from them within a day of her time with them and I know that’s not fair to the kids. I set the immaturity aside on her end, and I show up and help so that the kids don’t suffer. I have them 4 nights, she has them 3, sometimes only 2.

Last night, her water heater broke therefore she couldn’t provide a warm bath for kids, or a hot shower for her self. She was in a full blown panic all day, and was constantly worried all day and contacting me while at work.

I offered to, and did, drive down to her house after I got off and started to help. She left when I got there & had to get a “couple things done without the kids”. Those two things ended up consisting of getting her fucking nose pierced??? And tanning. She was gone for 2 hours. When she came back, I was already frustrated, but again, set that aside and offered to bring everyone to my house so that they could have access to warm water. She happily agreed, got in my truck with the kids and came with me. While we were packing up, I noticed a guys face pop up on her phone. She has been telling me for weeks now that she misses me, doesn’t talk to anyone else, and wants to continue to build. Hell, 2 nights ago I came by to see my kids before one left town with some relatives.. and after I got them to sleep she shoved my dick down her throat & begged me for sex. I complied, foolishly but I did work.

I set it aside and brought them to my house, offering to bring her back down in the morning so that she didnt have to waste her fuel. We live about 30 min apart from each other. She was again, grateful and complied.

We get to my house, bath the kids and she takes her shower. I get them to sleep, and very calmly approach her about the guy I saw on her phone. My exact words were “I don’t care that you’re talking to someone else, but I really don’t appreciate being lied to and would like to know if I’m wasting my own efforts here”.

Fellas, when I tell you she went off the deep end, it’s an understatement. She started losing her fucking mind, telling me I’m confused, I’m controlling, and that im a narcissist. I remained calm then entire time this was happening & did everything I could to calm her down. Absolutely nothing worked. Eventually, she started accusing me of trapping her there because I drove us and she didn’t have her car.. yet she was all for it when I offered.

It fucked me up, and I hardly slept. I truly thought she was changing, and I truly thought that my efforts were finally being noticed for the first time ever. Nope, the narcissist in her came out in full force and did everything possible to gas light me into anger.

I understand that I’m stupid for even entertaining her in the first place, but I’m giving my best effort to be as loving and friendly to her as possible to prevent any issues that my kids would ultimately suffer from.

For the first time in months, I am happy she is my ex. She has the emotional maturity of a 12 year old, and she’s going to ruin any man she ever engages with.

Stay strong out here guys, don’t fall for their pitty and sorrow traps. They will fuck you over every time.