Recently divorced - Can I still live a fulfilling life staying single forever and dating multiple women?

Nyoobwsb · 2024-06-19T22:30:50+00:00

Just dont forget to wrap up!

proper1welve · 2024-06-19T17:31:53+00:00

Why you paying for escorts?

mr21vp · 2024-06-19T14:50:45+00:00

I'm 55 and living the bachelor lifestyle spending about 10 months/year in other countries like Mexico, Colombia, Japan, Philippines, and Thailand. It's nice that I know some high-quality guys and a few ladies (regulars) I can see while in those places. Along with some escorts/sugar babies occasionally when I crave some variety.

I love the having peace, quiet, and freedom this lifestyle provides. Along with my health overall I am fulfilled and content (happiness is a fleeting emotion).

This blog, geared towards emotional issues of being a lifelong bachelor, has helped me out a lot and I try to read it regularly to keep myself focused: goodbachelorhood dot com

You are not even in the prime of your life yet but at least you know what lifestyle you want. Keep focusing on your finances and health; I promise the best is yet to come. Cheers!

fffrdcrrf · 2024-06-19T11:47:43+00:00

Depends on who you ask, I’d be cautious about embracing hookup culture entirely. Theres an entire psychology behind physical intimacy. I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s a factor in failing relationships in today’s society and it really has no pushback or recognition as being potentially harmful for people and relationships.

yes2matt · 2024-06-19T11:33:32+00:00

I'm 45 with the same plan as you, but without any intention of racking up a "body count".

I would suggest you consider the lives of the older men you know IRL. Especially the guys who you admire or would emulate. What are they really like? What is important to them, what keeps them going, what is fulfilling and gives them joy?

I think you're eventually going to want a couple relationships that are more than nine inches deep. Not necessarily with a female partner. You're going to want someone to be with you in the hospital, to celebrate your big win/accomplishment, to listen to you cry when the big project blows up. Again, not necessarily a female, not necessarily sexual. But those relationships take time to build and cultivate. If yiu blow all your wad (time and money not just fluids) on wenches and don't invest any in richer friendships, you're gonna be a lonely man.

Accomplished_Gene176 · 2024-06-19T11:30:20+00:00

Sounds like you made a good choice just keep doing what your doing. The other option is getting destroyed good and proper next time.

Miserable_Ad_1172 · 2024-06-19T09:47:34+00:00

It’s a real tough one because I feel the same about relationships but my two boys are the best and fulfilling part of my life. I love being with them even if it’s only 50/50 with the ex wife I will never regret having children. It helps you become a better less selfish human. If your happy though man then just keep doing you, nothing wrong with that. Maybe look at hobbies and clubs, spend time with your family. It’s important to make some small sacrifices of your own time other wise you can become very self absorb and lack self awareness. Glad you have a peaceful life though. All the best.

whoisgodiam · 2024-06-19T06:34:00+00:00

Never marry again.

2024-06-19T05:33:40+00:00

Dang, I'm in my mid-thirties and I did try one month worth of online dating as well as talking to women out in public and you know what I got? Nada. How do you do it? Do you just go for anyone, even the ugly girls, and get laid? Serious question. I am curious.

These days I don't do anymore dating because I need to get some stuff together and that is my main focus, but I would like to try again soon.

frogmicky · 2024-06-19T04:52:36+00:00

I feel great even though she recently filed for divorce its been a looooooooooooooooooooooooong time in the making. I'd never get married again you can count on that, there's nothing wrong with being an eternal bachelor. I say go for it and embrace your singlehood

Own_Saucer1993 · 2024-06-19T04:06:02+00:00

You’re most likely making the correct call living the rest of your days as a bachelor. I feel people who have super high sex drives should avoid a traditional marriage and family. There’s no way you’d ever feel fulfilled being traditional.

If you want confirmation bias check out the sub Reddit regretfulparents. I went down a Reddit rabbit hole thinking the same questions as you since my divorce. I read about people who just went with the societal expectation of getting married and kids to find out that they were not built for it. Dark reads but we’re all human and we find ourselves in peculiar situations that are less than ideal.

I’m a bit older (40) so I feel like my opportunity to be a father has kinda been squandered. I don’t worry about it too much because I’m so far off from that decision. I’m just recently starting to get out there dating around and I feel like I’m still wired up to be a husband. I’m assuming with time this fades and I can be more natural at it.

FUMoney · 2024-06-19T02:58:22+00:00

Could I still live a fulfilling life if I choose to do that?

Yes.

Title	Recently divorced - Can I still live a fulfilling life staying single forever and dating multiple women?
Author	armaan_mazzz
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Date	June 18, 2024 5:58 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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