She wants the house!

concerned_dad2023 · 2023-04-11T02:02:35+00:00

Do not allow it. That's your house and YOU want to live there. That was YOUR Down-payment. Sounds like she's delusional.

BurnDownTheMission68 · 2023-04-11T03:35:42+00:00

She married you to get the house.

THREE children that aren’t yours?

Diablo_Canyon2 · 2023-04-11T02:53:48+00:00

She's going to have to buy you out with half the equity

FUMoney · 2023-04-11T15:38:37+00:00

Never, ever get married again. And never, never, never, never, never, never, never, never, never marry a female who has children sired by another male. The last thing you need is someone else’s children becoming your problem and burden. It’s a f-ing disaster to be avoided at all costs, including staying single for the rest of your life.

Thank the heavens you will never owe child support, so you dodged one enormous bullet. But you must fight like hell to keep the house, which is rightfully yours. Fight and never give up.

And don’t ever make this mistake again. May everyone, female and male, reading this post learn from your troubles.

ideliver22 · 2023-04-11T02:18:45+00:00

What she wants and what she gets are 2 separate things?

How long was the marriage? Any common children? Was the house purchased prior to the marriage? Need some details

King_Cobra_666 · 2023-04-11T07:57:58+00:00

Get a fkn lawyer now

upvotersfortruth · 2023-04-11T03:02:12+00:00

When did you buy it?

dday_throwaway3 · 2023-04-11T11:57:48+00:00

Was the home purchased before or during the marriage? That's an important detail.

5unshine_Daydream · 2023-04-11T14:09:05+00:00

If you can show the money was non-marital funds then you'd be able to keep that and get half the marital equity in the house. She would have to buy you out for both amounts and get a loan herself.

MartyMcFly7 · 2023-04-11T16:24:26+00:00

I got to keep my home. My crazy ex couldn't afford it, but insisted she wanted to buy it during the divorce. I couldn't reason with her, so I let her go through the process of applying for a loan and making me an offer. That helped her realize the numbers didn't add up.

If your STBXW wants the house, she will likely need to repay the $40K down payment in addition to buying out your half of the equity. She'll also need to qualify for a new loan on her own. If she can't afford that house payment, then you really have nothing to worry about.

2ndChance_1stMistake · 2023-04-11T11:19:35+00:00

If you bought the house prior to marriage, she has no claim to it. She may be entitled to a percentage of the equity.

Tiger_27 · 2023-04-11T12:25:56+00:00

Are the kids yours, or did she bring them into the marriage?

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2023-04-11T13:45:51+00:00

Lol she won’t get it unless you give it to her yourself and even the judge will wonder if you are dumb if you do

rsmiley77 · 2023-04-11T19:08:52+00:00

If it’s not the first rule it’s the second…. Don’t listen to anything your stbx or their attorney tells you. Good it in the trash and don’t think a second about it.

rcb0019 · 2023-04-11T19:28:25+00:00

You should be good, brotha.

DCnative2020 · 2023-04-11T23:19:42+00:00

she can get the house if 2 things happen

she buys you out half the equity
she has the financial resources to refinance and get approved for a loan and be able to afford the payments.

Either way you get your half whether it be by selling the house or her buying you out. Unless she is making real good money she won't be able to afford the house. Interest rates are almost 7 percent.

I have heard of people giving up the house and the equity in exchange for something like not paying alimony, or giving up your retirement funds but that is a negotiation and it is rare unless you have lots of assets.

Title	She wants the house!
Author	2019Newbie
Upvotes	15
Comments	33
Date	April 11, 2023 1:59 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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