I'm curious to hear from anyone who's been through something similar. I'm separated from my STBXW. We're working with a mediator. I'm also recovering from the trauma caused by her multiple affairs that I learned about over a year ago. I was overzealous in my emotional healing, and ended up with a torn labrum in my hip from my increased physically activity (BJJ with a gym that threw noobs in the deep end).

I want and need surgery but now have no support system for my recovery. I have teenage kids, but I can't burden them like that. My parents are in worse shape than me. I'll probably be on crutches for up to 6 weeks. Do I just wait it out until I'm in a stable relationship? Only date nurses? What are my options?

The worst irony is that I nursed the cheater through 2 shoulder surgeries while she cheated with her crossfit trainers.