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Odd-Yoghurt1869 · 2025-12-11T19:34:59+00:00

Talk to a lawyer before leaving. Leaving may seriously jeopardize child custody arrangements.

Start doing what your lawyer recommends ASAP. How so many people don't get prenups is amazing to me.

cnarsystems · 2025-12-11T16:09:57+00:00

she should leave. why should you?

MonarchistExtreme · 2025-12-11T15:31:29+00:00

don't be afraid to share with family (both sides) and even the kids why this is happening bc if you don't...she will spin it and make you look like the absolute villain. The first story told is usually given more credibility and you already know she's skilled at lying bc she is a cheater.

Ok-Republic2530 · 2025-12-11T10:18:35+00:00

Forgive her….yes let her back in your life especially with kids … yes but the trust is gone forever that I understand

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2025-12-11T07:49:27+00:00

As someone who was cheated on, you will probably forgive (stop caring) eventually, but NEVER forget. You cannot do this while still married though, or living together.

Mine also gave me PTSD (undiagnosed, since I didn't want it in my file due to the nature of my work), but it went away once I decoupled. Damn, I was a wreck, but after 7 months of living alone, I sleep like a baby.

Gattsama · 2025-12-11T06:47:26+00:00

Also remember you are not required to move out. She can too. And if her affairs are the reason for the failed marriage it even makes more sense for her to leave, the kids stay with you, and she can have visitation.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-11T05:15:34+00:00

I am going to repeat what others told me when I first join the club. Sincerely, i hope things get better for you over time, at the very least stop getting hurt. After divorce, you will slowly feel better, though your emotions will be up and down like a roller coaster ride). Trust the process, give yourself some time to grieve, half a year or one year. You wont be in pain constantly.

Aggravating_Chip3285 · 2025-12-11T02:30:10+00:00

Yeah dude you will NEVER get over it . Right decision . So sorry this happened to you

The_Mule_Aus · 2025-12-11T02:06:47+00:00

When you’re going through hell keep going!

You’ve got this, grit your teeth and focus on the end result!

Commercial_Music_931 · 2025-12-11T01:58:21+00:00

Oh. Your going to need those lawyers. Once reality sets in for her. Your ganna be in for a ride sir. Stay safe. Protect yourself and your kids. Document everything

dpi2024 · 2025-12-11T01:41:46+00:00

14 months... you really are a patient man and gave it all you got.

It's going to be at the very least OK, more likely - much better than it used to be. You were given a chance for a second life, don't blow it.

ObjectiveSalt1635 · 2025-12-11T01:03:34+00:00

As Louis ck says, divorce is forever ! https://youtu.be/qGN1a4fN2sg?si=vyrqGx1CGQ0hpFtU

Sea_Recognition7635 · 2025-12-11T01:02:11+00:00

Be ready. Her true colors are about to start shining through.

Par_then_Bar · 2025-12-11T00:41:33+00:00

Lots of men have regretted trying to reconcile with a lying cheater.

No one has ever regretted moving on from one.

Slowloris81 · 2025-12-11T00:31:15+00:00

Hey man, sorry to hear that but welcome to the club. It’s really tough at first but you’ll be better for it in the end.

I filed and I’m much happier.

We’re here for you for support and if we can help answer any questions.

AssistantActive9529 · 2025-12-11T00:13:12+00:00

You’ll have bumpy Roads ahead but be proud you rejected her. It’s gonna hurt then it will feel better. Welcome

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Date	December 10, 2025 11:59 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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