I'm 43M and wife 42F Married for 8 years we have a 3yr and 6yr old boys. I haven't had any intimacy from her in years. I work long hours, provide for the family, do as much chores as I can often late into the evening. I feel like a flatmate that's used and abused than a husband. Always get told what she doesn't like and what I'm doing wrong. She has a good job, good income, which helps with our two boys. She's a wonderful mother. I love her but I'm not getting any younger. I'm physically active and also have a good job and income. We have spoken many times and gone to two conselors each time the psycoholists would put the issue on me when I spoke about the lack of intimacy. Each time she would say that it's my treatment of the children. I grew up in a traditional asian family and I got smacked around a fair bit. So I'm more focused on disciplaining my boys although I don't smack them the wife doesn't like the way I deal with situations. I also struggle with her just letting the boys do whatever they want and even misbehaving without saying anything. I suggested to go and see a couples counselling again and she refused. Should I just give up and pack up and go? or just keep trying and doing everything but still be unhappy? what's life like after divorce? I'm scared of being alone. I'm also scared of not finding someone else... :( feeling very sad, lonely and hurt.