After stringing me along in a situationship for three months, fuckboy is now angry and upset I’m dating someone else (LONG, sorry)

2340000 · 2020-06-27T13:51:16+00:00

Look sis, I see posts like yours all the time. You need to stop dating until you get yourself together. What happened isn't funny. I understand that he's a fu××boy, but you need to take things seriously.

You mentioned that he tried (multiple times) to make you have sex. He took his pants off (wtf?) and then tried to take yours off. Do you understand the gravity of that situation? EDIT: He was trying to assault you. He didn't listen when you said 'no' he first time😬. Earlier you mentioned that you overlooked red flags because he was hot. C'mon now. AND you said you knew him from his reputation. That man is a danger to you.

So what if you get power trips because a guy is fawning over you? Power trips, ego boosts, and temporary emotions do NOT matter. Ego boosts do not help you. This is hard to hear, but OP you must regroup and figure out your priorities. Yes, he's groveling now, but that validation is short lived and worthless.

Scotsburd · 2020-06-27T14:52:29+00:00

He only values what he thinks he can't have. His distress is nothing to do with you as a person. He's about as evolved as a spoiled child whose had his x box privileges removed.

2020-06-27T16:10:29+00:00

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teatimebiitch · 2020-06-27T13:54:09+00:00

I never understood why the fuckboys come around only AFTER they see that you’ve dropped them/moved onto something better. And it’s literally ALWAYS like this.

I’m a college student and earlier in my first semester, I was into this guy but he was a commitmentphobe and I pretty much had to beg him to hang out. Then when he saw me out to dinner with a new guy, he was BLOWING MY PHONE UP. It’s hilarious to me. Like clockwork.

lolumadbr0 · 2020-06-27T15:12:26+00:00

Goddamn the more similar stories I see you the guy I recently dated and didn't go anywhere now I'm seeing a pattern in men and I absolutely hate it. I don't feel sad about breaking up with the guy who won't commit to me even though he chased me for 9 months. Now I feel angry.

Fuck men.

kickhimout2020

gigi_chi · 2020-06-27T14:22:11+00:00

It’s ok sis. I know it’s hard not to get your hopes up but try not to. Try seeing men as regular people and not potential anything. Learn from this for next time 💖

whatglasses5 · 2020-06-27T17:44:25+00:00

Get to a point where you know in your heart those tears are fake and then we can talk. This shit is unhealthy.

umbralgarden · 2020-06-27T15:26:39+00:00

You learned soooo much. This was some god damn mythical trials for you. This was your fuckboy odyssey. I know everyone dispenses advice about red flags and why didn't you know better/do better but it's so hard when you like them and they're handsome, and they played games with you to manipulative your self worth, it's like they've got a magic spell on you you can't escape. This motherfucker was INSANE though- saying he hates labels and also in the same room crying begging asking what he can do to keep you?!? Lmaaaaoo. You needed this insanity to happen or you would have never escaped from his spell. He emotionally tortured you. Thank you next.

When he tries to contact you again just laugh-react that shit and block.

MotherofJackals · 2020-06-27T20:21:51+00:00

Tears were 100% fake. Don't feel bad for 1 second like you broke him down. Real men who have been broken down and realize they are going to lose the best thing they ever had don't cry and beg. They go into action they prove they have changed with actions. They don't show up late and demand details of your personal life. They send you gifts and ask politely to have some of your precious time on your terms not theirs.

skyerippa · 2020-06-27T19:43:51+00:00

You feel like shit because this is exactly what you wanted before hand and you’re getting it now but it’s not even real. If you were blind enough to give in again he would immediately treat you like shit and ghost again because he’s only doing it to “secure” you once again. It hurts really bad people can be that shitty and evil

Comicalacimoc · 2020-06-27T19:09:11+00:00

You are wasting your time even typing this. Move on.

2020-06-27T15:52:36+00:00

Wow, this was a wild ride. Thank you for this well written and in depth look into this situation, and his behavior and your thought processes as they changed over time.

You did the right thing. I'm happy for you

fuckCharDMacDennis2 · 2020-06-27T16:49:17+00:00

I loved reading this. That was a hard lesson to learn, but you did the right thing and I bet you won't hesitate to drop a man in the future. Good for you.

2020-06-27T20:41:46+00:00

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Lavender_flow · 2020-06-27T22:17:36+00:00

Yes this story was a hot mess, but I actually think it was good for you to share with us (Many ladies here can learn from this), but it is also therapeutic for you to write all this down and read it yourself. I like your responses and I think you realized what a mistake this guy was, but I think you learned a lot from this- honestly. We tend to make light of hard situations, as a defense mechanism and I understand why you did it, but this guy sound like he could turn dangerous real quick, so I am glad you are done with him. Stay safe, and this seems to have been quite an experience for you.

onemoredaydream · 2020-06-27T22:32:40+00:00

I think you feel like shit because it is proving to you that this guy was only ever going to give you what you wanted, if you stood up to his treatment of you and told him it was a dealbreaker. That hurts because he's telling you that you being you wasn't good enough. Notice how he only wants you because you told him he can't have you. Maybe it hurts because you're realizing how deceived you were - I know I have had moments where I felt really sad over how bad my judgment had been in the past.

He sounds like a little boy, and you are SO much better off without that entitlement and manipulation in your life.

buttofdog · 2020-06-27T23:28:35+00:00

“What do you want now? I’ll do whatever you want.”
I'm sorry if I sound harsh but he only said it because he was horny, not because he means it.

OrchidLion · 2020-06-27T16:09:01+00:00

I'm sorry your night was ruined. Atleast you got him to beg for you 😏 ive never heard of a 10 begging anyone before, I just assumed they had too many options to care about anything. I'm excited to try out the FDS principles fully and completely myself soon.

Title	After stringing me along in a situationship for three months, fuckboy is now angry and upset I’m dating someone else (LONG, sorry)
Author	MissAustraliana
Upvotes	242
Comments	66
Date	June 27, 2020 11:33 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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