Thought I would share an experience with a scrote several weeks ago and truly wish every woman on this sub would take this as a lesson:

I met a clown on this website and we hit it off after realising we were both from the same geographic location. We moved to Telegram (an app where you can text with just the other person's username). Now unknown to me, this guy has also been actively reading everything that I have been posting on FDS and other subs (since he makes it a point to read every comment and post). You know how this story is about to unfold.

Initially displayed many green flags and I was impressed to say the least, but he insisted I jumped right into a commitment. I told him no, but he was being persistent. Again, I stood my ground and told him that it will take me a while before I can see someone exclusively, and I could tell he was disappointed with my answer.

When we met in person, the date went fairly well, but he again spoke about commitment. After ONE date. Also said, "I am sorry, but I think we should do the opposite of taking things slow, let's just commit to each other?' He violated my boundaries not once, not twice, PLENTY of times.

In the end, he agreed to take things slow, but would love bomb me and send me a multitude of cringey messages and emojis. All within a span of say, a week? I couldn't take it any longer and was blunt and said this wasn't going to work out. He got mad and deleted our conversation and blocked me on Telegram (you can delete a conversation for both ends on that app).

I confided in a friend and she told me it was toxic and that I made the right decision, but some part of me felt guilty for hurting his feelings.

This is on me and I regret it, but I texted him on iMessage asking if we could still be friends. He was hesitant but agreed to be friends and we moved back to Telegram but of course, he love bombs me once again with cringey emojis and messages. When I remind him we are just friends, he gets worked up and pulls the same stunt: deleting our conversation and blocking me.

When he did this once again, I was firm to never approach him again. And I did just that. It was this clown who was returning, bombarding me with essays, hoping I would accept him. Every time he returned, I would say no POLITELY, only for him to return with a new number after a couple of days. Just yesterday, he returns, with another number to text me saying how he messed things up and is truly apologetic and again, I remind him that while I can talk to him as a friend, I would never consider dating him any longer. He accepted it, but guess what the next question was?

"Are you seeing anyone now?" Like how is that any of your business in the first place?

Now back to the Reddit part.

I happened to find a throwaway account that I could immediately link to him (since it was the same subs he was posting on and the same way he talks and texts and the profession he stated in the throwaway was EXACTLY his) and found a comment on a sub that says "went on a date with someone who follows FDS. It was a nightmare." You bet, this guy who was shedding crocodile tears was labelling me as a nightmare on a sub with a throwaway account while begging me to pick him on Telegram every few days. Lol.

The audacity of some men, really.

This is a guy that said both his exes never did anything for his birthdays (which is odd, because how can you not do anything for your significant other?). If it was just one woman who ignored your birthday, I would buy it. If both of them did the same thing, then there's more to the story. This is akin to the "crazy exes" stories that you come across from low-value men which is just not by any standards, believable.

And ladies, that's how I dodged a crazy man. He rushed me to commit to him knowing I have plenty of options, but I was firm and said no every single time be broached the subject on being exclusive. Turns out, I made the right call since this man couldn't even grow a pair to label me as a nightmare on his main Reddit account.

Take all the time you need to vet a man and don't be swooned by the sweet nothings he whispers on the first date or the second. Some men would do anything to not only impress you, but conceal their unwelcoming demeanour. If he keeps violating your boundaries, know it's time to get to know other potential HVMs and drop this LVM like he's hot.

And if you can, do not meet anyone on Reddit. Chances are, they are scanning through every single post of yours on FDS and labelling you as a nightmare using throwaway accounts.