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[–]lvoncreekFDS Newbie66 points67 points68 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ikr!! They talk about boobs and stuff all the time like stupid teenagers but once they get to sex they have no idea what to do
Where is your obsession and expertise now? Lol
[–]Lavender_flowFDS Disciple53 points54 points55 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
it is so sad how bad men are at sex. Beyond horrible really.
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[–]Lavender_flowFDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yeah, the only one who actually really cares during sex is my current partner. I think I enjoyed sex in my pickme days because it was validation and exciting, but honestly the sex was crap with all those guys. EVERY- SINGLE - ONE. My abusive ex starved me for attention and love, so sex was exciting because it was the only time I got it. God, it is so so sad that I used to be like that. I have never had a ons, it has always been with committed partners, but all the other men I have slept with knew NOTHING about sex other than jamming the D in and out. That is it. and then kissing during. I exchanged good sex with my own bad emotions, but now that I know better, sex is just not as appealing at all to me.
Anyone ever had a guy who could give good oral? I have never. My current partner really tries, but it isnt blowing my mind. (but honestly he gives better oral than anyone else, I tried it in the past and hated it, felt like a cow licking your hand with my past partners) like it feels nice, but it doesn't make me even close to orgasm.
In general men dont know shit about sex. The pickme's who enjoy sex with these men, are honestly just brainwashed into getting excited by their own oppression/abuse (just like in porn), a guy choking them, while jackhammering and they think "damn that's good sex". Like sis, it isn't.
[–]cherries975 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sadly that's way too real. Every single man I know jokes about sex constantly and appreciates the wildest females and all that... then when it comes to show all of that confidence in action, its depressing at least. Like, don't talk if you can't walk it
[–]jesza09FDS Apprentice120 points121 points122 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Men are actually clueless and generally cannot tell if a girl is wearing makeup or not and what’s natural or not, they think these women are “natural” beauties and are completely oblivious to what actually goes into creating their looks. I get my brows and nails done, lash extensions, wear makeup and sometimes a spray tan and men are none the wiser, they don’t know that it’s not “natural” lol
[–]Lily_paddFDS Newbie64 points65 points66 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They only see makeup if it is dramatic or badly done, yet at the same time believe that any amount significantly changes face structure. Oh those ever so deceptive black eyelashes! She is a completely different woman under all that spot corrector!
[–]peaka25FDS Newbie114 points115 points116 points 5 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
"Natural" to them = flawless and effortlessly perfect without makeup. The types of guys who claim to want natural girls are the same ones who joke about taking a girl swimming on the first date. They consider makeup to be deceptive and don't want to be 'tricked.' 🙄
[–]acerrimaFDS Newbie150 points151 points152 points 5 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
They want a girl with flawless skin but make fun of her if she spends money, time or effort on make up or skincare
They want a neck to feet hairless girl with long beautiful hair on her head but hate when her showers take more than 15 min
They want a thin girl but get annoyed when she orders a salad
They want a thicc butt but don't want her to spend time at the gym, much less pay for it
They want a woman with nice clothes but ridicule her for going shopping
All the rewards without any of the work.
[–]lvioletsnowFDS Newbie80 points81 points82 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Mhm. Aknowledging their hypocrisy would force them to pay attention to the cost.
They want a high maintainence woman without being obliged to maintain her.
[–]ceilingkatwatchesusFDS Disciple17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿💁🏿♀️
[–]AbundantOverflowFDS Apprentice11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
This also made me stop dating men who wouldn’t give me money if I asked. Have you ever stopped to add up what it costs to simply prepare for a date? Much less ongoing maintenance? It’s so EXPENSIVE to be a well put together polished woman. I refuse any paying for dates, and if I don’t get simple things I ask for, I’m out. I won’t even pay for my own parking. Fuck them. I paid $185 in products and services to get here. You will pay for this valet and like it.
[–]dzgataFDS Disciple4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I feel like men should even pay for the grooming we do. But Idk how to even approach getting them to do it, I feel like I’d just break up if a man doesn’t end up offering to pay for my nails and other stuff on his own. Or take you shopping or randomly send you money without you asking for it. It’s the least they can do. I’ve heard of men buying their gf a car (used If they’re not rich which is fine) and other stuff just to make sure the woman they love is taken care of and doesn’t have to stress out.
[–]cures511FDS Newbie[S] 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
THIS!! I am super high maintenance (proudly). At first guys loveeee me cause I look great but once they actually get to see the amount of work/money required to maintain all of this, they’re like “you’re too much”. I want a simple girl. Nothing against simple low maintenance girls but it’s like you have a type, aesthetically, but you want her to act/behave/have the same getting ready time as a super simple low maintenance girl? And this is not only exclusive to uneducated men, I’ve had doctorates who studied physics get all confused and shocked when I tell them it makes me 4-5 hours to blow out and style my super curly middle eastern 3b hair that’s down to my ass. If I wore my hair naturally, they wouldn’t view me the same way. They wouldn’t lust after me the way they do when I have it fixed and pretty.
[–]peaka25FDS Newbie21 points22 points23 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yep, exactly! They want a girl who eats burgers and fries, but she has to be a size 2. She better be and look perfect, but she can't do any of the things that are necessary to maintain that (or at least not in a way that's visible or apparent to him).
They essentially just want prepackaged low-maintenance dolls who are perfect straight out of the box - no upkeep necessary.
[–]cures511FDS Newbie[S] 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s why these types of men are always single. I have cousins single in their 40’s because all of their 20’s and 30’s they had this mentality and now that they’re 40 and STILL GOING FOR GIRLS IN THEIR 20s, they complain that girls are all ungrateful and using them for money and gold diggers.... um did you expect a 22 year old to be head over heels madly in love with your 43 year old balding ass?? Lolll. The type of young women who go for older men are not quality girls, they don’t have a good foundation. They are clearly OPPORTUNISTS.
[–]heleninthealpsFDS Apprentice43 points44 points45 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I feel the same way about beards.
Let's take them to a radioactive waste barber shop on a first date heuhuhehuhe 🙄
[–]peaka25FDS Newbie20 points21 points22 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ha yes and honestly, beards are worse. They cover up way more than makeup can! You can't hide bone structure with makeup. 😬
[–]Angrboda229FDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I always say if that's their philosophy then I'm bringing measuring tape so "I'm not tricked" either. It can go for the height or their penis idc 🤣 men are so offended when k say that as if they didn't just say the same thing.
[–]Lily_paddFDS Newbie51 points52 points53 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Natural, but only if she is already strikingly beautiful. Ugly girls can gtfo and will be attacked whether they try or not.
[–]AbundantOverflowFDS Apprentice126 points127 points128 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This used to perplex and annoy me. Then I realized that men are much less rational than society would have us believe.
It’s part of the reason I had a come to Jesus with myself about my grooming, fitness, and beauty regimens. I stopped anything I was doing solely for the male gaze. Now I do what I want, what I like, and what makes me feel good. Quarantine has put this front and center since I don’t see anyone as often but I still choose to paint my nails, groom my brows, match my undergarments, and maintain my skin care even if I don’t expect anyone (especially a man) to see it.
If a man enjoys my choices, well, congrats. But I no longer go to lengths to impress them because as the meme implies, they’re too dumb to know the difference most of the time and they generally lack respect for the pain and cost associated with being their definition of appealing.
[–]TheFeministFoxFDS Newbie29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
THIS.
A whole lot of men act as if plastic surgery is the greatest sin a woman could ever commit and treat it as if it's somehow a personal insult directed at THEM and THEM alone - but at the same time, they are sexually attracted the most to women who obviously and unquestionably had plastic surgery (or pose/edit their pictures and videos as if they had had one).
[–]EasymodelifeFDS Newbie22 points23 points24 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lockdown has been a blessing in this respect. Since I started working from home I've been loving the fact that I get to rock the natural look all the time without having to hear a running commentary on my appearance.
I don't mean the "natural" look that men like, involving perfectly blended subtle makeup and fake tan, shaved body hair below the neck, groomed eyebrows and manicures and pedicures in pale colours, to name a few from a long list. I mean the actual natural look, which involves throwing on a T-shirt and comfy sweatpants and doing nothing to maintain my appearance. You know, like men do. Well, actually I still do more than some men because at least I exercise and shower regularly.
It's been absolute bliss and has made me start questioning why I'm wasting my time and money on a lot of this stuff in the first place.
[–][deleted] 39 points40 points41 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
This is extremely relevant. It's a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" kinda struggle if you happen to have the IG baddie look by mere coincidence.
I have always had thick eyebrows and full lips with a super square jawline, it comes with the territory of being Desi. Also super top heavy courtesy of genetics. I started heavy lifting three years ago because I was painfully aware of how disproportionate I looked, and now I have the typical "in style" shape.
Guys will INSIST I have had implants, both in my butt and boobs.
Guys will INSIST I have fake lashes, lip fillers, and jaw augmentation.
Guys will INSIST I'm wearing makeup when I'm really not.
And they're extremely mean and rude about it, to top it off.
So why even bother? Why even try when they're too stupid to know the difference between real and fake, and too insecure to appreciate a woman's beauty--so they just put her down for it? Waste of my damn time smh
[–]HaveNoIdeaWhatToPickFDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This reminds me of one dude that was arguing with me about men never being insecure and jealous towards women. Basically he believed only women can put down other women because of their beauty, since men would always cherish a beautiful woman. What a load of bullshit. I can't count just on one hand how many times an insecure man tried really hard to ruin my day.
[–][deleted] 14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Exactly, it's all BS. Men like to deny ALL responsibility, they act like insane beauty standards for women come from OTHER WOMEN, it's so nuts
[–]Hipster-AuroraFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They're obsessed with blaming women and gay men for the Victoria's secret ideal (which is subjective anyway- the Kardashian look is still very much in). Right, because it's obviously women who are the target audience for those flawlessly toned women in pushup bras and heels with sensual lips and bedroom eyes!
[–]cures511FDS Newbie[S] 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I know SOO many men that are jealous of women.
[–]maya11780FDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There’s a girl I follow on FB that’s very open with her sexuality. She talks about her sex life, posts sexy pictures from time to time, even sells video and pictures.
Sometimes she’ll post screen shots of men commenting their typical misogynistic BS on her posts, yet begging for a piece of pussy in her inbox 😂😂😂
[–]Sea_SoilFDS Apprentice7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep. I guess men don't realize that nude colored make up exists. They think if a girl isn't wearing blue or green eyeshadow with bright red lipstick that she doesn't have make up on. Male lurkers here's somethin fun you can do.
Go on YouTube and search "natural make up tutorial" or "no make up make up" and see how much actually goes into what you think is completely natural.
Usually it's something like
Watched one with my own boyfriend and he was literally shocked Pikachu ,"I didn't know she was even wearing make up!!" It's also not just make up and surgery, it's photo editing too. Everything gets airbrushed and smoothed out. You can also go to any plastic surgery sub or video and see how natural the results are. Procedures like rhinoplasty and breast augmentation are incredibly common... Little things like fillers, canthoplastys, brow lifts are too, and they are subtle.
[–]placemat24FDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Stuff like this is the reason why I don't date men who use apps like instagram and snapchat.
[–]hanjaporfavorFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh look my ex in a picture 🤡🤡
On another note, yes always received good feedback on the pictures I take I just think that social media is a bit saturated with pretty people. Should I start taking 🔥 selfies and blow up my insta too? 🤔
[–]AbundantOverflowFDS Apprentice1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have just asked for money and gotten it. Sometimes I say what it’s for and sometimes not. But I agree that they should periodically volunteer just because.
[+]mimkadinkaFDS Newbie-14 points-13 points-12 points 5 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
my boyfriend always says he prefers natural girls but his ~spank bank~ material of choice is instagram models.
sometimes i don't care because people are allowed to be turned on by whatever, and because i assume it has to do with "biological" and "primitive" instincts kicking in. like i assume having that visual when you're alone is way different than having sex with a real woman with whom you feel a connection, but if it turns into an addition that affects their ability/desire to have sex with a real woman, that's definitely when they have a huge issue.
other times i just don't fucking get it and get annoyed because why don't you look at more natural/real looking women then. also because i feel like it has a lot to do with social media saturating everybody with these unrealistic expectations of women.
[–]sweetpotatocupcakeFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You gotta read the handbook girl.
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