Assuming you have met him before IRL and he's not someone you matched with on OLD (ie there are not big safety concerns), is it always a red flag or unacceptable if a man is able to pick you up for the date but does not offer?

Recently a man (we have been acqunatices for 2.5 years) told me the location of the date (on the same day as the date! He claimed it was a "suprise") and I asked him, "Are you picking me up or are we meeting there?" He replied, "I'm going to go new-school and say I'll meet you there."

I was considering just cancelling altogether since he had already postponed the date by a day and was not working that day so I didn't see why he couldn't have time to fetch me, the only thing was I was unsure if he had a car or would be taking an Uber since he is moving back here from another city and doesn't have his car with him yet. However it turns out he drove his parents car (note: he owns his own car but it is temporarily in another city) so as far as I can tell the only reason he didn't pick me up was laziness. The only other "excuse" would be that he wanted the beach picnic to be a suprise since I arrived with it all already set up, but I would have much preferred to have been fetched and it would not have taken him long to set it up. How would you ladies have handled the situation? Do you cancel? Do you tell him he must pick you up? If he does not offer I usually prefer to ask in order to test him.

There is also more context to this date story and why he postponed it but it's not very relevant to whether or not he fetched me. He made a nice beach picnic, did not try to touch me and gave me a bunch of expensive roses but I still can't look past him not picking me up, especially since it was a bit of a drive and I was tired after work and he hadn't worked that day. Towards the end of the date I did mention I had been unimpressed with not knowing the exact location and time in advance.