'bar too high' or 'basic kindness'?

Orphanedpinkpetals · 2020-08-27T13:45:26+00:00

Bar isn't too high. This def isnt basic kindness, either. don't even think most moms or bffs would do this come on now

keul_keul · 2020-08-27T14:14:56+00:00

I did this to my bff lol - it's not basic kindness but it is the sort of affection you should have in a relationship

Equipoisonous · 2020-08-27T13:10:10+00:00

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prettyexcitingnews · 2020-08-27T18:07:55+00:00

I remember this guy who refused to hold my bag cos the bag is too feminine to carry 🤪

adertina · 2020-08-27T15:36:30+00:00

despite my issues with my ex, she always brought tennis shoes when i wore heels when I forgot to and always had like extra sweaters, facial wipes, sanitizer and tissues on hand. What’s sad is this is a woman who literally could care less abt me and my feelings which is why I’m single and she still had like basics on hand for anyone, i feel lesbians should teach men ground level human decency ffs this is pathetic

jelilikins · 2020-08-27T14:56:33+00:00

I think it's really nice - he's even carrying her shoes for her. Surprised at some of the naysaying!

Elegant-Stop · 2020-08-27T14:25:38+00:00

Better than nothing but I’d rather date a guy who calls us an Uber when my feet hurt instead

Buckley92 · 2020-08-27T15:15:22+00:00

I'd be concerned about him getting his feet cut with glass or a used needle or getting a bee sting or spider bite. Even stepping on a stray rusty nail could require a tetanus shot. Also, if he's taking you shopping, a lot of places have long-standing 'no shirt, no shoes, no service' policies, so you'd probably get turned away from lots of places.

PottyMouthx · 2020-08-27T16:40:58+00:00

I don't think it's basic kindness to give our shoes to someone who (probably knowingly) wore uncomfortable ones.

But hey, whatever works for you ;)

Whateverbabe2 · 2020-08-27T23:07:15+00:00

This definitely surpasses basic kindness. I would not do this for a random person (basic kindness) only for friends that I am close to and family.

moon-drag0n · 2020-08-28T07:06:38+00:00

Yes this a kind gesture, not many men would do this.

But, just by judging from the picture (because that's all information we have), the shoes in his hand they don't seem to be broken; she chose to wear those uncomfortable shoes. He probably even said to her when she put them on "Honey didn't you say those shoes make your feet hurt?" "Nah it will be fine." (I know because I have had this exact same conversation with my bf).
Now he has to walk barefoot in a city just because she couldn't make a better decision on what shoe to wear.

laughingatsalad · 2020-08-27T14:15:59+00:00

Depends on the weather/temperature

idiopathictendencies · 2020-08-27T16:37:12+00:00

Basic kindness. My BF did the same for me one night.

rosyrosess · 2020-08-27T21:59:44+00:00

He could wear the heels

FabulousGrand · 2020-08-27T22:55:27+00:00

Really wish I hadn't seen this post on MGTOW and read the comments over there...

Noemie_Mathilde · 2020-08-28T06:44:33+00:00

I think it's basic kindness from a man you're dating. I have had men do this for me and always appreciated it.

wavesandtea · 2020-08-28T10:03:12+00:00

Wow I got punched with reality just seeing this. This LV husband of mines would probably say “why did you even wear them, can you walk faster?” And keep walking. Jerk.

ntlvit2f8 · 2020-08-27T12:54:49+00:00

Basic kindness for sure.

carachu · 2020-08-27T18:18:15+00:00

My ex man used to do this for me, it seems like a basic thing if you care about someone and their feet kill. Ive done it for friends before

posprov · 2020-08-27T12:58:46+00:00

An expectation

adertina · 2020-08-27T15:24:08+00:00

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kittypoison · 2020-08-27T22:41:52+00:00

I would do this for my sibling or close friend. Most men just aren't compassionate

Pudding5050 · 2020-08-27T14:07:40+00:00

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Title	'bar too high' or 'basic kindness'?
Author	ishika_23
Upvotes	392
Comments	49
Date	August 27, 2020 12:52 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ihkh3b/bar_too_high_or_basic_kindness/
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