My SO of 10 years keeps “dropping hints” that he’s lonely. I am a teacher and I’m working from home (full time) while our son does school from home (full time). I brought up that that there are some days that he doesn’t even ask how mine or our son’s day was. I get so tired after the day is over (this isn’t new, I usually come home and nap after school... teaching is exhausting).

He also said that he is a caregiver - which isn’t wrong, he does a lot. I’ve had dx of disability since I was 14 (spinal/hip issues) but recently was dx with seronegative RA after seeing hand and foot symptoms in summer 2019 and extreme fatigue in 2018. However I have always maintained that I do not want to be a burden - thats not a relationship. No one should stay out of duty. We’ve had mutual friends in similar situations and they’ve seemed unhappy, so we’ve had these conversations.

He told me that I “used to be more active”. Before RA? Before medication? Yeah, this shit sucks. I’m upset too.

He told me I “can’t be mad if he turns to porn.” I told him to do what he wants. But seriously? What the fuck?

I take Plaquenil and also started methotrexate (both immunosuppressants, MTX is a low-dose chemotherapy drug) very recently and it’s been wiping me out. Extra fatigue, diarrhea, queasiness.

I’m mad as hell and this is making me want to end the relationship. I’m tired of being made to feel useless.