During this time...

funky_worms · 2020-03-19T12:28:02+00:00

Imma keep holding out on texting but damn its hard. Thanks for sharing

Sage_Planter · 2020-03-19T13:00:49+00:00

I don't have this urge at at.

I'd much rather speak to the brilliant and wonderful people in my present than anyone disappointing from my past.

siberiansummer · 2020-03-19T13:40:14+00:00

Talk to your friends for gods sake. Or even to us over here at FDS

Warrior-Kai · 2020-03-19T14:25:36+00:00

So true for me. I tend towards “doormat” behavior under the guise of kindness.

I keep telling myself — he is not my responsibility now. It is not my job to “take care” of a grown ass man.

byeclown · 2020-03-19T15:20:28+00:00

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LadyGrimes · 2020-03-19T15:55:45+00:00

What urge? I feel nothing for them. If the virus gets them oh well.

FancyHoney01 · 2020-03-19T16:07:27+00:00

They are reaching out to me! Further evidence that you must delete and block. They keep trying to contact HVW because, guess what? We are HIGH VALUE especially in times like these. Values and Integrity are most important when the world spins crazily and people become fearful. HVW exemplify this.

cirrus_cloud · 2020-03-19T14:51:04+00:00

Would much rather seek support from you ladies than any scrote from my past during these trying times!

LadyGrimes · 2020-03-19T15:57:15+00:00

Ya'll should use this sub so you don't feel alone or the need to contact LVM.

2020-03-19T17:47:13+00:00

So much yes. I "broke up" with my best friend (M), I was living with because he did a 180 on me. Turns out I don't know who he is at all. We also dated for a min and have a cat together.... The loss is real, though. I moved states 2 weeks ago, (with the kitty), was looking forward to meeting new people, joining meetups and groups with similar interests, etc, then this whole thing hit. I have more time to sit and think. It sucks, but he hasn't reached out at all to see how I am, so I blocked him. He's not worth all my extra time. I'd rather let the feelings come up so I can worth through them, alone, than let him back in.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-03-19T15:53:09+00:00

Imagine getting quarantined with your ex. The thought absolutely disgusts me.

journey1992 · 2020-03-19T16:34:10+00:00

Amen sister

watershipdowners · 2020-03-19T18:26:07+00:00

Levelling up means banishing these thoughts or urges as it's wasted energy. Blocked and deleted for a reason and should mean we are unable to act upon them. If you really have the urge here's a message to copy and paste... 'dear ex, I am contacting you in these troubles times as I really hope you get the virus and it causes you as much pain as you caused me in the past, I wish you not well'... Don't worry (that was a sarcastic joke I wish no harm) as we won't be sending it as their numbers are deleted and we no longer care for them, just ourselves, right ladies?!

holobunni · 2020-03-19T19:19:20+00:00

I needed to see this! I was definitely thinking about reaching out to my ex husband to check on our dogs that he kept and while I do still wonder about them and hope they’re well...I do not want to talk to him. I know he’s decent enough of a human to take care of them and there’s nothing more I can do for them at this moment in my life so imma keep moving forward.

Mangacomleite · 2020-03-19T18:58:05+00:00

Thank you for stopping me from texting my ex.

colourwayss · 2020-03-19T15:30:51+00:00

I’ve been so tempted to get back on tinder just bc being socially isolated and not being able to go sit in coffee shops where there are attractive strangers is really difficult, but fortunately I’ve not given in yet. Thanks for the reminder.

latsyrhc · 2020-03-19T18:39:07+00:00

Yep, definitely got a text from an ex checking in. Wish you cared that much when we were actually together. He was left on read. Suffer, fool.

yazzy_1 · 2020-03-19T18:14:59+00:00

100% needed this. Thank you for the reminder.

BabyGotBantz · 2020-03-19T19:47:25+00:00

It’s not a terrifying time. Just stay quarantined order your groceries in advance. Sanitize and wash your hands frequently. Paint your nails and watch Netflix. Do an online class. Spend time with your pets. Read. Craft. Clean your house. Do your makeup. Watch Youtube. Take long baths. Learn to do something new. You’ll be fine... everything will go back to normal in a few weeks or a few months and you’ll regret talking to people you shouldn’t have when you realize that.

HoneyNJ2000 · 2020-03-19T14:39:40+00:00

I don't feel ANY urge to talk to those from my past due to the current Apocalypse.

Is this really a thing?

binahbabe · 2020-03-19T19:46:01+00:00

Oops, lol. Dammit! Wish I had seen this a second ago

2020-03-19T20:14:40+00:00

I’ve had so many guys from the past hitting me up in the last couple days, I definitely didn’t know this was a thing.

muchachaganj · 2020-03-19T20:17:06+00:00

Preach I’m still holding out

Allordrien · 2020-03-20T03:23:02+00:00

Damn it. I needed to see this yesterday. Back on track!

ThatGirl60 · 2020-03-20T03:51:24+00:00

I needed this I’m literally going stir crazy

laylamiller · 2020-03-19T20:50:28+00:00

I have this urge but only to fuck with the person. I'm petty and peeped his narcissistic BS from the beginning and despite us not talking for months, it's funny to see how quickly he responds. I do it randomly every couple of months and he falls for it each time. I called him just to see if he'd pick up and he did and I literally just put the phone next to the tv while I did some work online. It took him 5 minutes to hang up the phone. Maybe he realised he was listening to Law and Order SVU.

I'm gonna get bored in like six months and do it again.

BlueberryOrchid95 · 2020-03-19T16:31:20+00:00

Ooop that was me lol

Title	During this time...
Author	diekdoe
Upvotes	1168
Comments	49
Date	March 19, 2020 11:29 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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