Hi ladies

Today I went on a date with someone from OLD (yes I know! I feel like a 🤡) I’ve only been on the app a month and he was my first date with someone from OLD. He is local and I thought he looked and seemed nice so I went for it when he asked me out.

I wish I hadn’t bothered.

The first red flag 🚩 is that he pushed the time of the date back by 30 mins with just a few hours’ notice. When we eventually met outside the pub that HE chose, it turned out that he did not make a reservation even though he said he would 🚩 🚩

It meant we had to sit on a public bench outside the pub on the riverside. Sounds lovely and quaint but it was surrounded by flies buzzing around and a massive hole in the pavement behind the bench where builders had been digging. There were builders’ barriers erected and everything. It wasn’t pleasant, and I felt like a fool sitting there on a date.

It has been pretty hot in the UK recently but it started to rain loads. I got wet after I had spent the whole day getting ready for the date.

He turned up in an okay outfit but with sunburn and severe acne all over his nose (he didn’t have that in his photos and he’s nearly 40). I wouldn’t mind so much about acne normally — but the low-effort of the actual date made me so annoyed that he thought it was ok to turn up like that.

I feel like such a 🤡 for going through all the effort of looking nice but then ending up horribly disappointed by the end of the date. He didn’t even bother asking me questions that mattered, and he just looked like he couldn’t be arsed about me.

By the time the rain got too heavy, he asked me what my plans were now and I said that I’d better be heading back home. The date lasted one hour.

I feel disappointed that he could not plan a proper date, and that I even accepted it in the first place.

I know that it’s FDS rules not to use OLD, and now I see why. I was just a number to him. Even though he asked me on a date with five days notice, he couldn’t even be bothered to plan it properly.

The conversation was dry. He turned out to be quite sheltered and boring. He didn’t know the most basic things about his home country and seemed quite detached from his heritage. He also dropped into the convo about a relationship being about “getting on the property ladder together” but he seemed shocked when I mentioned how important my pension is to me. Shows he’s looking for a Barbara the Builder. Not gonna be meeee.

Now I know that FDS rules are there to protect us from low effort shit like this. I feel mainly angry and upset with myself

I think I’m going to delete the OLD app as I don’t think I can go through this low effort shit again.